Hi Vadim,
I understand that you would like to analyze the power radiated into a certain set of directions both for the total field and for the initial field.
But then you also mention the concept of an aperture. So I guess what you are actually interested in is the power radiated through some surface (maybe the entrance of some measurement equipment) at large but finite distance. Right?
I don't really understand why the thing you are trying to compute is called "absorbance". I think "extinction" is a more suitable term because it includes the absorbed power but also the power that is scattered into different directions than into the aperture.
If I got everything right, what I would recommend is to use the near field rather than the far field to compute the power flux. You can specify a set of positions in space (that represent the aperture surface) and then evaluate the electric and magnetic field vectors at these positions and finally compute the Poynting flux through the surface by numerical integration. I think that Dominik Theobald has done similar things in the past. Unfortunately, it might take longer simulation time because the near field is more heavy to compute than the far field. An NVIDIA gpu (can be a cheap one) can accelerate things a bit.
The thing with the far field intensity approach that you followed is that a plane wave is actually a quite complicated thing when it comes to far field intensity. In fact, a plane wave is an idealization of a beam that is infinitely wide with regard to its lateral extent and infinitely narrow when it comes to the spread in propagation direction. In other words, its plane wave spectrum is a delta-function. To see this, you can verify that if you insert a delta-function for the plane wave spectrum g in equation (2.18) of my dissertation, the result is a single plane wave.
As a consequence, the far field intensity in terms of "radiated power per solid angle" is not defined for a plane wave. The power radiated by a plane wave into a small solid angle interval is zero into almost all directions and infinite for that one direction that is along the k-vector of the plane wave.
This is why the concept of scattering or absorption cross sections need to be introduced when we talk about far field quantities in the context of plane wave excitation. They allow to relate the scattered field (which has a finite, continuous plane wave spectrum) to a plane wave (which has a delta-function plane wave spectrum).
An additional consequence is the following: If you want to model the power flux through an aperture in space
for a field with continuous plane wave spectrum, you can assume that if the aperture is far away from the origin of radiation, the power radiated through the aperture is just the corresponding angular part of the far field intensity, i.e., you would integrate the far field intensity over all angles under which the aperture appears to the origin of radiation (for a proof of that assumption, one could use the stationary phase approximation that relates the electromagnetic field at some location far away from the source to the amplitude of the plane wave spectrum of the field at the direction that points to that location). However, if you have a single plane wave, this approach cannot be applied anymore: As the plane wave's lateral extent is infinite, the power passing some aperture (even if far away) is given by the aperture area times the power-per-area of the plane wave.
Does this make sense to you? Please don't hesitate to write back if something is unclear or if I have misunderstood your question.
Best regards, Amos