With the 5-slot backplane.

You can also do it with the 8 slot backplane.
How this works is that on the Mini, I mount a 40pin vertical female connector. On the backplane, I use a vertial male pin header, mounted under the board.
The space between the 2 boards when they come together is exactly 0.437". You can get spacer with that height from Jameco so that you can essentially bolt both boards together.
In the picture, you can see my hacked RAM card mounted on the backplane. The RAM card was hacked to run 16KB from 4000h to 7FFFh for development purposes.
The whole assembly feels very solid and robust.