A "suck it up and drive on" ethos has great survival value in the heat of
battle, but it has also kept us from seeking helpful treatment after the
battle. One veteran police officer who survived a shooting experience told
me, "Colonel, you tell all these young guys, 'Don't try to be a macho man.'
Tell 'em to get help if they need it. I tried to macho it out after my
shooting and didn't get help when I needed it, and it damned near killed
me." No sane person would turn down antibiotics if the doctor prescribed
them, and no reasonable warrior should turn away from psychological help if
it is available and needed. Totti Karpela, the head instructor of the
Helsinki, Finland Police Department says it well: "It's a sign of strength
to admit that you're not always strong enough." The presence of new
tactics and new medicines saves lives in modern combat, but lives are still
lost. Doing a better job in the area of psychological debriefings and
bulletproofing the mind will reduce psychiatric casualties, but it is no
guarantee. Do you see how we can walk that middle road between the
mindless macho man on one side, and the pity party on the other? Lt. Col.
Dave Grossman, On Combat
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