better late than never

[daveofk...@gmail.com]

Here in the UK the shit has to say the least hit the fan, especially with the Prime Minister being forced in to  convening a search into accusations that some high ranking MPs have been naughty guys and have in some case been using a recognised "hotel" that was frequented by young Boys, others have been accused of abusing boys in n a Childrens Home, and today the one time Leader of the House of Commons, Lord Tonypandy had actually raped a 9 year old boy many years ago.

All these cases and accusations have only recently hit the headlines? some accusers say that they reported the event when it happened, but their pleas fell on deaf ears?.

Thing is some of these accusations are about events that occurred some 50 years ago and others even longer? is it a bit late? do you think after all this time that people should just forget them? OR do you feel that anyone who misused their trust such as in the Childrens Homes should be brought to book no matter how long ago it happened?

The accused such as Lord Tonypandy is now nearly 90 years of age? should he be sent to prison?

[samjoh...@mail.com]

Be serious Dave - you're making that name up! Lord Tonypandy? Seriously, how could you not be a pedo with that name?

 

I have real problems with all these cold cases that are so popular these days. Yes, there may be some true, nasty criminals in there, but alongside how many innocents? When God was going to destroy Sodom, Abraham argued the toss with him, pointing out how wrong it was to destroy a city if it contained even 10 innocent men. (God still levelled the place, but he was a bit mad in the early days)

 

And there's something about these middle aged men who come out with stories of abuse from 30 years ago. As a group, they seem disturbingly attracted to the whole emotional drama they're playing out - always in tears and flaring up in righteous anger. On more than one occasion, reading into the claims of such men, it's become apparent to me that what really upset the boy was not the "abuse" but the fact that he was dropped once he got too old. Well son, maybe you had to man up, rather than cossetting an adolescent wound that is all our lot in this big ole veil of tears.

[nicky...@gmail.com]

I reckon some of it is bollocks. Anyway Lord Tonypandy was The speaker of the House of Commons like in history times when he was George Thomas. We done him in 20th Century history at school. He is also now dead. I reckon some of them guys who are saying this want like money for their story or something. Not fair if the guy complained about can’t answer back is it. But you did say one thing that like really pissed me off. Is it true that I will get dumped by any guy I might be with cos I get too old?? If that true then it is only sex and not a relationship and if that right then the older guy deserves to get done I reckon. I guess that gonna piss off a lot of you but its how I feel. Like I got feelings too, Its not all about the older guy is it?

[samjoh...@mail.com]

Relationships end - USUALLY the boy gets older and moves on, with often a strong friendship remaining. But it does happen the other way, the man ceasing contact with the boy. If he's an unimpressive whining man, maybe he was no better as a kid.

 

And no, it is definitely not all about the older guy. Very much the opposite.

[nicky...@gmail.com]

So is being gay and liking older guys that much of a shit life?? What you wrote sorta makes out it is? If it is what’s the point in even starting a relationships if it gonna end anyway cos Im too old?

[samjoh...@mail.com]

I'm not sure what sounds so shit. If you enter into a relationship with a man, as a boy, then that relationship is going to change as the boy becomes a man. How it changes is up to the individual couple. A boy-lover is always going to be attracted to boys, but that doesn't prevent other close, meaningful relationships lasting the distance. My experience has been that even same-age gay couples often evolve into close non-sexual friendships rather than staying a permanent sexually active relationship. But there are no rules. Find the love and let the rest take care of itself.

[daveofk...@gmail.com]

Sam,s reply is straight to the point Nicky, a guy will fall for maybe a young virginial looking blonde 13 year old, and that relationship could go on infinitum? as Sam says depends on both parties, as boys develop into men perhaps boredom  sets in, it happens in  marriages (Divorce) and yes Gay marriages also, there is an old saying of "Familiarity breeds contempt"

This unfortunately is the way of life, those marriages that go on for ever sort of thing are the ones where BOTH parties work at it, who WANT to be together, the longest relationship I ever had was 3 years, I totally loved him and I know my feelings were reciprocated, unfortunately his family moved away, overseas, i was distraught, still am at times if I am honest he was so special, BUT you have to struggle on, I am sure had the family stayed we would still be together and he would be a young man now?

Relationships are only as good as the people in them

Dave (Admin)

[cooper20...@aol.com]

I had a wonderful Relationship with a Young student. It was going very well until his father died and he had to move away, his mother taking up the reins of the family business. They moved overseas but we continued to exchange e-mails and the odd phone call.  Once he was old enough he would come for holiday visits.  This was some good few years ago but we still see each other regularly and visit each other.  Feelings have not changed much. I still love him dearly and he is still my little asian deaf boy. He still calls me Daddy. Perhaps one day when he can hand over the family business to his nephew we can again live together and be as happy as we were.

[robbd...@gmail.com]

Sounds a lovely story Cooper,  care to elaborate more and tell us how you got together etc?