Lefebeaver, I'll add to the chain questions with a shifter one: Are you using friction or index? Your problem on the second-biggest rear cog sounds like the pulley wheels are landing slightly off-center and towards the biggest cog, which would create that crunchy sound. Like you're going to get that crunch when shifting to the big cog, and the chain is already halfway there and crunching before you start the shift.
I've had this exact issue with an Altus and indexing, it's not a terribly precise derailleur for clicky-shifting. This theory is moot if you use friction and can't trim that sound out.
Joe Bernard