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"A historical highlight – original vaccination documents of your father’s family when on the ship, “Philadephia,” which sailed from Hamburg to Ellis Island, dated May 18th, 1913. I discovered that our family name was not Smith, but Shumilinski, and that Grandpa’s Russian name was Alec, not Alfred. While we’re on names, your English name, Cynthia Doris, was derived from your Yiddish name Shaynah Devorah (I found your ketuba), though you used the Hebrew translation, Yaffa, and my father’s last name was Milowitz not Miller. Spinning forward 50 years, there are photos of your travelling American Wind Concert Band in Europe in the 1980s, copies of every program you played in and conducted from 1948 – 1978, a picture of the Albany Symphony Orchestra in which you played flute. At least 10 8-millimeter family films from the 1950s, along with the projector discovered around 2 a.m., which I dared to plug in — it lit up and I didn’t blow up the house! I am finally sitting quietly after 30 days of being completely absorbed in honoring your life in the most physical sense.
Running on a few hours of sleep a night, I nevertheless found comfort in attending a daily minyan, a 30-minute drive from your home at 6:40 a.m. to say Kaddish – the mourner’s prayer. I lined up good people to help me sell your home, and to sell and donate your many belongings. As an aside, I even managed to invite a few of your remaining friends over to the house for brunch on the occasion of your shloshim."