Male Nipple Piercings and Public Exposure
Jaguar
about 1.5 years ago and both my wife and I love them.
I am comfortable with them in all but one area -- I
am reluctant to go shirtless, exposing the piercings,
in public places such as a park or even a beach. I
can do so at private gatherings, especially when others
in the group may be similarly adorned; however, I usually
cringe at the thought of strangers possibly staring, pointing
or made rude or comical comments. Conversely, I love seeing
other peoples piercings, whereever they may be located.
My wife thinks I should just "grin and bare them", but still
I hesitate. I wonder how many other men with pierced nipples
may be reluctant to expose them in generally public areas such
as a park or a beach. I think I understand why most women with
such piercings may not choose to expose themselves ... :*)
Is it just "false modesty"?
Sean A Corfield
jag...@buffnet.net (Jaguar) wrote:
|> My wife thinks I should just "grin and bare them", but still
|> I hesitate. I wonder how many other men with pierced nipples
|> may be reluctant to expose them in generally public areas such
|> as a park or a beach.
I agree with your wife. I was keen to show mine off and walked for several
miles along a crowded beach in Summer and, to be honest (and to my
disappointment), not all that many people reacted at all. :-(
I think you're worrying too much about how others will react.
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Rick Bannerman
> I am a male with pierced nipples. I had them pierced
> about 1.5 years ago and both my wife and I love them.
> I am comfortable with them in all but one area -- I
> am reluctant to go shirtless, exposing the piercings,
> in public places such as a park or even a beach.
[snippity...]
> My wife thinks I should just "grin and bare them", but still
> I hesitate. I wonder how many other men with pierced nipples
> may be reluctant to expose them in generally public areas such
> as a park or a beach. I think I understand why most women with
> such piercings may not choose to expose themselves ... :*)
> Is it just "false modesty"?
It ain't 'false'; if you're hesitant, you're hesitant. Personally, I
agree with your wife but it is YOUR body. Your decision, regardless of
what your wife, myself, or the man in the moon says. Maybe if you find
yourself a nice decorative chain to suspend between them or some such
thing you'll WANT to show your beauties off?
Some of us are cheerfully admit to being exhibitionists... wear tank top
shirts that are lowcut enough to show our rings, cut our shirt sleeves to
show arm tats, etc. You are under ZERO obligation to emulate this.
Enjoy, whatever you decide!
Nursie
NURSE RATCHET AT ESKIMO
Yes, I'm an agent of the devil...
but my duties are mostly ceremonial.
Vespa 666
matter how good, bad, evil, odd, etc... somebody out there is not going to
like it. But there is a majority that will be keenly aware and attracted
to the fact that the nipples are pierced. If anything, I'd suspect you'd
get more appreciative looks that not. If people actually notice at all.
I find that so many people are oblivious to what is around them so I don't
think a couple of surgical steel rings at the nipple will cause a problem.
(Let alone a riot)
I agree with your wife, "Grin and bear it" After a day exposed, you never
know, you might actually like it.
Jonas
Vespa 6...@aol.com
Steve Truchon
>or made rude or comical comments. Conversely, I love seeing
>other peoples piercings, whereever they may be located.
>
other men with pierced nipples
>may be reluctant to expose them in generally public areas such
>as a park or a beach. I think I understand why most women with
>such piercings may not choose to expose themselves ... :*)
>
>Is it just "false modesty"?
>
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got your nipples pierced for what reason? - because you wanted to ! It's
a part of who you are. So be yourself and don't deny yourself a life
because of a fear of others opinions - Period.
I didn't have any piercing done til early '95' - I turned 40 in March 95 -
2 in left ear - 1 in the right - both nipples - navel - and tongue. I
spend a lot of time at the beach teaching scuba - my students are more
fascinated with my piercings than anything else, in fact alot of them have
gotten piercings cos after seeing mine at a conservative 40, it was okay
for them all of a sudden. Many of the people I work with also have been
suddenly "unchained" regarding piercing and I'm seeing some of them going
for it. Yeah, I get some strange looks now and then, but I classify those
folks as closed up individuals laden with many personal fears that they
refuse to face - and thats on them, not me !
Consider the possibility that you may well serve as a motivator for someone
else who's afraid to be "apart" from the "norm".
I don't know where you are geographically, I live in San Jose California
and I do understand that this would all be much easier here than in an area
that is ultra conservative.
S.B. Truchon
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Armii
Truchon) writes:
>I don't know where you are geographically, I live in San Jose California
>and I do understand that this would all be much easier here than in an
area
>that is ultra conservative.
>
This can make a big difference, not that I let it affect me. But I have
some friends that live in Royal Oak, MI. One of the least conservative
areas around Detroit, that plan to move to Seattle, WA. ONE of their
reasons is that it is much less conservitive than here. But then one of my
long time best friends moved to Seattle area and he thinks the place is
way too conservative and is talking about moving back to San Jose!!
I guess it's all a matter of perspective.
Liam R O'Toole
public. I tend to wear t-shirts in hot weather so as not to have the
ring visible. It will be even more interesting soon, as I want to
have the other nipple pierced too. Who knows though that may then
encourage the 'exposure'.
Liam
Gomez
Jaguar <jag...@buffnet.net> wrote:
Hi Jaguar, Gomez here.
>I am a male with pierced nipples.
Hey, so am I! What a coincidence! :-)
>I am comfortable with them in all but one area -- I
>am reluctant to go shirtless, exposing the piercings,
>in public places such as a park or even a beach.
It is human nature to dislike or fear ridicule. I can't fault you for
that, although I do hope you'll gain more self-confidence.
What I can offer is some of my experiences.
I am rather the opposite, I have no problem "showing off" my piercings,
although I don't do anything to flaunt them especially. I go clubbing a
lot, and frequently wear sheer, fishnet, or other revealing clothing that
shows my nipples. I also wear such stuff on the street. While I do get
asked about them, I've never had anyone sneer or point, or otherwise
ridicule me.
Realize that I also live in the local equivalent of Greenwich Village, so
it's possible that the locals here are less inclined to be surprised at
piercings. (simply _everyone_ is pierced in at least three places around here)
>My wife thinks I should just "grin and bare them", but still
>I hesitate. I wonder how many other men with pierced nipples
>may be reluctant to expose them in generally public areas such
>as a park or a beach.
Personally, I believe that the way to end the undesirable behavior that you
fear is to confront it. You may not run into it at all, and if you do, you
could just use it as an opportunity to educate someone.
>I think I understand why most women with
>such piercings may not choose to expose themselves ... :*)
Could also have something to with the fact that exposing a female chest is
still unlawful in many areas, for some stupid reason.
>Is it just "false modesty"?
I don't think so. What you say about not wanting to have people nudge each
other and mutter about you behind your back is entirely reasonable.
I recently went to a trade show in New Orleans. The area was much more
conservative than I had expected it to be. My extensive (well, for their
area, apparently) ear piercings drew a fair amount of attention. But
people were polite, and if I weren't unusually aware of my surroundings
(years of Aikido), I might not have noticed. No one pointed, no one stared
when I was looking, the few that I caught looking I just smiled at in a
friendly way, and go smiles in return. But I was aware that people were
quietly talking about me occasionally. Nobody was rude. I'd have gigged
them for that.
I found myself wondering what things would have been like if I had facial
piercings, such as an eyebrow or septum. :-)
Hope this gives you a small amount of perspective. Drop me an email if you
like.
Cheers,
Gomez
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Zach Turner
>some friends that live in Royal Oak, MI. One of the least conservative
>areas around Detroit, that plan to move to Seattle, WA. ONE of their
>reasons is that it is much less conservitive than here. But then one of
my
>long time best friends moved to Seattle area and he thinks the place is
>way too conservative and is talking about moving back to San Jose!!
>I guess it's all a matter of perspective.
Living in WA state, I would consider Seattle one of the least
conservative places in this state. I live in Eastern WA (Pasco) and
it's terrible conservative here and there are hardly any noticeable
pierced people here. Most people here would look down on any
piercings....but in Seattle, I feel much more free because
everything seems more relaxed. I guess it just is a matter of
perspective.
Zach
LiteBrite
> My wife thinks I should just "grin and bare them", but still
> I hesitate. I wonder how many other men with pierced nipples
> may be reluctant to expose them in generally public areas such
> such piercings may not choose to expose themselves ... :*)
excellent replies...but I thought I would add a little tale :)
My 24 YO son has pierced nipples and navel...and he's in a TINY New
England town where everthing is pretty tight lipped etc. He likes
to ride his bike shirtless in summer and also is on the beach ALOT
w/o shirt....he gets looks and questions...and some little old
ladies like to have their picture taken with him!! Suprised me..
they thought he was neat...and he is <s>.
Perhaps ALOT has to do with how we present ourselves? Our attitude?
I know I react differently to people with negative " What you
looking at?" attitude than an approachable or friendly one.
Hope you let us know if and when you do an *unveiling*! I wish *I*
could <s>
lite * brite
Spmsf
all my piercings to get over it. I could do it anywhere, well maybe I'd
have to think about it at mom's or at work
K. Quinn
Hello, 'spmsf'.
Please include the comment you are following up to.
It really helps everyone see what the hell you are talking about.
Thanks!
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