Hi Dario,
I think TLEN in the SAM fromatting has a very specific definition - it is genomic distance between the ends of the read.
Granted, SAM formatting was designed for DNA reads and often it is not convenient for RNA-seq.
I would not want to re-define it for RNA-seq as it will be confusing and will break the standard conventions,e.g. Picard will certainly complain about it.
The solution for featureCounts would be to specify -D parameter as the max intron size. This will take care of both explicitly (i.e. with N in CIGAR) and implicitly (i.e. junction in -between mates) spliced reads.
Cheers
Alex