Have someone take 3 pictures of you riding from the side. Hands on the Hoods, Ramps and Tops. If you have natural elbow bend in the ramps, go 3cm shorter. If you only have natural bend on the tops, you need shorter reach bars and a shorter stem. Something on the order of an 80mm reach bar and 60mm stem would be my guess without looking at your fit.
Short stems don't make high or mid trail bikes squirrely. I rode a 30mm stem on my Hillborne for a while, no issues. I could have ridden a 0mm and it would have felt fine.
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