Obit in the Times of 30 Aug 2021 (it gives his wife's 2020 death date):
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Major Hume Grogan obituary
Irish Guards officer and Royal British Legion representative in Dublin where he promoted the poppy as a symbol of remembrance
...Grogan himself had impeccable credentials for his advocacy of Irish remembrance, not least his lineage. Hume Meredyth Ellis Grogan was born in Plattenstown, Co Wexford, in 1931, the only son of Lieutenant-Colonel George Grogan, DSO, of the 18th Royal Irish Regiment. His mother, Eva, was from nearby Coolgreany. Like many an old Irish family, the Grogans were occasionally of two minds. During the rebellion of 1798, Cornelius Grogan, an MP in the Irish parliament, fought for the rebels. His two younger brothers, one of whom was killed, wore the king’s coat. In a foretaste of the Easter Rising of 1916, Cornelius Grogan was arrested, tried by court martial and shot...
...his agricultural interests led to an invitation from the Queen Mother to visit the royal pig farm at Windsor. He subsequently arranged for pig slurry to be spread on the lawns outside the officers’ mess. The smell was so bad that the mess had to be evacuated...
...In 1962 he met Jennifer Rake at a drinks party in London. She was eleven years his junior and a trainee fashion buyer at Harrods. They married the following year at Holy Trinity Brompton. Jenny was a matchless cook. It was said that hostesses in Germany and Dublin would not hold a dinner party a month either side of one held by the Grogans. Jenny died in 2020. He is survived by their three children: Alice, a teacher and special needs co-ordinator; Susannagh, a fashion designer; and James, a businessman. Growing deafness forced Grogan to leave the army in 1971. After the death of his father, his mother had married Arthur Donel MacMurrogh, The O’Morchoe, hereditary chief of Clan Murphy. She was widowed in 1966 and Grogan was at last able to put his agricultural training to use, running the family farm for the next 20 years...
...In 2001 Grogan was appointed MBE. Seeing no conflict in his loyalty to both the crown and the republic, he said he would prefer to receive the honour at the British embassy in Ireland rather than at Buckingham Palace. As a mark of additional respect he was instead invested by Prince Michael of Kent at the Freemasons’ Hall in Dublin...
Major Hume Grogan, MBE, Irish Guards officer and charity administrator, was born on October 28, 1931. He died on July 17, 2021, aged 89