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Rosaura Woolf
Tarra Bates-Duford PhD, LMFT, CRS, CMFSW, BCPC has more than 15 years in the field of mental health, relationships, and behavioral sciences. Her PhD in forensic Psychology specializing in familial dysfunction and traumatic experience allows her to work with individuals and families struggling with familial dysfunction, trauma, and sexual abuse and assault. She also has a masters in Marriage, Couples, & Family therapy. She is a certified relationship specialist with American Psychotherapy Association.
Everyone tells a lie at some point or other in their life, no one is perfect. There is no one reason why someone might tell a lie as he/she might tell a lie to escape an uncomfortable situation, shame, guilt, cover up something that occurred, spare someone elses feelings, or in an attempt to hide or mislead. Generational lies can be particularly distressing for family members as the lie may have been told and maintained over several generations making it hard to trust other family members and get to the truth. Every person and every family have their own secrets; however, the content and significance of the secret varies.
One thing that is typically true of all lies involves intent, purpose, and lack of notification of the other party or group. In other words, liars make a conscious choice to provide misleading information and fabricate the truth. He or she hides the correct information from others allowing deception to occur. Although, we often hear a lie is a lie, some lies are more harmful than others. Some people lie to spare the feelings of others, for example, if you are asked if the meal tastes good and the individual is waiting excitedly for your response you may agree the meal tastes good when it does not. This type of lie is done to avoid hurting other persons feelings. However, there are other lies that can create harm, leading to distress. These types of lies can include making false reports, denying something occurred, or creating a fabrication that isnt based on anything real.
Telling a lie is not the worst part of lying, it is maintenance of the lie, telling another lie to support the first and convincing others including ourselves that the lie is the truth. By telling lie after lie, we eventually suffer from building a false version of reality that increasingly distances us from our real selves. Lies can also be damaging if we pretend something didnt occur or is not occurring. This type of lie can be damaging for several reasons, such as, it creates confusion for others, he/she she begins to question what they believe they saw, heard, or felt. For individuals that are lied to in this particular situation self-doubt can quickly become an ongoing theme in their life. If deception is allowed to continue without correction, rather they are maintained, than harmful family legacies can develop.
Harmful family legacies consist of a pattern of hurtful, painful and/or damaging behaviors that have been passed down from one generation to the next through a process called modeling. When adults or caregivers repeatedly interact in a family system in an unhealthy way, they are imprinting this behavior on their children. Many children that have been exposed to a harmful or toxic environment often repeat or mimic the behaviors in adulthood, in their own personal relationships. Interestingly, some adults raised in a harmful environment that do not repeat the toxic behaviors of their caregivers will often marry someone that may share some or most of the toxic characteristics of their childhood caregivers.
Traumatic, painful, or life-changing secrets and lies can potentially damage an entire familys mental health and well-being for generations. The most frequently kept secrets within a family include, but are not limited to, finances, serious physical and mental health conditions, infidelities, incest and other abuses, addictions, and parentage. While maintaining privacy from the outside world is important, maintaining deception within the context of the family can create distrust within the family, often, turning family member against family member. Distrust within our families can negatively color how we perceive the word around us, making up more suspicious of the intentions of others.
Secrets within the Family can lead to the following challenges: Distrust within the family Inability to bond or maintain relationships Can destroy a relationship Can impact how we see ourselves and our place in the world Lead to self-doubt and a second guessing of what we feel we saw, heard, or felt. Lead to feelings of resentment Create a false sense of reality Lead to incomplete inventory of self and family Increased anxiety The need to provide false or misleading information Tell additional lies to maintain and secure the secret Somatic issues On going generational pass down of lies and secrets Lead to distorted or fabricated family history Discovery
By maintaining, thus, reinforcing the lie for more than 15 years family members participated in multiple lies and deception to support the initial lie. Some family members were aware of the lie, others suspected there was a lie, but there was an unspoken agreement to never discuss or acknowledge the infidelity that led to the childs birth. Although, Infidelity is never an easy topic to discuss, as children become adolescents and move closer to adulthood, it is important to have conversations surrounding issues that are pertinent to his/her well-being. It is also important to break negative family legacies and promote healthy functioning. Remember, behaviors that are modeled are often repeated. Therefore, as responsible adults we want to model behaviors that encourage informed decision making, endless opportunities for children, and healthy functioning.
I was told growing up that we were related to Samuel Clemens aka Mark Twain. My maternal grandmother was a Celmens and it had been passed down over the years that we were direct descendants of him. It took all of about 5 minutes of research to disprove that one. No way I'm a direct descendant. It took about another 10 minutes to prove that there isn't even any family connection, at least going back to the early 1600's. Samuel Clemens family was already in Massachusetts when my Clemens relatives immigrated to Maine. The funny thing about this one is that I had made contact with some distant 3rd cousins and they were told the same thing... so the lore goes back 4 generations to the time with Mark Twain was still alive. "Hey, we've got the same name... we must be related"
Another one was the belief that we were related to Elliot Ness of The Untouchables, the famous FBI agent that took down Al Capone. We were also told that that we were related to him by marriage. I trace every line I could to every one of his wives and couldn't find anything that would link the families together. I was able to trace my great grandmother's sisters second husband to having come from the Chicago area at about the same time one of Elliot Ness's wife lived there, but that's as close as I could get. While there may be some sort of relationship there, its so far distant, its not even worth talking about.
My grand lie of them all, however, is on my wife's side of her family. She was raised with a very strong Irish-Italian herritage. Her father was certainly Italian, he was the first of his 3 siblings born in the United States. Her mother was raised Irish and they celebrated their heritage quite strongly. Her mother's name is a very common Irish last name, her grandfather played football at Notre Dame and won a National Championship under Knute Rockne. Irish to the bone.
In doing my research, however, things weren't lining up. This Irish heritage kept tracing back to a small coal mining community in West Virginia with the family being listed as German. At Thanksgiving, I brought it up to my mother in law and her brother and both of them were quite insistant that they were Irish. I showed them the documentation I had and they were both confused. My mother in law had contact information for a couple of her 2nd cousins from that side of the family and she got it touch with them. "We are Irish, right?" and the exact response was "LOL, oh no, not at all. We're German" Well, at little bit more digging discovered the truth. The family had a different surname that was similar but much more German sounding. They were coal miners from West Virginia. When WWI struck up, they were faced with a lot of predjudice for their German herritage (may have even been German sympathizers). So, to avoid the predjuice, they packed up the family, moved 400 miles away, changed the spelling of their name to sound more Irish and told changed their heritage to Irish.
This was a very long read but I wish it could have been longer. IT'S ONE OF THE BEST FANTASY BOOKS I'VE READ TO DATE! I love how it didn't focus only on Sebastian and Turren's relationship while the rest of the characters just blended in with their story. No! For me, this is a story of family and how blood will always be thicker than water no matter what. And my, Sebastian's family is a circus! Literally. Seriously, every character had their own personality which I find very endearing. Although I enjoyed immensely Sebastian and Turren's push/pull relationship -- how they started as enemies and worked their way towards a promising love story -- I cherished more the familial bickering in the Orwell household. The characters are very colorful which added to the entertainment value. The conversations were very witty and intellectual. Not overdone but just right. Same with the world they live in: it was not blown out of proportions, turning it into a Michael Bay spectacle. No siree! I was fully engrossed and enamored. From the moment I read the prologue, I knew that this is going to be epic. Sebastian can be a handful, but I love him to pieces. With themes of true love and family (which I cradle dearly), this book is a sure addition to my favorites shelf. Sam Argent, you have me hooked under your literary wizardry.
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