سنا کے کوئی کہانی ہمیں سلاتی تھی
دعاؤں جیسے بڑے پاندان کی خوشبو
وہ عطردان سا لہجہ میرے بزرگوں کا
رچی بسی ہوئی اردو زبان کی خوشبو
بشیر بدر ~
sunaa ke koii kahaanii hamein sulaatii thii
duaaon jaise bade paandaan kii khushbuu
vah itrdaan saa lahjaa mere buzurgon kaa
rachii basii huii Urdu zabaan kii khushbuu
~ Bashir Badr
The aroma of the paan tray, as vast as prayers,
Narrated its own bedtime story:
The perfumed behaviour of my elders,
Immersed in the fragrance of Urdu.
NB These lines remind me of my Dad. Till he gave up paan in 2005, he used to eat 15 - 20 paans a day. At home, we had two ornate brass paan trays, replete with bowls of kattha and chuna and fragrant containers of tobacco and qivaam. He always used carry freshly rolled paans in a machla made of wicker and offered more paans than he ate. And at the bookstore there was always a vial of itr on Dad's desk.
Like others of their generation, my parents were never demonstrative of their love. But the love with which my mother rolled his paans, the way Dad made sure that both of them attended the best kavi sammelans and mushaairaas in Bombay, the way Dad wanted us to do certain things because Mum would like them, and Mum would do things the way Dad liked them, showed that all was well in their relationship.
My Dad was not a scholar but as the son and grandson of scholars, he had impeccable taste in literature and poetry. He and even more so, my Mum introduced us (my sister and I) to the beautiful world of literature. My Mum would read out to us for hours together, everything from Noddy to Grimms Brothers' Fairy Tales. We would lie down in bed with Mum and she would read out to us.
Time flies. My Dad is no more. Mum still sleeps in the same bed, in the same room and still reads late into the night. But my sister lives in Boston. I live with my Mum but I don't spend enough time talking to her. And I no longer ask Mum to read to me. My loss.
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