The matching of total battery capacity, to instantaneous maximum
charging current available from the alternator, is not as critical as
you seem to feel.
Basically, the battery capacity is going to give you a measure of how
much starting power you can pull out of the battery (over a prolonged
period of cranking) before the voltage starts to drop. Larger is
(again, to a first approximation) better.
Once you start the car, the charge control system (alternator and
control logic) is going to supply current to recharge the battery.
Typically, these systems are designed as (fairly crude) "constant
voltage" supplies - the alternator output is allowed to float upwards
to higher voltages, but is limited by the control system to no more
than around 14.4 volts (nominal). If the battery is heavily
discharged, the battery will draw about as much current as the
alternator can supply; the alternator's voltage won't reach 14.4 and
the limiting won't occur. Once the battery is largely recharged, its
terminal voltage will rise and it will draw less current from the
alternator, and the charge-control system will prevent the alternator
voltage from rising above 14.4 volts.
If you put in a higher-capacity-than-before battery, then (if you
don't deep-discharge it) starting the car will draw out a smaller
proportion of the battery's stored charge. Its terminal voltage won't
drop as much as would be the case in a smaller battery. It'll
probably draw just about the same amount of recharge current as a
smaller battery would, though, and so the alternator won't really
"notice" a difference.
Under conditions of really deep battery discharge, the higher-capacity
battery might be able to "take" more current than your present
alternator can supply. I don't believe this is harmful, though... the
alternator's output voltage will simply drop (due to e.g. resistive
loss in the alternator windings) and this will automatically reduce
the current into the battery to what the alternator is capable of
supplying. The same thing happens with your current battery, if the
vehicle is idling and the alternator isn't running very quickly... its
output voltage drops, the headlights dim a bit, and everything
balances out.
Unless there's something really unusual about your car (I believe),
replacing an OEM battery with a new one having even twice the capacity
shouldn't present any sort of problem (other than the physical size of
the battery).