Our Consciousness is characterized by its absolute Peace - Peace that is independent of the nature of external events or circumstances.
When your relationship with your spouse is chronically or repeatedly strained, and you lose peace often because of that, then you may safely come to the conclusion that you are out of sync with your Consciousness as far as your relationship with your spouse is concerned.
You can find out how much you are out of sync with your Consciousness as measured by the score you get for questionnaire given in my blog: http://lampofmanifestation.blogspot.com
You’ll find an offer there for getting my small FREE Self-Help pdf ebook on Relationship titled, “You Can’t Leave Me: Five Consciousness Principles to SAVE Strained Relationships” if you are interested in improving the relationship with your spouse.