<taps> John Whiteside, Chicago area reporter and columnist
Catherine
columnist John Whiteside.
As evidenced by the letters we received, Whiteside touched the lives of countless
people in Joliet and Will County. We share these letters with you now.
[The following six letters are excerpted from the long list and reprinted at top. -
Catherine]
Most deserving
John Whiteside was a special person to many people. I was lucky enough to be one of
them. He wrote the story that led to my husband getting the military funeral he
wanted, but did not get until three years and one month to the day he died.
That is only one of the stories John has told that helped many veterans and their
families. It sure helped mine, and gave my husband final rest.
I was so happy to see him get all of those honors and awards. No one deserved them
more. He had a lot more he wanted to do, but God must have needed him more than we
do. John will be remembered forever by the many lives he has touched, and the people
who loved him.
We love you, John, and will really miss you. Thank you for all you did for us.
Jeanette Blalock
Corrected a 'wrong'
I first met John when I wrote him a letter about my grandfather, Charles Blalock. My
grandfather was a WWII veteran who requested a military funeral upon his death. When
my grandfather passed away in 1999, not a single soul was available to perform the
military ceremony he so proudly spoke of. He was buried without honors. His American
flag was folded by the funeral director and handed to my grandmother after the
services.
John wrote an article about my grandfather in 2002 and expressed his concerns for the
dwindling amount of veterans to perform such ceremonies. That article woke up the
community and within a few days, John phoned me with the numerous calls, letters and
e-mails he had received regarding the article. Through his article, John found
another man willing to assist in making a "wrong" a "right."
In the fall of 2003, a funeral service was held for my grandfather at his graveside,
but this time, with full military honors. Ed Crobie organized more than 15 men and
women to be present. John was there not to document, but to pay his respects. The
crisp sound of Mr. Crobie's bugle shattered the barriers that were built the day my
grandfather was buried, or as the family called it, the day our country was on a
vacation. Finally the weight of disappointment was no longer on our shoulders. On
July 18, 1999, my grandfather passed away, but in August of 2003, my grandfather was
laid to rest.
Since then, John's name has been spoken within our family more often than not. We
followed his articles, his fight with cancer and his interest in life's mysteries. It
was in one such article that drew me back to writing John in April of 2004. A story
was written about the Will County Poor Farm. I was intrigued.
John mentioned ledgers or journals containing information about the poor farm.
However, no one was able to find their whereabouts. I managed to find them in the
summer of 2004. Five ledgers were found and I began feverishly looking through their
pages for names and proper documentation.
After nine months, I have compiled a list of people claimed to be buried on the
property as documented by the Will County Poor Farm superintendents of that time.
Three weeks ago, I sent John an e-mail telling him of the new interesting stories
pertaining to the souls at the poor farm. Stories were unearthed and a mystery was
unfolding, there was a light at the end of the tunnel and John helped find it.
The list of names are now being researched for verification before names can be
publicly listed. I am confident I will have a guide along the way as each name is
verified and the last name is confirmed so that a plaque can be placed near the site.
I am presenting that upon completion John's name be listed as "Superintendent of
2005" for his dedication to acknowledging the souls buried on the farm.
Respectfully,
Gina Blalock Wysocki
'Exceptionally caring man'
John stepped inside our hearts and home when he came to interview my mother-in-law
Jeanette Blalock, my daughter Gina (Blalock) Wysocki and myself a few years ago. It
was due to an article Gina had written to John regarding her grandpa, Charles
Blalock. He was a World War ll veteran and had passed away on July 18, 1999, and
never received the military burial he deserved.
John printed an article that got the ball rolling and Ed Crobie along with many
others, arranged a date to give my father-in-law that proper military burial. We all
felt the void we had carried within our hearts for over three years was now lifted.
John gave us a sense of peace, and we loved him for what he had done for not only our
family, but all the other families he wrote about in his articles. He was an
exceptionally caring man, and he will be missed more then any words can describe.
Gerry Blalock
'My hero'
John Whiteside has always been my hero. I've read his articles for years. His very
special mother was in my arthritis swimming class in Lockport.
When I called John trying to get help for a petition to get a monument for the
Battleship Oklahoma, lost at Pearl Harbor, I told him how my Uncle Bob was on that
boat and was lost. John immediately told me that we could have full burial services
at Abraham Lincoln, and it was done.
When I called him to tell him about our garden club and that we were building a
garden for Riley Fox he offered us four birdhouses and delivered them the next day.
Each one is special. One has a teddy bear on the front. The birds go in and out of
its tummy. One is a log cabin, one is a fort, and we are so proud to have them at the
park. John had a very special talent.
I feel like I have lost a very special friend, and will always remember him. His
stories have touched all of our lives, and he has set a standard for anyone in the
business to try and achieve.
God's blessings to John's family and to all of you at The Herald News, and the
thousands who loved him as I have.
Judy Wunderlich
Wilmington
Can't be replaced
John Whiteside, what a true friend. I keep thinking of all of the times we talked,
and the article he wrote on the poor and homeless.
For the article on the POW-MIA of Vietnam, we both sat at my house and cried as I
told him of my visions which I would see in my mind. He said, "Take your time Bill,
we have a story to tell."
John always took his time with me, and every time I saw him, he would ask me if I had
another story for him. He was always ready to listen. The different times we would go
on a missing person case or old murder cases, he was always serious and listened.
Thanks to him, he helped me to be able to come in contact with more people to help me
with my cause with the poor and homeless, and we always talked about our cats.
I will never ever have a friend like John. Never.
Bill Ward
'Dedicated public servant'
John Whiteside was a dedicated public servant for the facts, journalism and veterans'
affairs.
For 35 years, I followed John's auspicious and professional career as a family man,
ex-soldier, newspaper man, friend and investigative reporter.
John's legacy of impartiality in journalism will no doubt be one of the community's
greatest assets. But equally important in communications was John's ability to report
what wasn't said in negotiations.
John leaves behind for us the examples he set in life: Those of accountability for
the path one chooses, commitment to the goals one sets and a genuine compassion for
the truth and humankind. These are the traits of a community legend: faith,
commitment and integrity.
Elmo R. Younger
Sergeant at arms
Abraham Lincoln National Cemetery
A great communicator
John expertly used the magic of words to communicate with us. Especially in the last
few months, his skill in communication really shone in how he related to us his
struggle and fight for his life.
His suffering is now over, but the words he wrote will live forever.
John, may your soul go on in peace.
Andy Janz
A compassionate professional
In May of 1975, when I was 18 years old, I was attacked while walking at night and
was stabbed five times, including once in the chest. John Whiteside called me in my
hospital room the next morning to interview me for a story for the paper. He followed
up with another story later in the week and called a year later to interview me for a
story on victims of crime. I felt his handling of the matter, and his manner with me,
were extremely professional and compassionate.
I have always thought highly of him and am deeply saddened by his death. All of
Joliet has experienced a major loss.
Roberta Drake
Lived his passion
I was an employee at The Herald News in the advertising department on Aug. 28, 1990,
when the tornado changed a hot afternoon into a nightmare for many in our area.
I will never forget when the storm was raging through our area of Joliet, on
Caterpillar Drive, the electricity went out. We in advertising didn't know the
severity of the storm, or its power of destruction at that point. Several of us in
advertising went to observe the rain and wind from the windows at the rear of The
Herald News building where the employee parking lot was located.
We couldn't believe the amount of rain and the wind, it was impossible to even see
our cars in the lot. The newsroom already knew what had just happened in Plainfield
and was happening in Crest Hill, and I will never forget John Whiteside, John Patsch
and several others from the newsroom just opening the door and disappearing into the
driving rain as they ran to their vehicles. They knew they had a job to do and were
determined to get the story, they didn't hesitate. John Whiteside would later write
about the stories of personal tragedy and loss that occurred on that day. He truly
was a dedicated journalist, he enjoyed what he did and lived his passion every day.
He will be missed.
Becky Barkley
Bright, smiling face
I had the fortunate opportunity to work for The Herald News for two months in 2004.
The first time I met John, I was walking on the "bridge" out of the office as he was
walking in. John will always be remembered by his bright, smiling face, despite his
cancer pains. God bless you, Mary Jane and Shelley, for having the courage and
strength during this difficult time.
To The Herald News staff and reporters and Randy Chapman: May you have the strength
to continue a wonderful newspaper. Even though John has gone to heaven, his legacy
will live among us all.
Anonymous
A belated thank you
When my youngest son, Scott, graduated from Joliet West in 1985, we were dismayed to
see on the graduation program that night that he was not given credit for being in
the National Honor Society, the top 10 percent of his class, or any other achievement
for which he worked so hard.
Upon calling Arlene Albert to complain, we were told this was a printer's oversight
and nothing could be done. Case closed.
I was so upset, I wrote to John Whiteside. He called back, and we met at a
restaurant. I came with a copy of the program and my son's report card. John wrote
the nicest column, praising Scott for all of his efforts. I received more calls after
that column appeared, because more people saw it than would ever have seen the
graduation program.
I am so sorry that I never wrote or called John again to tell him that my son went on
to graduate from the University of Illinois with an electrical engineering degree,
moved to California, got an excellent job, went on to get an MBA from Stanford
University and is doing very well today.
Thanks to John, he got the credit he deserved, which I am sure boosted his confidence
and made him realize that someone cared about what he achieved.
We will truly miss this wonderful man.
Judy Koren
Joliet
Big void to fill
I met John Whiteside four years ago, due to an interview request. My daughter was a
student of Jennifer Happ, and he wanted to interview my daughter to find out what
lasting effect, if any, the death of her teacher had caused. Although it was
difficult for my daughter, who was 13 years old at the time of the interview, Mr.
Whiteside made her feel at ease. Being able to talk about her memories of that day in
1996 to someone with the compassion and understanding that John possessed made an
extremely emotional interview much easier to conduct.
The passing of John Whiteside will leave a tremendous void in the world of journalism
that will be impossible to fill. My thoughts, prayers and deepest sympathy are with
the entire Whiteside and Herald News families.
Sue Welch
Making a difference
His care, love and courage meant so much and made a difference to the community, my
family and me. A small thank-you for your big heart, John.
Tula
A big help
When first I learned of John's illness, I went out to purchase a get-well card. Sadly
enough, I never mailed the card, but instead held onto it, saying a prayer every time
I thought of his request, "If you pray, say a prayer for me." Although the odds
seemed to be against him, I continued to pray for his recovery; that he would somehow
beat this dreadful disease that had taken so many lives. I'm writing this note
because in the late '90s, I solicited John's help in a matter that was causing me
grief and was way beyond my control.
I had taken every recourse possible to resolve the situation but unfortunately my
plea for help fell on deaf ears. I contacted John, he heard my story and soon wrote
an article on my behalf. The situation was immediately resolved and my life was
somewhat normal again. I owe many thanks to you John.
May you rest in peace,
Velisse Ammons-Williams
A great talent
I will surely miss reading John's stories and seeing his face in the Herald. Love
that hat. He had such great talent he could write about anything and make it
interesting and he shared so much of himself with us his readers. I will remember him
always.
Cheryl Tatro
Deeply touched
It is almost too difficult to put into words the sadness felt by the loss and
silencing of this great humanitarian and journalist, John Whiteside. I have read "his
stuff" for the 23 years that we have lived in this area and I have not missed too
many of those columns.
My husband and I had the privilege of speaking to John personally, not too long ago,
as he prepared to write about our daughter, Meghan Barney. Meghan was serving in the
U.S. Army and had been an honor guard for Ronald Reagan's funeral. After interviewing
Meghan "long distance" in Arlington, Va.. he wrote the most incredible story about
Meghan and her service to country. My husband and I were touched deeply by the words
he wrote about our daughter and it all must have been true, or John would not have
written it. Thank you John Whiteside, for your service to this community and its
people. You will be deeply missed.
Mary Pat Barney
Pen mightier than sword
Reflected on last weekend's news of John Whiteside and Johnny Carson passing along
with Jerry Lewis's comment about Carson as "having a piece of straw in his ear."
Whiteside had a pencil on his ear to jot thoughts for a variety of stories.
His personal Osama challenge story, not to bring sympathy to him, but so others know
and be supportive of loved ones. His pen was mightier than the sword as he touched
the lives of many. The Taylor Pirc Camera, The Whiteside Museum and Ceremonial Squad,
the Veterans Monument, etc., accomplishments brought about by dedication writing.
His love for America, the people who served [serving] to make America, under God, a
united home of the free, and serving our communities. John's love and pride of
country and people will flourish forever, as his accomplishments will always be
around us.
Al Evans
Joliet
A courageous man
I always enjoyed John's stories, especially the recent installments of Molly Zelko's
tale. I'm glad he decided to continually write about his courageous battle with
cancer in his column, allowing us readers to go through it with him in a sense. When
I wrote him last year and mentioned I was a five-year Hodgkins disease survivor, he
asked if he could write my story, and I agreed. We spoke on the phone, trying to fit
it into both of our schedules. However, the day we were to meet, he was feeling ill
from his condition, and our appointment was canceled.
I will always regret never getting to meet him face to face. And I'll forever miss
seeing his photo there on top of the front page, with the wonderment it brought about
what tale he was going to tell inside the paper that day.
Dawn Boe
No one like him
My husband and I have read John's column for about 14 years, ever since subscribing
to The Herald News. We were lucky enough to meet him and his wife, Mary Jane, at the
cancer walk last June. It was exciting to meet him, after reading his stories for all
these years. We were rather speechless as to what to say to a man who was so good
with words.
We purchased some tickets in hopes to win one of his birdhouses, and a few days later
got that call. Once it's put outside we will always think of that day when we met. If
you're listening John, you had many talents, there is no one like you. Your writing
will be greatly missed.
We enjoyed reading what you wrote, especially about your cancer. God bless your
family.
The Voelzes
Lockport
An instant friend
I moved here 10 years ago not knowing anyone in the area. Once I read John's column I
knew I had a friend.
Goodbye John. You leave a lot of friends, My condolences to the family.
G. Francis
A sincere coach
A couple years ago The Herald News embarked on a new campaign to get more community
"voices" in the paper and the Common Sense column was born. I remember John
Whiteside's enthusiasm as he read some of the first few columns aloud to the group of
10 aspiring writers — I was proud to be part of that group.
John was like a kid in the proverbial candy store and a proud father all at once as
he read hundreds of proposed entries and told us that night we were the best of the
best. I was privileged to have dinner with him and Jan Larsen that evening and we
talked about how Joliet and the area has changed over the years and how many stories
there were to tell, John knew that everybody had a story.
His coaching and help throughout that first year was sincere and helpful as our
columns were born and published. Sometimes he let us have it, other times fought back
a tear, but he was especially proud of all of us.
We will miss him, pray for him, thanks John.
Bill Theobald
Cannot be replaced
Dear John,
When today's edition (Jan. 23) of The Herald News was opened over Sunday morning
coffee, there was a collective gasp and then an explosion of tears throughout
countless homes in Will County. How could it be possible, John, that you are no
longer with us? We who have followed your journey through cancer-land these past 16
months. We who knew that you have been very, very sick, but always hoped and prayed
that you would beat the "beast."
We could not and cannot fathom our lives and our community and The Herald News
without you. How can we possibly go on without you, John, you who cannot be replaced?
Whether we have walked with you through the past 34 years that you have been on the
staff of The Herald News or whether we have only recently read your columns, you have
been our No. 1 reporter, our friend, the eyes and ears and heart of our community as
you have opened our eyes and ears and hearts to so many important issues and
introduced us to so very many people in our community.
As we read the incomprehensible news today and poured over the stories which your
colleagues wrote about you, our thoughts turned to your beloved wife, Mary Jane, your
cherished daughter, Shelley, your wonderful mother, Jane, your siblings and their
families and all of your friends. We all prayed for a miracle for you, John, that you
would be cured and healthy once again. That was not meant to be, but perhaps you
received many little miracles during these past 16 months.
Those of us who have walked the cancer road understood what you wrote about your
experience with cancer. Those who have not had cancer could not understand your need
to be so graphic but that's OK because we usually cannot understand anything unless
we have experienced it.
Wasn't it just like you to write us one final column? This morning, we were amazed
that you had the courage and the strength to do this and we clung to every word,
knowing that it would be the last time that you spoke to us.
You will always be in our hearts, John, and always be a part of The Herald News and
of our community. We will miss you and we will never forget you, John, because we do
not every forget those whom we love and we have loved you, John, with all of our
hearts.
Janet Jurmann
Joliet
George Bailey of Joliet
John Whiteside was the George Bailey of Joliet. He courageously shared himself with
all of us, walking into the hearts of everyone he touched. He used his skilled tools
of journalism, driven by his passion for decency to fulfill his mission in life. He
was our voice in a world that has grown too big to listen to our hearts. His death
has left a silence and void that we will learn to live with, but we will never forget
the man who told our stories and cared enough even in his final days to leave us one
last message and say goodbye. God bless you John Whiteside. The comfort of your
presence in our community will be missed.
Bonnie Grachan
Resident historian, great human
I was truly saddened by the passing of John Whiteside this past Saturday. I will
dearly miss his interesting articles covering the heroics of the area's World War II
veterans, as well as his coverage of Civil War events and veterans. History is my
passion, and John Whiteside fulfilled some of that passion.
I recall reading numerous columns that he wrote, whether on World War II or the Civil
War, and I would yell to my wife, "Make sure you read Whiteside's column today." Will
County has lost its resident historian and a great human being. John, make sure you
give all those veterans who gave their last full measure of devotion a big
"thank-you" from all of us for giving Americans the freedom we all enjoy.
Tim Wenzlowski
Shorewood
Never the same again
I never had the opportunity to meet John Whiteside, but I considered him my friend.
We visited every day in my home via his column. He had a way of writing that you just
felt like you were sitting at your kitchen table with him and sipping on a hot cup of
coffee, just talking. He made me laugh, cry and ponder things of life. He had such
variety to his column. You never knew what he might write about. He found a story in
everything, no matter how small or how big it might be. He was real. He was honest
but most of all he was a man of integrity. I'll miss our morning cup of coffee
together John. Getting The Herald News will never again be the same.
Donna Priest
Hooked on his column
As a kid, I remember taking my dad's Herald News from him after he was finished
reading it to try and find John Whiteside's column. Ever since my mom told me about
the "legend" of Molly Zelko and how Zelko worked for a newspaper that was owned by my
grandma's neighbor, I was hooked every week to see if Mr. Whiteside had uncovered
something new with this case.
I wish I could say that I had the privilege to meet Mr. Whiteside, maybe have a cup
of coffee with him, shoot the breeze on what he has seen in his experiences, but I
never got to meet him personally. I do know that I will greatly miss looking for his
columns. The Zelko case was my favorite to read about, but he always found a way to
strike my interest on anything he wrote about. My deepest sympathy to his family,
friends and colleagues.
Andie McCarthy
City Clerk
City of Lockport
Deepest sympathies
In 1996, Mr. Whiteside wrote a heart-warming article about our father, Michael
McReynolds, after he was diagnosed with bone cancer, and only given a short time left
on this earth.
The McReynolds family would like to send our deepest sympathies to the entire
Whiteside family during this tough time. Our prayers are with you. John will never be
forgotten.
Michael McReynolds II and family
Joliet
A learning experience
We were first introduced to John through the persistence of the neighborhood paper
girl who insisted we needed seven-day delivery at our new home 10 years ago. And
through his stories, we were introduced to the rich history of our new hometown.
Clues of the character of the man writing the tale were imbedded in every column.
Then he shared himself fully with his own saga. The "blessing of cancer" took us
aback — and made us think. His spiritual growth filled him with love and wrapped him
in a cloak of dignity.
We will truly miss John. May he be at peace with our God.
Gary and Deb Michalowski
Joliet
A remarkable journalist
John was a remarkable journalist. His articles will be missed. Always on A2 of the
paper and very easy to read. Our prayers to the family.
David Scott
Braidwood
Hoping mystery is solved
My family has always read his columns and enjoyed them immensely. He was such a
talented man, and from his writings, you could tell he was a compassionate one as
well. His drive to find Molly Zelko was something we always watched with interest and
we had hoped he would be able to "crack" that case. Well, we now believe he has met
her and the mystery is solved, at least for him. His search for answers and
resolution is what defined this man.
Our sincere sympathy to his wife and daughter and all his friends. He is someone we
will all miss, and his articles regarding his cancer and his search for the cure was
outstanding and a help to many who suffer that horrible disease and wish for some
understanding and cure.
Thanks for sharing all the articles about his life in the paper Sunday. It was
wonderful. He will be greatly missed.
Bob and Rena Snyder
Plainfield
Always worth reading
John was truly a gifted writer. Through his many articles/columns he could evoke
laughter, tears, warm fuzzy feelings and patriotism as well as garner support for
many needy or lost causes.
His writing was factual, informative, educational and entertaining. His columns were
always worth the read and enriched my day. His shoes can never be filled. He was one
of kind. I, for one, will sorely miss him.
Thank you, John.
Mary Getzelman
Joliet
Sincere condolences
I just wanted to offer my most sincere condolences to the Whiteside family in the
loss of John. From reading the column over the years he seemed like a compassionate
man and his writing will be missed. I will keep the family in my prayers. God will
see them through.
Lisa Moulton
A lot of respect
I'm just a reader of Mr. Whiteside's column, not an acquaintance of his. So when I
had this question about a missing person I had worked with about 15 years ago, a
story he had covered (I thought I had missed an article somewhere throughout the
years saying if she had ever been found and if justice was ever served) I thought I
might give him a call and ask him. But I also thought, "Yeah right, he might have
time to be bothered by me." He not only talked to me but he was so kind and made me
feel like we knew each other. He didn't even rush the conversation as if he didn't
have time or interest in what I was asking. And for that I respected him all the more
... as just a reader of Mr. John Whiteside.
My sympathy goes out to his wife and daughter, family and friends. And also to all of
us readers of his articles, he will be sadly missed. Mr. Whiteside your gone but
won't be forgotten.
Diana English
Lesson learned
I just wanted to write to say how sorry I am for your loss (all of our loss). I have
been reading his columns for a while now. I have been so touched by him in a way I
can't explain. Reading about his illness has hit home for many reasons. I have prayed
for this man that I never knew. And when I opened up the paper on Sunday and found
out that he passed, I was very sad. I called my dad right away, we would always talk
about his columns. It just has made me realize how precious life is. And to
appreciate everything in my life. So with that I would like to say thank you to the
man I didn't know. I have in the past six months wanted to write, but I didn't.
I wished I had. Thinking and praying for Mr. Whiteside and his family and everyone at
the newspaper.
Lyn Melnick
Joliet
A great mentor
John Whiteside was assigned to be my mentor right after I was selected to be a Common
Sense columnist. After my first column ran, John sent me a simple e-mail. It said,
"You go, girl!"
I printed out the e-mail and took it home to show my family. I even forwarded it to a
few close friends. I just thought he was the coolest person ever. I don't think I'm
alone in thinking that.
Natalie Ruffatto
Common Sense Columnist
Many lives touched
John Whiteside was a decent man of high morals and values, which he instilled in his
many columns. His standards made clear the difference between right and wrong. He had
courage and strength. He wasn't afraid to say what he believed was correct.
He will long be remembered for his columns which supported so many organizations and
for the success which was achieved. He touched so many lives, including mine.
I will always remember an interview with him at his favorite restaurant on Jefferson
Street. Rita Bentson and I met with him when he wanted to do a story on the little
one-room McKanna School we had attended 60 years ago.
Another memory is about the time I worked with him for a program for the Prime Timers
of the Will County Farm Bureau. He spoke to the group, giving interesting accounts of
his career as a reporter and writer for The Herald News.
After his presentation, he gave me a copy of his book, "More of John Whiteside's
Columns." I shall always treasure this book. He signed a copy for me.
Virginia Sass
Joliet
'Told it like it was'
Dear John,
You are resting peacefully now, we are so glad. You put up one hell of a fight. I
didn't miss a story about your melanoma. Writing about your trials and tribs, I
believe, was your final glory. You needed to tell your story to people who have never
had or heard of melanoma. It's a nasty, nasty cancer. Having Mary Jane and Shelley
with you for comfort along your hard road made it less bumpy, I'm sure. Your two
women are magnificent.
I had a melanoma surgery in 1985 when I was 25 years old. Thank God it was taken very
early. There's not a day when I go out into the sun that I don't think about it. I am
on my kids constantly to wear sunscreen. I hope that it pays off.
Well, I'm writing for Dorothy Cryder, too. She absolutely loved you like a son. I
feel like I know you very well through her. She told many stories of you and Hawk
when you were working in the downtown office Sam would come with her on Saturdays.
Sam always talked about Hawk's menacing eyes, but he was like a pussy cat inside.
Dorothy would give him money to go run around downtown — get his haircut and buy
whatever — it usually ended up being candy. I can't imagine doing that now. He must
have been my son, Pieter's age, 12.
Even though we can't be there to see you off tomorrow, I'm sure Dorothy has already
seen you in heaven. What a great newspaper staff in heaven. You all will have a
cocktail party, I'm sure.
Goodbye, John. Sam and I always thought you were great. You told it like it was. Your
greatest story was about yourself — making people face the truth about melanoma
cancer. I am very proud of what you did. Please tell Dorothy that we love her and
miss her.
Nancy Cryder
(Sam's wife, Dorothy's daughter-in-law)
The best
Dear John, I guess this is too late in coming. I just heard of your death and I wish
I had sent this letter sooner. Anyway, I am sending it to you in hopes you will feel
the thanks I am sending. Here goes:
Back in the '83, I went through a bad divorce. In May of '83, I was given custody of
my three sons.
However, my wife was given alimony. With the expense of raising the three sons and
having to pay her alimony, I decided to run with the boys. We moved from state to
state for years. Some of my family thought of me wrongly, until you wrote the
article. You helped put my family on my side. It was easier for my sons to talk with
their cousins in the Joliet area. Thank you so much. You don't know how much this
helped my sons and me.
What happened to the boys? The oldest is teaching; he has a son. The second son is
working as a physical trainer back in the Joliet area; he has a daughter. My third
son, having the most problem not growing up without a mother, works on a computer. He
is hoping to move back to the Joliet area someday; he has a daughter, too.
As for me, after my last son moved out, I went to the Philippines and met a beautiful
young woman, who has now given me a fourth son. I am currently in Wisconsin. I, too,
am seeking a job back in Chicago metro area and hope to move back to the Joliet area.
You are the best. You have done more for my family than I can thank you for. Thanks a
million times for all the people you touched.
Sincerely,
Mr. V.
Still on the lam ...
Remarkable, indeed
"Remarkable journalist," indeed. It will be a long, long time before I will be able
to turn to page 2, first column on the left-hand side of the HN, and not be
disappointed not to read one of his wonderful columns.
Barb Whyte
Channahon
Lesson on listening
I never got to spend a lot of time with John Whiteside, but I do remember him telling
me for years and years that, "Everyone has a story to tell if you just listen" and
that has stuck with me my entire life.
Thanks, Uncle Johnny, for teaching me to listen. You are loved very much and will be
sadly missed.
Cheryl Monette (Niece)
Paragould, Ark.
A man of many hats
Dear Sir,
John Whiteside and I first became acquainted when I was a young Joliet police
detective in approximately 1972. He would always stop in the Investigation Division
and ask if anything was going on and would review reports of ongoing investigations.
Over the years, we became friends and John wrote numerous articles regarding
investigations that I had been involved in.
In 1998, when I became the Rockdale police chief, John stopped by my office and
stated he would like to write another article regarding my appointment, and I agreed.
We talked for an hour or so as John took notes in his handy notebook. As we completed
our interview, John stated to me, "Would you say police work is like riding a bicycle
after all your years?" and I replied, "You could say that."
A week or so later, when the article appeared in The Herald News, the first thing I
observed was the caption of the article, "Police Work Like Riding a Bicycle for
Rockdale Chief."
I would say John was a crusader, wore a lot of different hats. When John set his mind
on a project, you could be assured it would be reality.
John was a true friend, one who will be missed by all.
Respectfully,
Richard W. Baum
Chief of Police
Rockdale Police Department
The best
Sorry to hear of the loss of John Whiteside. Have enjoyed his writing over the years.
He was the best.
Charles Book
Honolulu, Hawaii
Hope to see him again
I will miss you John. Although I moved from Joliet 12 years ago, I could still read
your column online. I looked forward to it every day as you always lent a helping
hand to someone.
Hope to see you "Up There" sometime when it's my time.
J. Michael Niner
Branson, Mo.
Farewell to a friend
How the heck do you sum up what John has meant to us in a 150 words? That's like
trying to cram a bushel of apples into a quart bowl.
He entertained us, made us laugh, cry and yes sometimes downright angry. His love of
a good story is what endeared him most to me. So like my own father. We cheered as
you fought this battle, John, and cried as it was becoming apparent the beast was
beating you. I don't know how to say goodbye to all that you've given us over the
years, but grateful you opened your heart and let us share with you your final
battle. Please know that our love and prayers will be with Mary Jane and Shelley in
the days to come.
Farewell friend, and I think we all know the good man upstairs was definitely giving
you a nod to enter.
Sandra Mabry Richardson
Straight talker
The best thing about John was the fact that you could depend on him to give it to you
straight, whether it was what you wanted to hear or not. Our truth teller in today's
world of cover-ups, lies and smoke screens. I think a book should be printed with his
columns from over the years.
We'll miss you, John.
Connie Butler
Channahon
Dedicated and heartfelt
I have spoken to and met John Whiteside many times through the years, with some being
the most important events of my family's lives. The first time I met him, I told him
it was an honor to meet him, and it was. Mr. Whiteside was a very dedicated
journalist. He wanted to tell the stories with heartfelt words. He wanted his readers
to get to know the people involved and to care about them. His passing is a great
loss for his family, friends, the city of Joliet and to his readers. I do not believe
that The Herald News will be the same without him. To his family, I send you my
thoughts and prayers. John, I hope you finally found out what happened to Molly. You
probably slapped your head saying, "I should have thought of looking there."
With sadness, I say goodbye, John. Rest in peace.
Mrs. Dale Weiss
Champion of many causes
One could write so much more than 150 words about John Whiteside. I have been a
longtime subscriber to The Herald News, and I was hooked on John's columns early on.
They became the thing I went to first when I opened the paper. The world just seemed
a better place with him in it. We always knew he was interested in the common person,
not always the celebrity. He championed the cause of the fallen, the forgotten and
the unsung heroes. He faced his own fate with bravery and honesty.
My prayers are now with his family. He will be dearly missed.
Jane
Crest Hill
He'll be missed
Mr. Whiteside was a very nice man. He really loved to share his journalistic talents
with younger children. When he visited the Washington Academy Inkling staff in 2003,
which I was a part of, we really got to know the man behind the column. He was
greatly loved and will forever be missed.
Lacey Thomas
So much to give
Thank you, Mr. Whiteside, for giving me so much, and yet I never met you. You will be
missed by so many, but your teachings will live on for years.
Jim Stonehouse
Shorewood
Mentor and hero
I worked with John on the Will County Police Memorial, the Abraham Lincoln National
Cemetery and the 9-11 Memorial Program at Woodlawn Memorial Park and other community
projects. As a news reporter and writer, he was my mentor; as a veteran, he was my
hero; as a man going through extreme pain, he was my example of strength by being
candid and emotional; as a Christian, he was my brother who saw the light and shared
it.
We had a long talk on the day I sang for the Will County Police Memorial Dedication
at the courthouse, and I really saw the softer side of John and how he believed in
that memorial dedication. I will cherish my memories of John and his "birdhouse"
forever. God bless his memory, his family, friends and co-workers.
Jackie (Carlson-Koca) Countryman
Joliet
'Truly an inspiration'
John Whiteside was truly an inspiration. His column was one I never missed. He told
it like it as. John's strength was evident in his writing and in sharing his struggle
down the slippery slope of fighting the "beast" made all of us realize what love,
faith and family are all about. It also made us realize how fragile life can become
in a flash.
I will miss this great interesting articles as I am sure the entire Herald News
reading community will also.
My sympathy to the Whiteside family.
Shirley Cavanaugh
A personal goodbye
In October 2003, we lost a dear friend, Dan Stobbe, a retired Joliet police officer,
to cancer. My wife, June, and I returned from the funeral, and were sitting at the
kitchen table with the patio door open, discussing the day's events. There was no
wind, and the wind chimes on the deck tinkled, just once. June said Dan just got his
wings.
Jan. 21, 2005, I noticed that the wind chimes had come off the hook and were lying on
the deck. This has never happened before. I put them back on the hook Sunday morning
and walked out to get The Herald News. I was busy so I handed the paper to June. She
then told me John had died. The wind chimes are hooked to a little blue and white
birdhouse that John so much loved to build.
John, thank you for your way of saying goodbye.
Bob Persicketti
Elwood
Columns were uplifting
I have received The Herald News for over 20 years, and I always loved John
Whiteside's column. I didn't know John personally, but I felt like I did for he was
so great in his columns. I thought it was admirable that he could write so well even
after he was afflicted with cancer.
I am sure his honesty with the affliction has helped many people who also are
suffering. When I was down, his column would help uplift me. He is in my prayers and
I am sure he is smiling down from heaven on all of us now. Thank you, John, for your
great personal thoughts. God bless Mary Jane.
Kathy Stachula
A big loss
Our community lost a great man, a great storyteller and a great friend. We all will
weep and pray for all those that his life has touched. God bless.
Jean Hatsis
Touching articles
I was very touched by the articles John Whiteside wrote about his ordeal with cancer.
I read his other articles on occasion as well whenever I picked up a newspaper but
the articles about his cancer are the ones that really hit me.
My dad, Chuck Zaino, was diagnosed with lung cancer in July 2002. He just passed away
Jan. 4 of this year. About two weeks prior to his passing, we had found out the
cancer had spread to his brain. John's articles about his chemotherapy made me
understand what my dad was thinking and feeling while he was going through the same
thing. He did not talk about it like John did to anyone.
I admire anyone who goes through all of the treatments of cancer. It is scary for
one's family members to hear of that word let alone what that person is feeling. I
cried every time I would read one of his articles and I cried to hear of his death. I
wish his family well and hope they get through this OK. My family is going through
the same thing and my heart goes out to them.
Gwen Giovengo
Always wanted more
I would like to offer my condolences to the family and friends of John Whiteside. His
passing, I am sure, leaves an unimaginable void in their lives. His legacy to all of
us, however, is his written word.
A native of Joliet transplanted (under great protest) many years ago to Chester
County, Pa., I possess a great affection and affinity for Joliet. Reading John
Whiteside's column kept me in touch with my "roots," so to speak. His pragmatism, wit
and journalistic integrity kept me returning to his column for more. To me, he was
the voice of Will County. John, I hope you get that Molly Zelko interview. You, above
all others, deserve it.
Patricia K. Allan Dodson, MHA
Chester County, Pa.
Forever grateful
My first job after college was as a news reporter and announcer at WJOL-WLLI from
1979 to 1984. In our newsroom, The Herald News represented the friendly competition.
However, John Whiteside was skilled, experienced and confident enough of his own
abilities to offer insight and background to this new kid on the block. I saw and
worked with John and his Herald News colleagues Leah Kerr and Madelyn Hildebrand as
much as I did my WJOL-WLLI colleagues. I am eternally grateful for their
collegiality.
As a news reporter, before turning full time to his column, John's heart was already
moving past his daily beats and on to finding stories about the people behind the
headlines. While part of John remained a classic, old-school "newspaperman," another
part was already becoming a gifted storyteller, sharing with readers the stories that
moved and intrigued him. As a columnist, he did so, and served his community
magnificently.
Pete Friedmann
Glenview
Sharing an experience
In the fall of 1988 my wife and I took our firstborn, Christina, to college at
Northern Illinois University at DeKalb. It was our first separation in 18 years.
Although she was only going to be 60 miles away, we knew it was the beginning of her
leaving the nest. We moved her pile of things into Grant Hall, kissed her goodbye and
left for home with very mixed feelings. We wanted her to get a good education and
succeed in life but we didn't want to lose our little girl.
A few days later John wrote a column titled "Shelley's Pile." It seems that John
brought his daughter, Shelley to the same school as she was also leaving home for the
first time. His "Shelley's Pile" column referring to her pile of things reflected our
thoughts and made my wife and me feel much better.
Thanks John.
Anonymous
A must-read
I learned of his articles through a family member of his years ago. Ever since then,
I have always read them. His articles made me feel like I knew him having never met.
I preferred his articles over the others. And if his article wasn't there I'd miss
them.
Thanks, John for making me feel like you where just writing for me to read.
Anonymous
Honest and courteous
John Whiteside interviewed me in one of his columns, when the tornado struck our home
on John Street in Joliet. I found him to be most honest and courteous. I wanted The
Herald News to know I will miss his columns in the future.
Thank you, Mary Jane, for allowing us to tell him goodbye. It was a very nice service
for a most deserving man. May God bless you and your family at this time of need.
Donna J. Robinson
Joliet
A constant reminder
John Whiteside and I became friends through his cancer journey. I remember I was so
very excited and proud that he was going to walk the survivor's lap with the rest of
us at the Joliet West Relay for Life.
That was truly a very special day.
I shall always remember, too, the phone conversation he and I had just before
Thanksgiving. We shared cancer strategies, hopes, dreams, prayers and wishes. I told
him to continue working on his birdhouses, that it was excellent therapy for him.
I don't suppose I'll ever look at birdhouses in the same way ever again. Whenever I
see one, I'll think of my friend, John, look up to the heavens and smile. Do you
suppose he'll have a workshop in heaven, as well?
Carol J. Webber
Joliet
'Everyone had a story'
John told me once, "Be a friend and listen to others' needs. Everyone has a story to
tell, Sharon. They in turn will hear your needs and be willing to help."
Volunteers are so important to the Senior Service Center of Will County. Without
volunteers we could never accomplish all we do. Thank you, John, for all the advice
and encouragement you gave me as a friend. You always returned my calls and made time
to listen to my needs as I struggled to fill volunteer positions. You always had a
story to tell, that then would encourage me with advice.
Heaven has plenty of room for special friends like you, John. May you rest in peace.
On behalf of the Senior Service Center of Will County, we will be forever grateful.
Sharon Bockholdt
Senior Services Center of Will County
Long live his memory
John Whiteside was a very good writer with a kind and caring heart. He championed
causes that many would not consider because of the lack of significance or
importance. But Mr. Whiteside knew they were important to the people they affected,
so he told their stories.
He took the time to write about the death of our daughter-in-law and eased a lot of
our bitterness. Incidentally, the anniversary of her death and his funeral coincided.
Long live the memory and the concern of John Whiteside.
The McCarl family
Never the same
A week after our 2 1/2-year-old daughter passed away, my wife and I were still in a
state of shock but started reflecting on Ashlyn's two-year battle with a severe
seizure disorder. Through our toughest times the support from our family, friends and
community was overwhelming.
I called John to tell him our story. We wanted everyone who helped us along the way
to know how much their support meant to us. His tone was deep but gentle. He listened
to my story and wanted to talk over a cup of coffee. Unfortunately, our schedules
conflicted, however my wife went to his office the next day. He called us at home
that night to finish the interview. He wrote a beautiful column that told not only of
an unfair world, but also of the kindness of people that go out of their way to help
others.
The left side of Page 2 will never be the same.
Brian and Dawn Daniels
Inspiration to many
On behalf of Apostle George Aja and Pastor Angela Aja and all of us here at Embassy
Christian Center, you and your staff have our deepest and most heartfelt condolences
on the tragic loss of Mr. John Whiteside. He will be greatly missed, and was an
inspiration to many. Please know that our prayers are with his family, friends and
co-workers.
Beatrice C. Spivey
Cared about people
John Whiteside will be missed. I met John in 1992 when my brother Jimmie Anderson was
shot in the head while he turned on his TV in Evergreen Apartments on the city's West
Side.
I remember the day when John came to the door and gave the family a hug. I could look
in his eyes and tell he cares about people.
John, you will be missed. See you in heaven.
Vanessa Anderson
Joliet
'Never boring'
John Whiteside's columns were never boring. I read every one. Not like the Chicago
papers which never equaled the quality of John's writing.
My prayers for his recovery were so he could find closure about Molly Zelko.
Evelyn Dolasin
Joliet
Always a presence
Anytime I went to the Silver Spoon Restaurant with my brothers, you would see John
Whiteside, facing the people as they were coming in, with a smile on his face,
waiting to hear some good stories.
When he wrote those stories, we all enjoyed them. He will be greatly missed.
Helen (Trizna) Lakota
'A great loss'
I'm really going to miss seeing the kind, serious face of John Whiteside in my
newspaper. What a great loss for his family and all of the many friends he had in
Joliet and the surrounding areas.
He was so strong and fought so hard to beat "the beast." It's so nice that you're
showing so much respect for such a wonderful person. God bless you all.
Rose Kambic
'Man on a mission'
John Whiteside helped me and my family through some of the darkest days of our lives,
when my 4-year-old granddaughter, Taylor, was killed by a drunken driver. He
encouraged us to do the "Taylor Pirc Video Camera Project," which ended up putting 60
cameras in police cars in all of Will County.
He was a man on a mission. John has made such an impact on so many lives. God bless
him and his family.
Bernadine Pirc
A letter from Molly
My Dear John,
I hope you will be able to read this letter from heaven.
Thank you for all of the kind words and thoughts you wrote about me over the years. I
have enjoyed reading all of your articles about me.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. By the way, I hope that man is not mad
about digging up his garage floor. That was a good one, John. You are a real card.
Maybe I'll see you again someday.
"Molly Zelko"
An important man
There could never be enough time or space to tell of how important John Whiteside
made me feel as he called to tell my story of "Proud Tom Turkey Fought Back."
Many people sent me copies to tell me they enjoyed it. I never missed his columns,
especially the last three years since I found out that I have the C-word (colon
cancer).
I will miss his day-to-day reports and only wish I could have told him how much he
helped me in this fight. Somehow I feel he knows, as I say, "Thanks Buddy."
Pearl Lovel
Morris
Touching our lives
A fond John Whiteside memory unfolded one Sunday morning as I was having breakfast at
the Silver Spoon.
After I ate, I told my sister that I wanted to greet John and Mary Jane, and ask if
he had any birdhouses for sale. He said to give them about 10 or 15 minutes after
they left the restaurant, and they'd meet us at the house.
They greeted and welcomed us into their home with such warmth and care that I'll
never forget it. You see, we didn't know them at all. We just knew how special they
were to our town.
After viewing all of his creations, even some in progress down in the basement, we
had a big decision to make. The work of his hands on our masterpieces (chimneys and
all) will be forever cherished.
Thank you John and Mary Jane for touching our lives in such a special way.
Judi Booklund and sister
An impressive man
I met John and Mary Jane in the '80s. I was deeply impressed by his compassionate
caring and gentleness of strength.
In the '90s, I needed his expertise and wisdom. I was at a West Side nursing center
where there were 100 mentally ill patients to one nurse. I couldn't believe what I
was experiencing. This was all changed in 1969 when the state of Illinois did spot
checks.
I called John at 8:30 a.m. He responded at 8:45 a.m. That's what I will miss.
John
Joliet
We'll meet again
I'll miss John tremendously. It was through his stories that God touched my heart to
write letters of encouragement to many of the people he wrote about.
In October 2003, I sent John two books, including "Postcards from Heaven." A few days
later, he called me. We bonded instantly. My advice was, "Take one step at a time.
When one suffers, God opens our eyes and ears in different ways. God will use you,
even in your sickness, he will strengthen you to write and tell a story from a
patient's point of view."
I prayed with John that day. He said that my voice was like music to his ears, and he
hoped to have lunch with me someday. Sadly, it never happened. Yet, I know someday we
two shall have lunch-feasting, celebrating, rejoicing with the angels and saints of
heaven.
Patricia Offerman
Elwood
A book needed
I think it would be wonderful if a book could be put together of all the columns John
Whiteside wrote throughout the years.
I never missed his column, and it would be a special keepsake to have all of his
wonderful columns together. I would be first in line to purchase it. Perhaps the
money could be used for one of John's causes. He worked so hard for through the
years. He would like that.
Diane Liker
Joliet
He 'got it'
I met John in 1994. My father's wife of 26 years had not arrived home from work the
night before. We were beside ourselves. One of my close friends suggested, after
searching all night, that I call a man named John Whiteside at The Herald News. I was
told that he writes about missing people — he helps people.
So I called John, and a true friendship began. At a time when no one "gets it," no
one quite understands the grief that a family goes through. The unspeakable fear, the
sadness, disbelief, and pain. No one but John. He listened so attentively, he felt
our sadness. You knew he felt it. He sat and listened to every emotion we could pour
out and then went to work.
John really wanted to help solve everyone's problems. For the last 10 years, I've cut
John's hair, and you can't imagine how close those friendships are. Every month, we
swapped stories and jokes. But still, he wanted to know how you felt, and how you
were. He was truly gift with great compassion and understanding. I loved John right
away. I love him still.
We have lost a good friend, a brother and comrade. My only fear is who will fight our
fights? Who will listen.
John's barber (I hated it when he called me that, and he knew it), or rather John's
"follicle engineer,"
Kathe Dooley
'Phantom in the Night'
John Whiteside was like a "Phantom in the Night." We lived across the street from
John, Mary Jane and Shelley. Our bedroom faced John's house.
When John was an investigative reporter, it was as if the time of day or night didn't
matter. Whenever headlights flashed into our bedroom at night, we knew a Herald News
reporter or photographer was picking up John. Sure enough the following day, The
Herald News verified John's night-time escapades.
Our family will keep John and his family in our prayers.
Julie Lorenc
01/29/05