The parameters that are used for the joystick are in the xbox360_teleop.launch file
You've already found that file I believe, so I'm guessing that maybe I don't understand the question?
There is no
xbox.config.yaml in the Arlobot repository. My guess is that is a file that you found in the installed ROS code in /opt/ros/...?
If so, I expect the
xbox.config.yaml parameters to be the defaults, and anything added to xbox360_teleop.launch will override those defaults. So you can add/update things in xbox360_teleop.launch in the <node pkg="joy" type="joy_node" name="joy_node"> section to override the settings in the yaml file in /opt/ros/...
The best way to know for sure though is empirical evidence:
You can run the rosparam command line program from the Pi to find out what parameters exist and what their settings are.
The instructions for using rosparm are here:
I hope I got all of that right and that it helps.