I am looking for a marriage counselor, any idea what I should look out for
in each?
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PS, thank the gawds for peripheral vision :)
On Wed, 18 Jun 2003 04:20:00 -0700, "DaKitty"
When it comes to: "I have to do what I have to do to survive (get a
paycheck), but I'm not in love with what I do for living. And for years and
years I tried to find something likeable about it, and just end up liking it
less and less. To a point I find it hard to concentrate because of a number
of festering resentments. Because I'm trying to justify it to myself with,
"so many others are doing it, now get your act together and do it, you're
making a great living, and you're capable of doing what you're doing, and
it's a very sensible career choice, fair amount of security." Yea, I'm
capable and it's safe, but I don't like it, to a point that the festering
resentment is making it not be safe, by allowing it to take over and not pay
attention to what I'm doing.
Having a career that doesn't really fit my personality, but telling myself
that I should stick with it because it's very sensible. Finding it very
hard to stay motivated just for the sake of a great paycheck, after about 15
years in the field.
Fortunately, recently I made a change that will hopefully help with that,
and not be financially destructive.
Would what I described above sort of fit with what you're talking about, in
your opinion?
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On Mon, 16 Jun 2003 00:49:00 -0700, "DaKitty"
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Mine is somewhat simplistic, and at times just a frustration in managing my
life more effectively.
A little example would be, A chore needs doing, and I just can't get in the
right mood to do it now, so I procrastinate some, or do it begrudgingly. Now
if I could only figure how to sweet-talk myself into being in the mood to do
something when I rationally decide it needs to be done.
With some things, mo matter what little or carrot I dangle in front of me to
motivate myself to do certain things, I tend to keep rebelling against it.
Lately, my conflict is about getting more exercise, I want to, and I need
to, but I keep managing to get lazy and not do it. I keep staring in the
mirror and asking, what's the holdup (figuratively), and just get a silly,
"I dunno, I don't feel like it, leave me alone answer".
Twice a month that I do motivate myself to do it, I'm very glad I did.
At the moment I'm at a little bit of a loss as to how to motivate myself.
Sue, I can clamp down and force myself to do it, but I try to not do that,
because I just end up festering in resentment that I wasn't more attentive
to my other needs, and more things get out of whack.
I'm hoping you have a droplet of wisdom here that will give me more food for
thought. :)
Thanks!
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