I'm sorry to hear you are going through such pain.
I can suggest to first look at the help installing video
Try to repeat the install process on a fresh Eclipse Helios download
http://www.eclipse.org/downloads/packages/release/helios/sr2
Select the Eclipse Classic 3.6.2 version.
When you install the Scala-IDE plugin, mind to use the following update url site
http://download.scala-ide.org/releases-29/2.0.0-beta
and not the one that is used in the video (which is the update site for the old plugin!
I know, this is confusing.)
Look here for a complete list of update sites links: http://download.scala-ide.org/
Hope this helps.
-- Mirco
Which features do you expect ?
Do you have "scala" entry in your preferences ?
Do you have "ScalaIDE" in the about dialog? and any scala* plugin in
the list of installed plugins ?
/davidB