Commitment Or Infidelity - The Choice Is Yours

[hanseh...@yahoo.com]

Adam and Eve- the creation of God! They came into this world, fell
into the trap of fatal temptations and where they went, nobody knows.
Such a life is so simple! No tensions, no worries, no hassles! But
today the life is so different.
Adam and Eve are the imaginary characters but we are not. We have to
live in this real world, sustain ourselves to survive, we cannot spend
whole of our lives by succumbing to the sweet and sensuous temptations
coming our way. We have to fulfill our basic instincts by remaining
within our limits. And this is not an easy task. On the one hand, we
have to control our wild instincts and simultaneously we have to
fulfill them in this very life. This is the real test of the fidelity
of a human being.
So, to make this thing a bit easier, man created the term
relationships, which means a bonding, a deep soulful connection
between the two or more. There is a certain amount of sharing and
interdependence between or among them.
Though there are several relationships among us, the human beings but
the one that is getting much attention in today life is that of a man
and a woman. Both the sexes can get into a number of relationships but
the one that they find the most difficult to sustain is that of a long
lasting marriage. Its not that we do not want to live together happily
with satisfaction, but the only hindrance that comes their way is
infidelity.
Now what is infidelity?
A human being is a bundle of instincts that drive him to act in a
certain way. And if he is able to control them then he can expect a
successful relationship and if he succumbs himself to the fatal
temptations of the opposite sex, then he is on the way to the devil
called infidelity.
When a man and a woman get married according to the social norms, then
they take vows in front of God and the whole society to be loyal to
each other till the very last breath of their lives; and that from now
they are two bodies and one soul. But sad to say, when either of the
two breaks this vow by getting attracted to some other person outside
marriage, then the person is cheating with you.
This injustice with the other partner can never be forbidden. I mean,
how can someone who has promised to be there for you whatever happens,
so easily cheat you without any fault of yours!
This is disgusting!
And even if you have done something wrong, then what! You should be
told about that so that it is not repeated in the future. Leaving you
alone and getting into the lap of somebody else is not the way out...
Here is an example:
Yesterday, I was helping people at Yahoo answers, and I came across a
stupid man asking for some help regarding his relationship with his
wife. His story was somewhat like this-
Ours is a love marriage, and two years have passed after that but now
i do not love my wife. I do not feel her enough attractive to satisfy
my basic instincts. At the time of my marriage, all my friends and my
family members suggested me not to marry her as she is not so good-
looking, but I was so much in love with her that looks did not matter
to me. But now when we have been so long together, she does not seem
to light that spark inside me. I feel that the wives of my friends
much more attractive than my own. I know she still loves me a lot,
even I feel so sorry for her, but what can I do? I cannot help it.
Please help me out.
!!!!!! Now what you have to say about this bulls*@%!
Was his brain out of service when he married that loving lady who will
have to suffer this agony alone, without being at fault? What is her
mistake? Why should she suffer? Just because her husband is a cheater,
does not mean that she does not deserve her share of love!
My friends, this is what I am trying to say here that we should not
make a commitment so easily with anyone without knowing our own mind.
First, you should be sure of your own mind what you want and desire
for, will the person you are going to spend your whole life with, be
able to satisfy your moral, financial and most importantly, your
physical or sexual needs.
And if yes, then only make a decision, and if still you are not being
able to decide yet, then maybe this is not the right time for such a
commitment.
Either this person is not suitable for you or you are not ready to get
into this mature relationship. Or maybe this is not the right time for
you! You know very well that haste makes waste. Then why to hurry, my
friend. You have whole of your life in front of you. Marriage is not
the only thing you have to achieve. You are not going to lose anything
if you will marry some other time. Life cannot be lived forcibly. You
have to discover your own share of heaven here only.
Now the choice is yours! Your heaven and hell is waiting for you, now
you choose it! Just keep this thing in mind that your decision will
mark your future.
I wish you all the very best, my friend!