My psychotherapist asks "What if we were lovers?"

[Tim]

Many forms of unhappiness have sexual roots. I accept that.

And sometimes, it might be best for the patient
to terminate an unsatisfactory marriage. I accept that.

And one of the roles of psychotherapy is to get the patient
to re-examine his taboos. I accept that.

But when my therapist encourages me to fantasise verbally
about having sex with her, isn't she going too far?

Firstly, it upsets my wife. I don't see how anyone benefits from
that.

Secondly, isn't my therapist playing with fire?
It may be "only a game", but a troubled patient might not understand
that fully.
Patients sometimes murder their therapists; presumably they rape them
too.

Or more likely, mightn't I simply clasp her hand,
break the "no touching" rule and terminate a hard-won therapeutic
relationship?

(She's very strict; I assume there would be no second chance.)

I've tried to ask my therapist about this,
but she always comes back with "How do you feel about that?"
and other evasions.

(The refusal of therapists to give a straight answer
is my biggest bugbear.)

So why does she play this dangerous game?

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[Harry]

On Feb 11, 7:30=A0am, Tim <timrobin...@paradise.net.nz> wrote:
> Many forms of unhappiness have sexual roots. =A0 I accept that.

>
> And sometimes, it might be best for the patient

> to terminate an unsatisfactory marriage. =A0 I accept that.

>
> And one of the roles of psychotherapy is to get the patient

> to re-examine his taboos. =A0I accept that.

>
> But when my therapist encourages me to fantasise verbally
> about having sex with her, isn't she going too far?
>

> Firstly, it upsets my wife. =A0 I don't see how anyone benefits from

> that.
>
> Secondly, isn't my therapist playing with fire?
> It may be "only a game", but a troubled patient might not understand
> that fully.
> Patients sometimes murder their therapists; presumably they rape them
> too.
>
> Or more likely, mightn't I simply clasp her hand,
> break the "no touching" rule and terminate a hard-won therapeutic
> relationship?
>
> (She's very strict; I assume there would be no second chance.)
>
> I've tried to ask my therapist about this,
> but she always comes back with "How do you feel about that?"
> and other evasions.
>
> (The refusal of therapists to give a straight answer
> is my biggest bugbear.)
>
> So why does she play this dangerous game?
>
> '`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`''`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`'`

> =A0 =A0sci.psychology.psychotherapy.moderated is a moderated newsgroup.

> Before submitting an article, please read the guidelines which are posted
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> =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 =A0 Submissions are acknowledged automatically.

she seems to need attention,if only verbal.maybe narcissistic.