Needed: Dating Advice
Stephen Dickson
I agre with a previous poster on the topic of fearing rejection.
I've set myself a limit long before I started dating that I would only date
Christians, in order to "not be unequally yoked" or have my faith tested. A
couple of times I've come close to dating an atheist, a Catholic, or a
Mormon, but each time I return to my guideline.
Anyways, here's the thing I need advice on:
I moved to where I live when I was in seventh grade. About a week after I
moved here, we went to the Baptist church my parents went to when we lived
here when I was 2. I saw a girl in Sunday School then (for anonymous
reasons, I'll use the name Suzy_Q), and I became friends with her then, and
a few weeks later found that I really liked her. Now, she and I are both
graduated this past summer, separate schools, and she works while I commute
to college. We've become friends between seventh grade and now. I've found
over the past three years, I've found that I really like her, but I can
never get up the nerve to ask her, either because: #1)I'm shy, or because
#2) I don't know if she even likes me in a boyfriend/girlfriend sort of way,
or because #3) I don't know if she has a boyfriend. Well, now, #3 is out of
the question, because I know she's single. #2 is hard to determine (who is
it easy to determine with?). And #1 is still there. I do feel that shes the
person God wants me to go out with, and she has all the traits to be desired
in a Christian relationship.
My question for advice: What is your advice, period? And also, how would I
go around asking her out? She's not the type of girl for quick moves (IE a
movie alone, a romantic dinner alone, etc), FYI.
Stephen Dickson
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Psyberduck (formerly Duckboy)
Ahhh...amore is in the air. And they say winter is dead!
Having been in this situation myself, and stalling out more times than I
care to count, lemme tell you what I've learned. A nice romantic dinner
or the movies alone might not work, but how's about, say a sorta double
date/going out with friends sorta deal. Just you, her, and a few good bud
& budettes. This seems a lot more innocent to all involved than it will
to you. And it's not dishonest. As for asking her out, Jr High taught me
this: Do It In Person! Notes leave way too much room for ignorance. But
I'm guessing that you've moved beyond that. Course, this has been a
recent discovery for me...
You've got my prayers, cause I've been there too!
<><
Child of the burning heart,
David
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No situation, however wretched it seems, but has some sort of comfort
attending it. -Goldsmith
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Stephen Dickson
Thank you all for the dating advice. I'll keep it in mind. If anyone else
has any advice on my question, contact me, or leave a message here about it.
Stephen Dickson
ERPbridge on EFnet channel #sliders and in Alphaworld (aw 4400N 4400W)
sdic...@bigfoot.com
"So you're in love with a computer subroutine."
Tuvok, Star Trek: Voyager