Friend Secret

[Kristin Banyas]

Howevermost human beings relish knowing secrets and granted, most of us are pretty bad at keeping them. This is why it is slightly unfair to even ask someone to keep such an important secret. I believe that if you tell just one person a secret, you risk it getting out, no matter how much someone says they will keep mum.

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My best friend Sophie and I each got married within months of each other. We bonded in college over our shared propensity to laugh at things no one else found funny and the experience of being daughters to Irish mothers (if you have one, you will understand). We were inseparable. We were both only children, so it was somewhat inevitable that we became like sisters.

I watched as Sophie and her husband avoided events where babies might be, flinch as a pregnant woman walked into the room, and have their hearts broken into millions of pieces over and over again when rounds of IVF were not successful. We watched our friends decline a glass of wine and smile apologetically as they popped to the bathroom to administer another dose of hormones for their latest attempt to conceive.

You should be transparent about this friendship, with the goal that your current partner will get to know Frederica well enough to accept the friendship and trust both of you. The two women do not need to become besties (or even meet). But the more natural you are about this friendship, the less threatening it should be.

I was doing my MBA in Nasik. I met a girl in the same college and we became good friends. She was my only friend as I was very quiet and shy. I never used to talk much. So we became good friends. For two years everything was fine.

In the beginning of 2011 due to a misunderstanding, she became upset with me and stopped talking to me. She went back to Pune for a job search and she also wanted to attend a marriage reception over there. I asked for forgiveness many times as it was totally my fault. She said she had forgiven me, but she still did not talk to me.

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Last post I wrote about everyone sharing their gifts. This is true in relationships. My friend Russ for example shares his gift of deep philosophical thinking with me. My lady shares her artistic and creative ability with me. I do my best to share my gifts with them. So be careful with who you spend your time with. Remember no matter how much money you have you cannot buy more time. Your time is valuable, treat it as such

My friends had asked me why I didn't like that specific person, and I answered them honestly (a little too honestly, I think...). I told them not to reveal my thoughts to him, but I am unsure I did the right thing.

Should I tell the person, whom I did not like, the truth? I know that if I let my friends let him know, he'll probably hate it even more than if I tell him myself. I need advice on what's the best thing to do right now, as well as in the long run so as to avoid such stuff in the future.

If in the past, you have failed to keep their secrets, it's possible that they won't bother keeping yours a secret. If you are trustworthy, you will attract friends who would like you to trust them as well. They will be on your side, only if you have been good to them.

NOPE! I don't know the connection you have with that person or what actually makes you hate them, so I can't comment on that further. But for now, I say, don't go up to them out of the blue and tell them you hate them. Don't.

It is normal to feel a need to share your inner thoughts with people sometimes. But you need to learn that sometimes this has consequences and that you cannot control or anticipate these always. So you must learn that this is a risk, and you cannot live life without risk - it's impossible.

This is a common problem that occurs when two individuals in a friend group have a falling out. It sounds like you've already made a bit of a misstep by venting to people within the group and you're aware that your words may have consequences.

If you just want to be done with the person you have a problem with, you've likely already set things in that direction by announcing the problem to others. By involving your other friends you're inadvertently putting them in a position to choose a side. Be aware that some of them may not choose your side.

If you want to make peace with the person, you'll need to do some damage control. Talk to the person you have a problem with directly. Hash out your differences, and apologize for involving your mutual friends.

I think your instinct to talk things out with the person you had a problem with was the right thing to do. Admittedly it's a little late now, you'll have an uncomfortable apology to make on top of working out the original problems, but it's better to wrap up the situation than letting it hang over your head. Like I said, these things have a way of getting out eventually. Better to get it over with than worry about it coming out later.

First off, your friends should be well aware that if the other person finds out about what you said, you'll have an unpleasant situation to deal with. In high school, there were times when my friends and I made non-complimentary comments to each other about another student who had behaved obnoxiously. We trusted each other to not make our feelings known to others. We're friends; we're not going to set each other up for embarrassing social situations.

Friendships involve trust - the trust to understand another person's feelings and thoughts, and empathize when possible. That trust is often implicit; you shouldn't have to state outright that you don't want your friends telling this other person how they feel. If your friends share your secret, they've broken that trust. You would be within your rights to be angry at your friends - and they should know that. Backstabbing is not conducive to relationships.

I would not recommend telling the person what you said. Consider how you would feel if someone walked up to you and said, "Hey, I don't like you because [X, Y, Z]." You'd be offended even if they added "Oh, and I'm just doing this because my friends might tell you even though we were trying to safely talk about it behind your back."

There are secrets I have - feelings, thoughts, desires - that I have never voiced to my friends. It's entirely possible to let a secret slip by accident, even in the cases of the best-intentioned people. Maybe a friend of yours is talking to another friend about the person you dislike, and they happen to mention that you, too, dislike the person.

My deepest secrets are known only to very close friends - or none at all. Accidents happen, people mess up, and there's no better way to avoid this than by keeping things inside. In the future, if you're worried about your friends keeping a specific secret, then simply don't tell them.

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I want to tell you a secret. There is a cure for this horrible aching. This terrible envy of other people. We see people who could care less about God taking vacations, looking beautiful, switching husbands (or wives) like a change of clothes when they get tired of them, laughing and having a great time and we envy them. God says:

God called Abraham to leave everything to follow Him and he did. That was faith. Decades later, God asked him to offer his son as a sacrifice and he did. By that time, he knew God so well that he believed he was going to kill Isaac, burn him as a sacrifice and that God was going to raise him from the dead, and they would return back home together.

In Pokmon ORAS, you randomly receive Super Secret Bases through the BuzzNav, which picks from passersby, acquaintances, and friends. I've had to wait for quite a while before randomly getting a base from people in my friends list.

When you create a base, you also get a QR code associated with this base. All you have to do is to scan the QR code of your friend's base. Then, if you go to the location of your friend's base, you will be able to find it.

For that, your friend needs to share his/her QR code with you. He needs to go to the PC in his base, and to use the "Manage QR Code patterns" option. If he then select "Share a Secret Base", and then "Your Message", he will get a screen with the associated QR Code.

I've been burdened with the knowledge that the husband of one of my closest friends was unfaithful to her. They have two very young children (one 3 years old and the other 6 months). I am certain that she is not aware of the incident. And I have known about it for several months, debating on what I should do about it.

I believe that the knowledge will severely damage their marriage and I don't want to be the one to cause the damage and ruin the children's family. I do understand that I am not the one that caused the problem, the cheater is; but I would be the one that told.

Whenever I consider just keeping this to myself I just feel terrible for my friend not knowing what a creep her husband is and what a bad friend the woman he cheated with is to her (this will also ruin her marriage, she also has two young children). And of course, I have no idea if the incident I know about is the only time he has done something like this to her.

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