Evidence of Cocaine use

[gr...@accessone.com]

I have suspected that an ex-girlfriend of mine was a cocaine addict.
Can anyone help me identify the symptoms of such addiction or use.
These are the behaviors that cause me to suspect that she was an
addict ( Cocaine)

1. constantly picking at fingernails until they would bleed.
2. violent severe mood swings
3. extreme anger and verbal abuse, name calling, every argument felt
like it was to the death. Would end relationship for a few days then
beg me back. Once found her in a bar in a guys lap after once such
episode. Suspect his bar, which phone number was listed in her old and
recent personal address book was her place to get cocaine.
4. she made 40 k per year but never had any money , always low on cash
5. had alocked drawer in her bedroom next to her bed that I never had
access to.
6. she had a rhinoplasty (nose job) in 1994, she says to take an
indian bump out of her nose, but her nose was always red, she says
from the surgery.
7. she was on Trazadone, muscle relaxers, and alcohol
8. never really enjoyed life's simple pleasures- unless she was
drinking or having sex
9. would say things like " I am afraid I am going to lose you."
frequently.
10. seemed either domineering or depressed, never a stable mood. very
controlling all the time. Would make severe threats to get her way.
11. has a history of cocaine use which she says ended in 1991, never
talked about a recovery phase or treatment center.
12. Would frequently take compliments the wrong way as an insult or
interpret a smile as making fun of her. For example the first night I
met her in a bar we danced and I smiled at her, she questioned my
smile "are you making fun of my dancing.?"
13. Afraid of spiders to the point of tears upon sight.

Are these behaviors evidence of some other problem?

Does this behavior sound familiar to anyone? Are there any tell tale
signs that I should consider?

I confronted her on her abusive behavior and she has said she wants no
more contact from me. Is there anything that can be done to help
someone like this. I just didnt want to enable her by putting up with
her abusive and irresponsible behavior. Is there any hope? Obviously
a relationship with her was a constant drain that would have probably
killed me. Had to force myself out. Any comments or opinions would be
much appreciated you can e-mail me at gr...@accessone.com

Thanks Greg H.

[luis montesinos]

seems to me that those are obvious symptoms and signs of drug abuse
(lying constantly is also very typical);usually persons with
addictions will have to be forced into treatment either by love ones
or some traumatic event in their life. Also, I think that addicitons
is adisease of emotions so she does not really know what shemeans
when she says she is afraid of losing you. Seems a very advanced
stage of addicition, however there is always hope for recovery;
insist for her to get trreatment, talk to her family and significant
others. Good luck. Luis