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The Key To Achieving Success: Trusting Yourself
By SIBU BABU
Perhaps one of the biggest emotional stumbling blocks to success is
one's inability to have complete trust in themselves.
In other words what many call "self doubt" can literally undermine
one's motivation, energy, focus, and the realization of one's dreams.
Have you ever looked at the reason why you personally might harbor self
doubt? Most people just try to go on living with it on board without
ever looking at it much less questioning its purpose. Well that is
exactly what I wish to do here, question its purpose!
By doing so this will hopefully help you begin to realize some of the
unconsciously held myths you have stored inside you about this
destructive "emotion".
So here we go.
If you look at it closely some individuals think that:
1. Self doubt causes them to stop and consider their course of action
before they launch into it, so that,
2. They won't make any untoward mistakes, so that,
3. They won't wind up failing in their mission so that,
4. They will therefore succeed, so that,
5. They will feel successful, happy, fulfilled, joyful, peaceful and
good about themselves.
In other words if we condense what has just been said they believe
that:
(A) Self doubt causes them to be and feel successful, happy, fulfilled,
joyful, peaceful and good about themselves.
Is that the case however?
Well to check this out simply reconnect to the state of "self doubt"
and notice while you're in it what it does to you emotionally, mentally
and physically.
If you are aware of your inner state while you are immersed in this
self doubt you will likely notice some or all of the following:
(B) Feeling immobilized or paralyzed, heaviness, drained or depleted of
energy, having trouble concentrating or focusing on your goals or the
tasks at hand, helpless, hopeless, lacking self confidence and self
esteem, defeated, sad, tired, like a failure and so on.
So does that experience sound like what was described in statement (A)
above? Hardly! Isn't this in fact a down right toxic state? Indeed!
So therefore is statement (A) true or false for you?
If it resonates as false, which is what it is, then simply do the
following:
1. Place one hand over your heart.
2. As if you are speaking from your heart command that the belief in
statement (A) be completely purged from your mind, body and life for
ever.
3. Next notice that in (B) above the experience associated with "self
doubt" is toxic to you and simply acknowledge that to yourself within
your heart.
4. Next contemplate your dreams and see yourself accomplishing them
fully, whatever they are for you, with ease, grace, joy and
contentment. Notice how this makes you feel.
5. If this feels good to you then simply acknowledge to yourself via
your heart that this is where you'd rather be from now on.
6. Now notice how you feel inside.
If all went well, and I must add this exercise is more easily conveyed
via telephone than in print, you might be feeling some or all of the
following:
More joyful, a sense of relief, greater freedom to actualize yourself
and your dreams, energized, motivated, renewed in your mission,
confident, focused, clear, buoyant, and so on.
If you are feeling some of this let me tell you what just took place.
You have released what I call "negative conditioning" from your mind
and body. This is conditioning that you had been carrying for most of
your life and which was put there as a result of your early life
experience.
Such conditioning is stored at many levels in many forms in the mind
and body and limits every individual on this planet in some way. That
is why coaching has become such a big business.
Most coaches and motivational speakers attempt to help individuals get
past this conditioning in ways that never actually help one release it.
This is why such approaches tend to have a limited effect i.e. there's
always one more motivational speaker or coach that is needed to help
keep the motivation alive.
You see motivation can only come from within one's heart. It is called
passion. Conditioning kills passion and therefore also the heart.
Unless one can permanently release this conditioning all approaches to
create motivation and success will feel like "make work projects" that
only have limited if any real effect.