Introduction to Sexual Fetishes; Shoe Fetish & Boot Fetish Anyone?
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A Little Background
A fetish is a profound erotic desire for something; it could be a
shoe, a boot, a breast or a material (nylon, leather, etc.). One could
also have a fetish for an activity, such as watching, being watched,
spanking or being spanked. Whatever the fetish object, the fetishist
invests in it great power, sometimes great sexual power, sometimes
great religious power, sometimes both.
In the classic sense, the sexual fetishist needs the fetish object -
or at least, some kind of fantasy of the fetish object - in order to
have sex. Psychologists call this a "paraphilia." The male needs the
fetish object to get an erection. For the female, sexual arousal and
fetishism exist but are always a little more mysterious and difficult
to pinpoint. Let's just say the female fetishist needs the fetish
object to enjoy sex, e.g. wearing or enjoying the look, touch and the
feel of high heels or stiletto boots before and perhaps during sex
encounters.
Fetishism is diagnosable as a psychosexual disorder, but only if the
fetish excludes all other aspects of social life or causes significant
distress for the person or has detrimental effects on other important
areas of their life. Many people enjoy their fetish and choose to
embrace their fetish and find ways to incorporate them into their life
rather than seek treatment to attempt to be rid of them.
In a review of the files of all cases over a 20-year period which met
criteria for non-transvestic fetishes in a teaching hospital, 48 cases
were identified, and the objects of their fetishes included clothing
(58.3%), footwear and leather (25%), rubber and rubber items (22.9%),
body parts (14.6%), and soft materials and fabrics (6.3%). ( No data
resource was provided )
Fetish Types
Essentially, there are four types of fetishes:
• Body Part Fetishists worship parts of the human body, like feet,
breasts, buns, legs, hair, lips, bellybuttons, fingernails, sperm or
female ejaculate. This if course is so much harder to detect because
the fetishist may enjoy the body part on a partner and the partner may
not be aware of the intense focus. Example; A lot of men and women
have an over fascination for breasts. Is it a fetish? I think so.
• Object Fetishists prefer to be intimate mostly with their inanimate
fetish objects. Unlike body parts, the objects can arouse them and be
used for a sexual event. They may be shoes or boots that are used and
well worn by a particular individual but they excite the fetishist
even if they are not attached to actual human beings. For some
standing in a closet surrounded by shoes and boots of their desire can
be enough to arouse them. Although some fetish behavior in the
fetishists mind may be considered to replace masturbation in their
mind it is not masturbation but an intense sexual encounter. Of
course in the extreme some fetishist are not social at all and choose
to avoid any contact with partners avoiding the feelings and
personalities that could get in the way of the fetishist's intense
erotic adoration and enjoyment. Some common fetish objects include
high heels, sexy heeled boots, nylon stockings, pantyhose, panties,
bras, leather, rubber, latex, fur (real or fake), and even collars and
hats.
• Action Fetishists love to make things happen. The voyeurs who
fetishize watching are called "action fetishists," as are the
exhibitionists who fetishize being watched.
• Finally, there are the Feeling or Conceptual Fetishists. Their
feelings tend to be more socially acceptable. At least, they don’t get
caught hoarding shoes. But they are potentially just as compulsive.
Adrenaline Junkies fetishize danger. Hopeless Romantics fetishize
love. Drama Queens fetishize suffering. Terrorists fetishize violence.
Fascists fetishize power. Wasn't it Henry Kissinger who said "Power is
the greatest aphrodisiac"?
Fetish gratification can be undertaken alone or with a partner, or
even in a group situation. However, fetishism has traditionally been
associated with a certain degree of furtiveness, and indeed many
people with a fetish are very secretive or even repressed, and are
afraid of indulging their fetish fantasies or behavior with others.
This is one of the major reasons why fetishists habitually undertake
their sexual satisfaction by themselves. However, today there are
many internet web sites that focus on fetish behavior and as these
increase fetish behavior is now in the open and many are finding it
much more common an indulgence than thought. Some research has
suggested that the population of men that indulge in varieties of
interesting, if not fetishistic ways to get aroused, could include
very high indeed. Many men, who may or may not be considered
fetishists, get excited and aroused seeing a beautiful woman in close
fitting designer knee high black leather stiletto high heeled zippered
fashion boots made out of the finest and softest Italian leathers in
the world.
Fetishists may interact with their fetish object in any number of
ways. For example the shoe fetishist may obtain sexual pleasure by
wearing them, looking them, smelling, licking, and touching them.
However many allow themselves to get lost in romantic rapture and deep
kiss and make love to the inner or outer surfaces of one shoe at an
intense level similar to the heightened arousal and kissing of a
partner during a sexual encounter. Then take the other shoe and may
touch themselves but more than likely will use a little sexual
lubricant and climb right on top and penetrate inside the second shoe
fully culminating and completing a sexual intercourse encounter. Some
may be aroused by their partner wearing a shoe or by using it to bring
a partner to orgasm, many shoe fetishists collect the item or fetish
art or film that features their fetish. Fetishists may fantasize
about the object of their desire, dream about it and then make love to
or with it.
A Few Examples
Shoe Fetish
A fetish that is almost as common as the foot fetish is that for shoes
(usually stilettos or other kinds of high-heels) or for boots. It has
been argued that many modern Western women have a fetish for shoes
that may or may not have anything to do with sex! However many may
have an underlying interest that may fit well with their male shoe
fetish counterpart who would support and use their shoe indulgences to
mutual advantage.
A woman with a true sexual shoe fetish may also derive intense
pleasure from wearing beautiful shoes or collecting them, but they
will also involve them in some kind of sexual context.
Many shoe fetishists (and most of them are men) start in their teens
by becoming sexually aroused at the sight of female relatives -
usually their mother or sisters - wearing sexy, feminine clothing
including high heeled shoes. As there is an immensely strong taboo
against sexual thoughts or behavior with your family members, the shoe
fetishist quickly fixes his attention on the shoes, rather than the
woman wearing them.
Male shoe fetishists often have absolutely no need of a female partner
to become sexually stimulated. The presence of the shoes are
sufficient for arousal and gratification; the sight, taste, smell and
shape and feel of a shoe is enough to bring some shoe fetishists to
climax, whereas others gain an intense release from rubbing their
erect penis against the outside of a shoe, or more often they learn
how to penetrate inside the shoe until they achieve orgasm. Some
fetishists, that also have partners they are active with claim having
sex with a well designed soft leather lined shoe or boot with a little
lubricant can be a great alternative if your partner is less active
and to them the penetration with the right shoe can feel almost the
same as intercourse with a woman. They claim the this is one of the
least talked about aspects and except for fetishists one of the
incredible secrets of their fetish.
Some men who have a shoe fetish may also have a foot and leg fetish
and enjoy having sex with women who wear beautiful shoes, or may at
some point after their partner is satisfied engage directly with the
shoes, they may fondle, kiss, smell or lick the shoes on her feet
gazing admiringly upon them while she masturbates him to ejaculation.
Some with an open minded partner may get aroused by the shoes and then
their partner may take them off and use the shoes to bring him to
climax.
Some men derive their sensual pleasure from wearing women's shoes
themselves, and today there are plenty of high quality women's shoes
and boots in men's sizes are available to cater for those tastes.
Even Jimmy Choo’s knee high black leather zippered three inch heeled
Peony boot can be bought in size 43 (womens U.S. +/-12) which could
easily fit many men. Stuart Weitzman also makes a size 12. There is
also a French boot maker, Jean Gaborit, who makes very nice looking
erotic thigh high quality women’s boots in sizes that go far beyond
43.
Foot Fetish
One of the most common fetishes is for the human foot. Foot fetishism
(sometimes referred to as Foot Worship) may be expressed by taking the
role of either the 'top' or the 'bottom'. In this instance the top is
the one whose feet are worshipped, and they may have this type of foot
fetish or they may merely be participating in order to please their
partner. If they are the partner with the fetish, it may be the act of
having their feet attended to that excites them. Alternatively, they
may be aroused by feet, and are wildly excited by receiving a 'foot
job', the foot fetishist's equivalent to a hand job, where feet are
used to stimulate the genitals.
The bottom with a foot fetish gets sexual gratification by
'worshipping' the top's feet, which may take the form of washing,
kissing, licking, massaging, smelling, applying oils or lotions, or
even performing a full pedicure. Foot worship may also be demanded of
bottoms as part of a dominance and submission scene, whether the
bottom has a foot fetish or not.
There is a considerable grey area where fetishism and 'ordinary'
sexual activity and desire mingle. A man who enjoys the sensation of
his girlfriend's "stockinged" foot rubbing on his testicles and penis
is not necessarily a foot fetishist - at least not unless he can't
achieve orgasm any other way, or feels somehow unsatisfied by orgasms
achieved without this stimulus.