I guess if one really needs to use the curvillinear forms much one will end up learning them naturally anyway, so not much point in memorising them.
If anyone wants to see vector calculus done rigorously (via Cartan's theory of differential forms) without having to learn differential geometry, I highly recommend the concise treatment in Rudin's Principles of Mathematical Analysis, which devotes a chapter to this subject. The (2<->3 dimensional) divergence theorem and the (1<->2 dimensional) Stokes theorem turn out to just be particular cases of the general Stoke's theorem which relates integrals between d and d+1 smooth (or more generally, C^2) manifolds. I think it generalises to more general manifolds but I've never had a need to learn integration on manifolds.
Perhaps surprisingly, the development of the machinery of differential forms and the proof of the generalised Stokes' theorem (for C^2 manifolds at least) is actually quite straightforward once one has decided on the correct definitions. The most difficult point is the proof of the change of variables formula for integration (ie. integration by substitution), which is actually quite non-trivial and wasn't rigorously proved until the early 1800s.
Incidentally, the result that a vector field is curl free/irrotational (see section 1.6.2 of Griffiths) if and only if it is a gradient of a potential (eg. gravitational, electrostatic), and the result that a vector field is divergence free/solenoidal if and only if it is a curl of a certain vector field (eg. the stream function for an incompressible fluid) are both special cases of a more general theorem which are also proved in the above text. Though not the most general condition, this theorem holds in particular for R^3, spheres, cubes, plus importantly, all domains smoothly (or C^2) diffeomorphic to these. This covers most conceivable possibilities.
A result from this chapter that I did not previously know of is the Helmholtz theorem which loosely states that a vector field is uniquely determined by its divergence and curl assuming that it tends to zero as we move away to infinity (which is a reasonable assumption for electric/magnetic fields). Note that this assumption is indeed necessary, as there exist non-trivial fields with both zero divergence and curl (but these don't tend to zero towards infinity). In fact, we can find a formula recovering the field from its divergence and curl, which is given and proved in Appendix B. . For this result we need to assume that the divergence and curl divided by r^2 tend to zero as r tends to infinity, ie, are of order o(r^2). Typically I think we'd expect the electric/magnetic vector field strength to be roughly proportional to 1/r^2 at large distances from the charged/magnetised bodies I think, so the curl and divergence should be of order O(r^3), so it should be reasonable to assume this condition. It seems that this can be generalised to the more general Hodge decomposition for differential forms but I do not know the details.