I think this section of the documentation for MobaXterm is what you're looking for:
Now, this just seems to be a checkbox with Ctrl-H being the character sent when checked and Ctrl-? being sent when unchecked. Under Mate-terminal on Linux there are a few other options.
Also, bear in mind that some systems of the era used other keys than the terminal backspace/delete key for backspacing, even printable characters. On 2.11 BSD, for example, the stty man page (see the * note below) lists "@" as the default erase character, "#" as the default line-kill character (erase the whole line you just typed), and Ctrl-? (often used in later times for backspace) as the interrupt character (now usually Ctrl-C). However, 2.11 BSD as configured on the image we use does not use those characters. I don't know if RSX did anything like that, or if it had any equivalent to the Unix stty command.
The problem is that in those days different terminal manufacturers would set up control keys with a given name (like "backspace" or "delete") to produce different control characters when they were pressed, and different operating systems would respond to control characters in different ways. Everything is well standardized now: Pretty much everybody is running either Windows or a Unix clone (and most of the Unix clone market is using Linux) on either x86 or ARM, and computers are mostly their own terminals, using a well standardized keyboard layout, and every platform that's not Windows or Unix knows that it has to interoperate with Windows and Unix. Back in the day, however, problems like what you're running into were common.
*While the default characters used for things like backspace, interrupt, and line-kill are well standardized nowadays, Unix has had the stty command from very early on, which, among other things, allows any user at any time to set any character they desire to be used for such things (at least when using applications that let the OS do their terminal handling, rather than doing it themselves), so that users with odd terminals could access the system. So, to this day, if you want, you can set some completely daft character (like "e") as your backspace character (of cour, tn you won't ab to ty " into your tminal, so don't do that!) <--- "Of course, then you won't be able to type "e"...".