[sb118-khitomer] Lieutenant (JG) Ezra Zerva - Where Do Babies Come From?
BC Cooper
((Sickbay Deck 6, USS Khitomer - Docked at DS33 ))
Zerva: I’m also here for an appointment with Lieutenant Dewitt. I still have a few more minutes before the appointment starts. I actually wanted to ask you a question. I know you and the XO have a ::pausing to carefully find the words:: relationship of sorts. I was hoping for a little, uh dating advice?
Commander Ohnari sat in the hoverchair and crossed a leg. What was she thinking?
Ohnari: Well....when a Trill reaches a certain age, he may start becoming interested in romance...::smirking playfully::
Is she about to give him the talk? Like birds and bees? Really? Of course he knew about romance. It was the stuff beyond that. In the bedroom kind of thing.
Zerva: ::nervously:: Last shore leave I was on three different dates. A small part of me felt guilty for seeing multiple woman at once. Like I was cheating on them, even though I wasn’t. ::his left hand twitched ever so slightly:: I’ve umm, never been on an official date before a year ago when I joined this crew on the then Arrow. On top of that I got kissed on the cheek twice!
The teasing edge fell away, and "doctor mom" mode slipped in its place.
Ohnari: As long as you are properly communicating your intentions and expectations, you aren't tied to any one particular partner. In fact several cultures, polyamory is the standard, and the idea of having one single romantic partner is taboo. But honestly? You will need to decide for yourself what type of relationship you are interested in pursuing. And it is important to properly communicate your expectations with said potential partners. In any relationship, communication is paramount. They need to know what you are looking for, and you them to be sure you are even looking for similar things. Did any of these women express to you a desire to be exclusive?
Zerva: Yeah, the first one is into polyamory. They’re currently in a relationship with an Andorian, which I know they have multiple genders and typically they all live together. But the thing is, I’m not sure if that’s something I want to do one day? I’ve got nothing against it.
Ohnari: Keep in mind, having a few dates with different partners isn't uncommon, but if you find you aren't comfortable with dating more than one person at a time, that is perfectly valid. All comes back.
Zerva: Communication is a good idea. The first one, on my birthday wanted to do that with me in their hotel room. I panicked and told them I wasn’t ready to you know, do it. All I know is you get ask inside their place and the next day they are serving you breakfast. They really communicated their intentions that night. Instead I convinced them to go to a party with some of the crew, which then turned into a surprise birthday party for me. I’m okay seeing more than one person, I just worry how they’ll react if they learn about the others.
Ohnari: Since you are are...inexperienced in this, I would suggest you take it slow, but also don't be afraid to try new things. It's difficult to determine what you do and do not like if you've not experienced it before. Be open to new experiences, but be true to yourself. If it makes you uncomfortable? Step away. Communicating with your partner of course, but being quiet and tolerating something making you uneasy is the fastest way to a toxic and bad situation, which no one wants. oO Well..some do, but that is a whole different conversation...Oo
oO Yeah, that’s a good idea to take things slow and communicate. Oo
Zerva: Taking it slow is some good advice. Try new things? Yeah not a bad idea. oO Like getting kissed idea? Or just like different kinds of dates? Oo
Ohnari: Now, Ayemet can of course give you further advice and suggestions, as emotional health is more in her wheelhouse. As consenting adults you both have options...and responsibilities...when it comes to pursuing an intimate relationship. Unless you're planning on starting a family ::her brow raised in question, she was still reeling with the fact the innocent man was considering this, but that was irrational protectiveness. Back into doc mode:: I recommend you get a standard broad spectrum contraceptive, which will prevent either of you getting pregnant from a whole variety of sources. Standard intercourse of course, but also several osmotic and telepathic varieties that humans tend to forget about. There's a reason the handbook on interspecies relationships is six centimeters thick and at least three of those are because of an engineer on Starfleet's first warp 5 ship. ::shuddering:: that engineer was a menace....Anyways, a momentary drop into Sickbay, a quick hypo, and back to work with an...unloaded phaser. At least, one with the safety full intact.
And the reason for some first year students vomiting when the "slideshow of horrors of STIs" made it into the med school rotation.
Zerva: Contraceptives? Intercourse? oO Whoa, slow down. Oo Engineering? Phasers? ::stands up backing away and bumps his back against the next biobed:: Uh… wh… what do you think I’m doing on these dates?
Ohnari: Response
Ezra was starting to act like a caged animal, scared backing away more. The other biobed wasn’t far enough. He almost knocked over the contents of the surgery tray backing further away from the CMO.
Zerva: ::strafing himself.:: I’m just, just uh not ready for any of that right now. ::left hand twitching:: I’ve read my share of books. I know the differences scientifically. It’s just, I’m trying to figure out juggling more than one and then determine of those, which one. All that other stuff, I’m not ready just yet. I’m not even thinking about marriage and you’re going off on all these different things and I’m like a deer in headlights. ::sighs:: You said to take things slow. Can we please slow down and just get back to basics? I promise I’ll come to you for all that other stuff once I’m ready.
Ezra hoped things wouldn’t move too fast with any of them, but with Lera? His heart raced as he thought about the possibility of things progressing further.
Ohnari: Response
Zerva: You mentioned I should try new things? Like getting kissed on your cheek by your wedding date? Or more recently on the other cheek and forehead in your own room?
Ohnari: Response
Zerva: Yeah, I got kissed by two different woman. And no that’s all that happened in the room. Well except for dancing and Foxy snuggles. Apparently I was doing something right in either case. All though I will say I did get drunk when I met up with one of them last year after we lost the Arrow. Uh it was the same one on my birthday that wanted me to know they were ready on my birthday. But how do I know if I’m ready? ::sighs:: I’m sorry for being all over the place.
Ohnari: Response
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Lieutenant (JG) Ezra Zerva
Security Officer
USS Khitomer (NCC-62400)
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