Hi Yi,
Certainly, particle size, stiffness and density are the key factors impacting DEM results and how challenging the simulation is (in that order, perhaps). And it is also a physics quantity, so if you are indeed trying to model a physics with high particle stiffness, then setting it higher is "better". However, considering real-world powders quite often have sizes of microns and Young's modulus of GPa, compromises are more often made.
I believe in that demo our stiffness selection corresponds to around hundreds of MPa and is quite in line with many DEM simulations reported in literatures. Besides, we focus more on showcasing the scalability of this package with increasing numbers of particles (thus smaller particle sizes), rather than the other 2 factors (there you have this
newly published paper). If your intention is to model materials such as glass exactly then the default you can argue is smaller than reality, and you should set your values (and step sizes) to suit your purpose. Demos mostly just give a demonstration of API usages.
Thank you,
Ruochun