The modem's chipset is by Silicon Labs, CP210x; not FTDI, so the one,
which you are seeing, is not it.
I don't understand, though, why your Windows starts showing the wifi
modem once you plug it -- because plugging it with the DB9 end does
not add a COM port
to your machine -- it's already there, it just connects a device on
the other end (also, it does not use any USB UART chipsets in this
case as none needed).
So the port should have been shown as available all along -- it's your
PC's port, whether something's plugged into it, or not.
Windows has a feature of COM port reservations... Meaning every time
you plug a COM-port compatible USB device, it will create a COM port
for it.
With an increasing number. Even if you plug the same thing into a
different USB port, it'd be the next port number... And some apps do
not
want to show more than 4 COM ports (just because it's what used to be
the maximum)... There's a very useful tool, ComNameArbiter available
from
here:
www.uwe-sieber.de ... It can help you remove those extra
reservations. Make sure to run it as administrator. Then leave the
checkmarks only
next to the COM ports you want to keep, and clear all other by
clicking the two buttons up top ("Clear unused reservations" and
"Remove non-present devices").
Don't worry, the drivers you've installed (if any, in addition) will
not be removed, so next time you plug the COM port device into USB,
the driver is
going to be loaded, and the next available COM port assigned. Maybe
this will help you with the issue you're having (I know you said you'd
given up,
but still). Good luck!