Yes, I actually mean the 44-pin IDE bus, widely used for 2.5" lap-top drives, with most of the Compact Flash adaptors, and more recently with low power and small form factor SSD PATA drives.

The ones that I've seen usually have either a missing pin, or (like Ed's RC2014 IDE adaptor), have a shielded connector.
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In any case, they are designed that plugging incorrectly doesn't result in any fatal damage to either end of the cable.
The 44-pin IDE is not on the typical 0.1" pitch. I think the spacing is 2mm pitch, but I stand to be corrected.
The difference in size between the two plugs can be seen on Ed's RC2014 board.
Aside, also of note on Ed's RC2014 board are the 4 jumpers which are designed to allow his IDE interface to become a generalised bi-directional 82C55 Mode 1 or Mode 2 parallel I/O interface.
I was planning (still am but the 'tuit list is too long now to count on anything) to build a parallel keyboard, using the 82C55 IDE adaptor for the RC2014, and for the the YAZ180.


The main advantage (aside from the ready availability of connectors, cables, and documentation), is that one cable is sufficient to connect boards together. Power (at reasonable current) is carried on the cable, as are all signals.
Makes sense that they reused the ISA bus standard for PIO-0. That certainly makes the 44-pin IDE interface an easy win for, and complementary to, an ISA bus computer using any CPU.
Phillip