Want to Save Your Relationship?

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Lay it on the line. Be bold, daring, and willing to know where your
relationship stand based on what you want, not based on what your
drifting partner wants. If you want XYZ and your partner wants ABC,
then the decision is already made based on what you want.
Many people negotiate a relationship based on the needs of their
partner while placing their own needs secondary. If you're willing to
stand up and say, "Hey, I really love you and we've shared some great
times together, but it appears we want different things so I think
it's best that we go our separate ways" - this takes guts.
In order to go there, you have to believe in yourself, know what your
goals are, and you must be willing to risk losing the one who may or
may not be right for you in order to get what you want. Don't try to
hang on to something by trying to change how someone else feels like
the majority of people do.
Or be a Super Hero by trying to bring what you want and what your
partner wants together. If it's not working, move on and do so without
attitude or making your partner feel guilty for not meeting your
needs.
You'd be surprised what could happen when you're willing to walk away.
This will let you know exactly what your relationship is made of. Does
your partner really love you? Is he/she willing to fight for your
relationship or did you just release him/her from having to be a
prisoner in your relationship?
Tough questions to face because we all have the universal need to feel
loved and accepted but it is better to be thought of as someone who
stood up for themselves, having confidence in the desire to eventually
get what you want by not accepting anything less.
And if in the end your relationship did not go to the next level,
there's really no loss to you because it was not made of the tough
stuff anyways. You would have saved yourself a lot of energy and
possible years of being with the wrong person because you have
different goals for where you believe your relationship should go.