In case this helps some one else.
I did a quick search of the group for SSH, but didn't see
anything like this issue.
I installed the latest version, was an idiot re: changing password, got logged in finally, and enabled SSH (3 different ways: the ssh file in the boot root folder, via raspi config, and also systemctl).
Putty and ssh would both close the session immediately.
OpenSSH_for_Windows_7.7p1, LibreSSL 2.6.5
debug1: Connecting to 192.168.2.239 [192.168.2.239] port 22.
debug1: Connection established.
...
debug1: Local version string SSH-2.0-OpenSSH_for_Windows_7.7
debug1: Remote protocol version 2.0, remote software version
OpenSSH_7.4p1 Raspbian-10+deb9u6
debug1: match: OpenSSH_7.4p1 Raspbian-10+deb9u6 pat OpenSSH*
compat 0x04000000
debug1: Authenticating to 192.168.2.239:22 as 'pidp8i'
debug1: SSH2_MSG_KEXINIT sent
Connection reset by 192.168.2.239 port 22
So, the server was running, but kicking me out right away.
The magic sauce was running
(https://www.raspberrypi.org/forums/viewtopic.php?t=206998)
sudo dpkg-reconfigure openssh-server
It created a bunch of keys, and then i could SSH into the machine.
I did a quick search of the group for SSH, but didn't see anything like this issue.