Fwd: Aamir khan - the pseudo-feminist promotes domestic violence!

[pramod kumar singh]

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Aamir khan - the pseudo feminist promotes domestic violence!

Shocked? Baffled? Fail to believe you ears? Well, as it is famous
saying, "Truth is stranger than fiction" and the recent turn of events
just validates this statement.

Aamir Khan, the famous and legendary actor of Bollywood who carries
nicknames like "The Perfectionist" has ruined his reputation and under
the name of "Satyamev Jayate", he is spreading fear and rumors in the
society.

Feminists and Women Empowerment Brigade as well as Conservatives and
Women Pamperers, all combined referred to as the Power Mongers, need
to take a lesson or two from Uncle Ben, the fictitious character of
the Hollywood flick who told Peter that, "With Power Comes Great
Responsibility".

For, the way the Power Mongers are encouraging concessions for women
at the cost of men, women are definitely getting a lot of power and
have already got so much of power. Some examples of the manifestation
of the power are:-

They have the power to take the choice of being a career-woman or a housewife.
They have the power to break a marriage at their free will by filing
false cases of harassment and fabricated desertion and walk off with a
bounty called alimony.
They have the power to influence their promotion without performing by
threatening their managers of sexual harassment cases.
They have the power to enjoy pre-martial/extra-marital sex as per
their free will or otherwise file a false rape case.
They have the power to abort their unborn child at free will and go scot-free.
They have the power to commit adultery while being married and yet be
rewarded for it, by being hailed as a victim.
And so on and so forth, the list goes on. The current list is merely
illustrative and not exhaustive of the various socio-economic and
socio-legal powers that women enjoy.

As the old adage goes, "Rome was not built in a day", these powers
were not conferred on to the women in a stroke of lightening on the
29th day of February of a leap year. These powers have been conferred
on them due to conscientiously planned and meticulously executed
strategy of Power Mongers under the barb and paradoxical veil of Women
Empowerment coupled with Gender Equality.

Hence we see here that it is actually power that is being conferred on
women in the name of equality and any equality (read power) given
without responsibility leads to imbalance (read misuse of power). And
that is what is happening here. Since all the Power Mongers, have
vouched for is Power for women in the name of equality and never ever
for Responsibility. And now the message has been distorted and diluted
to such an extent, that the very concept of responsibility has become
condemnable to be talked of when it comes to Women and jeopardizes the
efforts of Power Mongers to accumulate power for Women.

As a result of which the price is being paid by men, for it is they
are the only ones who are left to shoulder the burden of added
responsibility and the women have become so damn used to pamperment
that they find it very natural to enjoy Power Sans Responsibility or
better put as Equality Sans Responsibility, the crux of the current
social imbalances and social problems. If this problem is addressed, a
lot of problems will be solved and the choice rests with the society.

Women Empowerment, Women Equality, etc. seem to be the buzzwords these
days with more and more articles coming about increased awareness
amongst women about their rights. Since so many decades we have been
hearing of these campaigns and they are still running. Feminists still
seem to cry about women rights and women empowerment and women
equality. For the past almost three decades women empowerment is
happening and crores of rupees are spent on it every year and yet if
the need for the same is felt, then either something is wrong with the
women or the empowerment.

Todays empowerment for women has only brought the women from the
kitchen room to the bedroom. Empowerment of women is not about
millions of women getting out of the burqua to see the light of the
day, its more about some crap Miss World getting into a bikini or some
Poonam Pandey's skin seeing the light of the day. Deep down I think
its these women who are more in chains than the common women of India.
Bcos deep within they are losers and just want to announce to the
world about their 'liberal' status by hook or crook. How many of these
women would ever want to announce that they will do what a P.T Usha
could not do or a Kalpana Chawla could not do. They dare not bcos they
know it means 'real' achievement is in sweat and blood, not just skin.

Whatever be the cause, in all this efforts by the various lobbies and
groups, the real cost of Women Empowerment is being borne by men for
whenever they try to talk about their problems / rights / issues, they
are subdued saying Women Empowerment is more important and their
problems always take a back seat when it comes to implementing
solutions. And that is the reason in the past 60 years, not a single
rupee has been spent for men's welfare.

One of the most active areas where women equality echoes is the
institution of marriage in India. Marriage in India has always been
projected as a "necessary evil" for women and in this process it is
the men who are made to pay the price and are told to adjust /
compromise at all times asking them to do so in the name of Women
Equality. So what exactly is this equality, let's look at it with a
few examples,


* If a wife wants to open joint account with husband's salary
account - then it is her right and she is preventing misuse. On the
other hand, if husband wants to open a joint account with his wife's
salary account, he is interested in her money. And he needs to be sent
to jail for Dowry harassment.

* If wife asks his husband to stay away from his parents, then
she does not want any interference from in-laws. When husband asks for
the same from his wife to keep little distance from her parents he
will be thrown out from the House as per the Domestic Violence Act.

* If wife ridicules the husband for job then she is
encouraging the husband to look for high paying job. When husband asks
his wife to look for respectable job - this will be termed as mental
cruelty and along with husband all his relatives including parents,
siblings will be sent behind bars under IPC 498A.

* If wife demands a car from husband then she is improving the
standard of living. If husband says that they should have a car, then
he along with his mother and sister will be sent behind the bars and
will not be freed till the time he does not prove beyond reasonable
doubt that he had not demanded.

* Wife demands a flat in her name then she is creating
security for the family. If husband says that their family should have
a flat on joint name then again he is demanding dowry as flat from
wife and in-laws to keep his parents and will be booked as offence
punishable along with his mother and sister under 498A and the
Domestic Violence Act.

* If wife goes to media / her husband's office to complain
against husband and in-laws she is asking for justice. If the husband
defends his point by replying to the allegations of wife then he is
defaming the wife and in-laws and as per the Domestic Violence Act he
should be thrown out of his own house.

* When a couple gets gifts during the marriage from boy's side
then it is considered as stridhan and wife has full right on them,
whereas if the husband is given some gift from in-laws then it is
dowry and he does not have any right over it.

* If wife asks the husband to cook meals then she wants
husband to share household chores, whereas if the husband asks his
wife to cook meal or help him in getting food articles from market
then he is confronted with an argument that he should have married a
cook not a lady wife.
If wife demands more conjugal relations with husband then it is her
right. If husband wants the same from wife then he is committing
marital rape which is an offense punishable with strict imprisonment.

* If wife's parents come and stay with the couple then it is
their right. They have given their daughter. If parents of husband
come to visit and stay with the couple then they have come to
interfere in couple's life and ask for dowry.

These instances are just illustrative and not exhaustive of the clear
and visible existing bias against men which is carried out under the
name of Women Empowerment and the women are enjoying it and so they
actually never want to achieve true equality. For they know, the day
it is achieved, then the Women Pamperment that is happening will stop.
For women, women empowerment is a path where the journey itself is
more intriguing and fruitful than the actual result and the
stakeholders of the system also benefit a lot from this and thus want
to carry it on, albeit at the cost of men.

The system and the society are not ready to make absolutely any
efforts to stop it or give men their due rights. For they know it is
easy to instigate women to take such steps and break their marriages.
The more the marriages break, the more consumerism increases as more
households are formed. Moreover people, especially women, tend to
spend more to overcome a relationship stress. Increased consumerism
directly helps the capitalists as their invested money rotates in the
market and they gain, albeit at the cost of the society and age old
values, morals and the family structure and the institution of
marriage

Can anybody deny the cost of raising a girl? It's much higher than a
boy. Now today's girls are careerists. So along with the cost of
marriage there is also the added cost of the higher education and
career building of the girl. Even if the girl is working she will
still expect and ask her father to pay for the bills of her marriage.
Also keeping a girl in an unknown city like Delhi or Mumbai for her
higher education is costlier than a boy. Boys can take a lot of
hardship. They can get into the general class of a train. But for a
girl she will always prefer sleeper class if not AC or flight. Now
after spending so much of money she will go to another family. Now the
guys generally stay with their families. Today's men are getting
closer to their parents and look after them after witnessing the
idiosyncrasies' of so called modern women. The media is filled with
sob stories of women. The laws are filled with protection laws for
them based on these stories. But when we have a look at the stats it
portrays a completely different picture, just like Perception being
different from reality.

Some of the statistics from India:-
Almost twice married men commit suicide as compared to married women every year.
Suicide rate of men increases by 6 times the rate it increases for
women annually.
Men die at the rate of 4 times they are born.
3400 married men are burnt alive every year on an average.
Annually, on an average more than 90% of crimes happen against men.
As per a survey done, 98% of men face domestic violence.
In 11 years (1996 - 2007), 156,000 married men have succumbed to
Domestic Violence.
98% of men accused in dowry related cases and domestic violence are
innocent, trapped falsely, prosecuted unnecessarily, arrested without
investigation and extorted as well. Many of those victims finally
commit suicide and most of such men are denied access to their
children systematically.
These figures are from India, but I am sure the situation elsewhere is
also not much different from this one and this is just the tip of the
iceberg exposed by some overzealous and enthusiastic men's rights
activists. But men have been facing a lot of problems since time
immemorial, though very little of the side has been exposed.

One may often think that if men are having so many problems then why
there is no sensitization of the problem. Even a smallest of problem
for women gets attention while for men, a problem as grave as
skyrocketing suicide rates is ignored. One of the most escapist
excuses given by the system, when confronted, is that Men Do Not
Communicate.

Has anyone thought ever, why? Perhaps not as everyone simply believes
in blaming men that since they do not communicate we will not solve
their problems or we do not know what are their problems. But no one
ever think as to why men do not, or may be cannot communicate? One of
the reasons for that is, men do not have proper communication channel.
However, that is only the trailer; the real movie is scarier.

Men have been bestowed upon with lofty roles and titles of being the
Protector, the Provider, and the Responsibility bearer and so on and
so forth. This expectation and role requires them to be strong and
hard enough and learn to control their emotions and do not crib about
petty issues, which is in a way good as it makes them robust, a
requirement must to work with strangers. However, it has its own flip
side as well. Being continuously robotic in approach men have actually
become disconnected with their experiential domain and more often than
not they live in a world of denial and do not realize the pain they
are going through till the pain keeps nurturing within and assumes
visibly catastrophic proportions.

As a result, men have actually become numb not only to their fellow
brethren's pain, but also to themselves. This mental blockage of not
being able to experience self pain at initial stages does not allow
men to communicate properly and by the time the pain comes out, the
damage is already done and one of the statistics mentioned at the
beginning of the article is already updated with its latest entry.

Society fails to understand this inability of men to communicate and
interprets it wrongly as either,

Men do not have any problems or If at all they have, they need to
learn to express them.
However, in the backdrop of the above discussion it is clearly evident
that men are in no position to express their pain. First that problem
has to be addressed

Men do not self proclaim their achievements unlike women. Society
inhibits a man to weep openly even in his deepest sorrow becoz weeping
is not considered masculine in nature. Society is even more endangered
by the so called "feminist" men than the real women becoz these pseudo
feminists wants to impress every woman they meet with a motive to get
them into bed. Unless these kind of people self realise that women are
also a gender like men, men will always be ill-treated by women as
mere money generators and not fellow human beings.

Feminism and genuineness - East and west"

All of the solutions that come from feminist have the same undertone -
"Hard earned money of a man must go to a woman". And they call this as
women empowerment! How can someone be empowered when they are treated
worse than kids and provisions are created that you complain and walk
away with a fortune.
No self-respecting woman would ever support such an empowerment
paradigm. In fact, those women, who do, are not real women. Undisputed
sign of empowerment is entrust of responsibility.
However, feminists call "imposing responsibility on a woman as her oppression".
This single statement should tell us their thought process and any
solution proposed out of such a thought process can never be tangible.
For example, they are asking the Govt. of India to amend the Hindu
Marriage Act in such a manner that in the event of a divorce a woman
gets the children, half of husband's property (irrespective of when
purchased and who contributed) and alimony as well.
So, they are calling Incentivization of divorce as a sign of
empowerment. In short, they are promoting breaking of family and
unfortunately this misandrous society is not challenging them. They
are promoting father-less society and thus contributing to growing
crime in the society, as it is an established fact that a father acts
as a role-model for children and children from broken families and
grown up without a father are 8 times more likely to resort to crime.
Also, feminists are leaving no stone unturned in turning marriage into
a crime for men from all angles. If a man stays in a marriage, he is
abused by his wife and he cannot escape as there are no laws to
protect a man. Also, feminists have effectively plugged any/all
communication channels for men. And if he files for divorce he loses
all of his fortune, his peace of mind and ends up fighting lifetime
bogus litigations containing all sorts of false allegations.
Hence, feminists are totally focused on cornering men and it is said,
"Even a cornered rabbit is dangerous". So, in coming times, if these
cornered men, resort to crime being exasperated and kill their wives,
feminists will be solely responsible for this because they left no
stone unturned in creating a society that simply exploits men and
denies them even basic human rights. By the way, most of these men are
brothers, sons and cousins of these feminists.

Feminists are promulgating economic parasitism for women, at the cost
of men and are encouraging the women to indulge in victimization.
Ultimately, it needs to be realized, are they really fighting for the
larger benefit of women or are just unleashing their personal hatred
against men because majority of these women, who claim to be women's
rights activists aka the feminists do not have a happy, peaceful and
blissed family life.

By doing this show and by becoming a vehicle of feminism, Aamir Khan
has turned out to be the biggest promoter of domestic violence.

He is using his fan-following and credibility for a rumor to be spread
that a girl child is vulnerable. Tomorrow, if his fan says, I don't
want to marry my daughter because Aamir said "it's dangerous to have a
daughter", who will be responsible for that?

Celebrities must be very cautious about the partisan stands they take.

Not sure of the repercussions of this show, but one thing is sure.
Aamir lost his credibility as a human being.



--
with warm regards

Pramod Kumar Singh
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