Why worry?
Ray Mitchell
“One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.”
Unknown
It is the season where many will rededicate themselves to Peace on Earth and Goodwill towards men. It provides us the opportunity to rise above our differences and celebrate our common humanity. While we have every reason to focus on joy many will struggle to find even the smallest amount of happiness. While certainly many do carry heavy loads far too many others have let their perceived problems blind them to happiness that is within their reach. As you know I find my habit of frequently taking inventory of the good in my life provides little opportunity to see the bad much less spending time worrying about what probably will never happen.
My wish to all is that they take time out in the coming weeks to enjoy themselves. It is a time to reach out to others in friendship and have a little fun and even spending sometime helping someone else.
A month or so ago I signed up for life coach Maria Lesetz’s newsletter and in a recent issue she on how to worry less and enjoy life more. Here is what she suggests:
Here are my Top 5 Tips to Worry Less & Be Lovin Life more each day:
1) Stop focusing on what you don't want to happen and start focusing on what you DO want. You have to train your brain to shift to the desire outcome of your situation instead of the exact thing you don't want. Focusing on the situation at hand - the one that makes you all stressed & worried, is not the answer. Here's a news flash --- the universe mirrors your thoughts & feelings. So, if you are thinking negative thoughts and worrying all the time, you will get more things to worry about in your life. The universe doesn't know whether what you are focusing on is good or bad, it just matches the nature of your thoughts. So, start converting your worries to wants and shift your focus! Yes, this takes practice but it CAN be done. Many of my clients would attest to this and OH ... what positive shifts they see in their lives!
2) When you find yourself in a tizzy and on a worry rampage, take a breath. Really, take a few seconds out of your whirlwind of negative thoughts & BREATHE IN that ALL is WELL and BREATHE OUT all the thoughts & feelings that are not serving you at that moment. You will be amazed at the positive & calming impact a Breathing Break will have on keeping you more centered and grounded.
3) Remind yourself in that moment of negativity that your gremlin thoughts are not going to bring you what you want. Catch yourself in the act of worrying. Awareness is the first step to change.
4) View your "gremlins" as the old thought patterns you had - don't resist them (what you resist ... persists), just say to yourself "it is what it is" and Let it Go. "Easier said than done" you think, well you can release negative emotions!
5) Visualize the positive outcome. Maybe you are thinking that you are not good at visualizing. Well, I beg to differ. Haven't you visualized a worst-case scenario that could happen in your life before it even happened? I had a client once who said that her biggest fear and worry was that she could end up homeless (and believe me, she was FAR from that situation --- she had a good job & lots of money in the bank). And this was the same client who told me that she is not good at visualizing. Hmmm, she could visualize but only on the negative side. Build your positive visualization muscle. Start daydreaming about the way you want it to be -- how you want your situation to turn out instead of worrying about your specific situation and coming up with those worst-case scenarios!
"Close the door on all your worries. They have no purpose living in your 'house'! Remember ... worrying is a choice, not a personality trait!"
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"Fear less, hope more;
Whine less, breathe more;
Talk less, say more;
Hate less, love more;
And all good things are yours."
Swedish Proverb
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Infamous Quotes Of State Troopers
- "So, you don't know how fast you were going. I guess that means I can write anything I want on the ticket, huh?"
- "Warning! You want a warning? O.K., I'm warning you not to do that again or I'll give you yet another ticket."
- "The answer to this last question will determine whether you are drunk or not. Was Mickey Mouse a cat or dog?"
- "Yeah, we have a quota. Two more tickets and my wife gets a toaster oven."
- "No sir, we don't have quotas anymore. We used to have quotas, but now we're allowed to write as many tickets as we want."
- "Just how big were those 'two beers'?"
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Not one shred of evidence supports the notion that life is serious.
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A man joined a big Multi National Company as a trainee. On his first day, he dialed the pantry and shouted into the phone, "Get me a coffee, quickly!"
The voice from the other side responded, "You fool you've dialed the wrong extension! Do you know who you're talking to, dumbo?"
"No," replied the trainee.
"It's the Managing Director of the company, you fool!"
The trainee shouted back, "And do you know who YOU are talking to, you fool?"
"No." replied the Managing Director indignantly.
"Good!" replied the trainee and put down the phone.
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"I wish I were telepathic. Not just to read people's minds, which would be cool, but to cut down on my cellular phone bill."
Paul Wiley
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Before And After Falling In Love...
B - You take my breath away. A - I feel like I'm suffocating.
B - She says she loves the way I take control of the situation. A - She called me a controlling, manipulative egomaniac.
B - He makes me feel like a million dollars. A - If I had a dime for every stupid thing he's done...
B - The Sound of Music. A - The Sound of Silence.
B - $60/dozen. A - $1.50/stem.
B - Ideal. A - Idle.
B - I love a woman with curves. A- I never said you were fat.
B - Time stood still. A - This relationship is going nowhere.
B - Croissant and cappuccino. A - Bagel and instant.
B - I can hardly believe we found each other. A - I can't believe I ended up with someone like you.
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It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.
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Two golden-agers were discussing their husbands over tea.
"I do wish that my Elmer would stop biting his nails. He makes me terribly nervous."
"My Billy used to do the same thing," the older woman replied. "But I broke him of the habit."
"How?"
"I hid his teeth."
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Why do they report power outages on TV?
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On their 25th anniversary, a husband took his wife out to dinner. Their teenage daughters said they'd have dessert waiting for them when they returned.
After they got home, they saw that the dining room table was beautifully set with china, crystal and candles, and there was a note that read: "Your dessert is in the refrigerator. We are staying with friends, so go ahead and do something we wouldn't do!"
"I suppose," the husband responded, "we could vacuum."
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And we should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.
And we should call every truth false which was not accompanied by at least one laugh.
Friedrich Nietzsche
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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Ray Mitchell
Indianapolis, Indiana
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