Is Your Husband or Wife Cheating? - 21 Ways You Can Tell
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Feb 20, 2009, 12:33:40 AM2/20/09
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If your spouse is having an extramarital affair, you don’t need to
spend a fortune on private investigators or expensive surveillance
equipment to find out the truth. There are 21 ways you can find out if
he or she is cheating on you. All you need are your own eyes, your own
ears, and your personal knowledge of your mate. Knowing what to look
for is the key.
If you think your spouse is cheating, familiarize yourself with the 21
major areas of concern listed below. These 21 areas of interest
correspond to the 21 categories of infidelity signs covered in Is He
Cheating on You - 829 Telltale Signs by infidelity expert Ruth
Houston, who is also the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com . These
areas of concern apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men.
PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
A cheating spouse will express a sudden desire to look more
attractive. He or she will begin to enhance or upgrade their
appearance in some way. So if your spouse suddenly embarks on a
drastic makeover, it's probably to impress the Other Woman or the
Other Man. There are at least 76 different changes in wardrobe,
grooming habits, and personal hygiene which indicate your spouse may
be having an extramarital affair.
HOW YOUR SPOUSE RELATES TO YOU
Your spouse's involvement with someone else will cause him or her to
treat you differently -- even on a subconscious level - in over 70
different ways. This is an area where the betrayed spouse who knows
what to look for, can spot signs of infidelity that even a private
investigator might overlook.
CONVERSATIONAL CLUES
What a cheating spouse chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you
that he or she is having an extramarital affair. They may mention new
people, places or things, while the people, places and things they
used to talk about are no longer a part of their conversation. There
are 70 conversational clues you can listen for can will give you
valuable information about your spouse's affair.
WORK HABITS
Cheating spouses often use work-related excuses to account for large
blocks of time away from home. Working late is the most common cover
for an extramarital affair. A change in your spouse's work habits can
also indicate that your spouse is involved in a workplace affair, so
familiarize yourself with the 39 work-related telltale signs.
DAY-TO-DAY BEHAVIOR
We all have a routine that we usually follow each day. A cheating
spouse will often display a dozen or more of the 92 deviations from
their normal pattern of behavior. These deviations are important
telltale signs.
FINANCIAL AFFAIRS
Affairs cost money. A cheating husband will wine and dine his
mistress, entertain her and buy her flowers and gifts. A cheating
wife will also buy her lover occasional gifts and spend more money
than usual to keep herself looking good. These are just a few of the
52 financially-related telltale signs.
TRAVEL
Travel gives the cheating spouse an opportunity to cheat far from the
sight of prying eyes. There are 27 travel-related signs of
infidelity including bogus business trips and legitimate business
travel that combines a little pleasure on the side. If your spouse's
trips occur more frequently or last much longer than usual, these
could be telltale signs.
PERSONALITY OR BEHAVIORAL CHANGES
If your spouse is cheating, there will be noticeable changes in their
attitude, personality or behavior. Knowing what to look for is the
key. Ranging from drastic to subtle, there are 36 changes of this
type which can indicate infidelity.
ABSENCES
Affairs usually require an investment of time. A cheating spouse's
absences will become noticeable in 39 different ways, as they steal
time away from other activities spend with their lover.
TELEPHONE TIP-OFFS
Extramarital affairs depend on repeated contact; much of which takes
place by phone. Countless cheating spouses have been exposed, either
directly or indirectly, by one or more of the 76 telephone tip-offs of
infidelity.
CAR CLUES
A cheating spouse's car can contain a wealth of telltale signs.
Between the glove compartment, car seats, tire well, visor, ashtray,
floor mats and other nooks and crannies, there are at least 40 signs
of infidelity a knowledgeable spouse can find.
SEX
Be alert for changes of any kind in the frequency or quality of your
sex life together. If you spot one of the 37 sex-related signs of
infidelity which indicate an extramarital affair, take steps to
protect yourself. You could be at risk for HIV/AIDS or some other
sexually- transmitted disease.
EATING HABITS
A cheating spouse's eating habits can be heavily influenced or
affected by his or her lover in 31 different ways. Yet, this is the
most overlooked category of telltale signs. A cheating spouse may
develop a preference for the type of food their lover eats, the way
their lover likes their food prepared, or the kind of restaurants
where their lover likes to eat.
SMELLS AND TASTES
Each person has a unique smell or taste, which often goes unnoticed
until it's replaced with something else. There are at least 21 signs
of infidelity associated with your sense of smell or taste. Your
spouse's kisses may taste different. There may be unfamiliar odors on
their clothing. Or perhaps something in your home or car just doesn't
smell "right."
INVASION OF YOUR HOME
It's not uncommon for cheating spouse to invite their lover to their
home. And the lover may inadvertently, or even deliberately, leave
personal items behind. At least 22 different signs of infidelity
could turn up in your bedroom, bathroom, living room or other areas of
your home if the Other Woman or Other Man has been there while you
were away.
GIFTS
Be especially alert around the times of the year when gifts are
usually exchanged -- like Christmas or Valentine's Day. If you know
what to look for, you can find any of 19 gift-related signs of
infidelity in your home or car, including incriminating receipts and
credit card bills.
COMPUTER USE
A computer savvy cheating spouse will use the computer to stay in
touch with his or her lover. Finding several of the 30 computer-
related signs of infidelity can mean your spouse is having an online
or internet affair. Don't underestimate cyber cheating because it
can pose a serious threat to your marriage.
CELL PHONES AND PAGERS
Cell phones make it easier for a cheating spouse to conceal his or her
affair. But they also make it easier to get caught. If your spouse
uses a cell phone, pager or similar device to call, text message, or
otherwise communicate with their lover, the affair can be exposed in
28 different ways.
PHYSICAL EVIDENCE
Many times, physical proof of infidelity is just waiting to be found
among a cheating spouse's personal possessions. When you check
pockets, purses, wallets, desk or dresser drawers, closets, tool
boxes, or jewelry cases for signs of infidelity, you'll be surprised
at how many of the 32 kinds of physical evidence you can find.
THEIR BEHAVIOR AROUND THE OPPOSITE SEX
Studies show that a cheating spouse is most likely to have an affair
with someone they already know -- a neighbor, co-worker, business
associate or family friend. If you know what to look for, there are 71
signs of infidelity that can help you determine the identity of the
Other Woman or Other Man The way they act around each other will give
them away.
ACCIDENTAL SLIPS-UPS OR DISCLOSURES
There are 57 kinds of slip-ups or disclosures that could accidentally
expose a cheating spouse. A slip of the tongue on the part of the
cheater or someone he or she knows, could inadvertently expose an
extramarital affair.
KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR
If you're not sure what specific signs to look for in each of the 21
areas mentioned above, a good infidelity reference book can help.
While there are many infidelity books on the market, Is He Cheating on
You? - 829 Telltale Signs is the only infidelity book that lists
practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs
people usually overlook. There's an entire chapter devoted to each of
the 21 categories of infidelity signs. So if your spouse is cheating,
you don't have to be the last to know.
By Ruth Houston
If your spouse is having an extramarital affair, you don’t need to
spend a fortune on private investigators or expensive surveillance
equipment to find out the truth. There are 21 ways you can find out if
he or she is cheating on you. All you need are your own eyes, your own
ears, and your personal knowledge of your mate. Knowing what to look
for is the key.
If you think your spouse is cheating, familiarize yourself with the 21
major areas of concern listed below. These 21 areas of interest
correspond to the 21 categories of infidelity signs covered in Is He
Cheating on You - 829 Telltale Signs by infidelity expert Ruth
Houston, who is also the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com . These
areas of concern apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men.
PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
A cheating spouse will express a sudden desire to look more
attractive. He or she will begin to enhance or upgrade their
appearance in some way. So if your spouse suddenly embarks on a
drastic makeover, it's probably to impress the Other Woman or the
Other Man. There are at least 76 different changes in wardrobe,
grooming habits, and personal hygiene which indicate your spouse may
be having an extramarital affair.
HOW YOUR SPOUSE RELATES TO YOU
Your spouse's involvement with someone else will cause him or her to
treat you differently -- even on a subconscious level - in over 70
different ways. This is an area where the betrayed spouse who knows
what to look for, can spot signs of infidelity that even a private
investigator might overlook.
CONVERSATIONAL CLUES
What a cheating spouse chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you
that he or she is having an extramarital affair. They may mention new
people, places or things, while the people, places and things they
used to talk about are no longer a part of their conversation. There
are 70 conversational clues you can listen for can will give you
valuable information about your spouse's affair.
WORK HABITS
Cheating spouses often use work-related excuses to account for large
blocks of time away from home. Working late is the most common cover
for an extramarital affair. A change in your spouse's work habits can
also indicate that your spouse is involved in a workplace affair, so
familiarize yourself with the 39 work-related telltale signs.
DAY-TO-DAY BEHAVIOR
We all have a routine that we usually follow each day. A cheating
spouse will often display a dozen or more of the 92 deviations from
their normal pattern of behavior. These deviations are important
telltale signs.
FINANCIAL AFFAIRS
Affairs cost money. A cheating husband will wine and dine his
mistress, entertain her and buy her flowers and gifts. A cheating
wife will also buy her lover occasional gifts and spend more money
than usual to keep herself looking good. These are just a few of the
52 financially-related telltale signs.
TRAVEL
Travel gives the cheating spouse an opportunity to cheat far from the
sight of prying eyes. There are 27 travel-related signs of
infidelity including bogus business trips and legitimate business
travel that combines a little pleasure on the side. If your spouse's
trips occur more frequently or last much longer than usual, these
could be telltale signs.
PERSONALITY OR BEHAVIORAL CHANGES
If your spouse is cheating, there will be noticeable changes in their
attitude, personality or behavior. Knowing what to look for is the
key. Ranging from drastic to subtle, there are 36 changes of this
type which can indicate infidelity.
ABSENCES
Affairs usually require an investment of time. A cheating spouse's
absences will become noticeable in 39 different ways, as they steal
time away from other activities spend with their lover.
TELEPHONE TIP-OFFS
Extramarital affairs depend on repeated contact; much of which takes
place by phone. Countless cheating spouses have been exposed, either
directly or indirectly, by one or more of the 76 telephone tip-offs of
infidelity.
CAR CLUES
A cheating spouse's car can contain a wealth of telltale signs.
Between the glove compartment, car seats, tire well, visor, ashtray,
floor mats and other nooks and crannies, there are at least 40 signs
of infidelity a knowledgeable spouse can find.
SEX
Be alert for changes of any kind in the frequency or quality of your
sex life together. If you spot one of the 37 sex-related signs of
infidelity which indicate an extramarital affair, take steps to
protect yourself. You could be at risk for HIV/AIDS or some other
sexually- transmitted disease.
EATING HABITS
A cheating spouse's eating habits can be heavily influenced or
affected by his or her lover in 31 different ways. Yet, this is the
most overlooked category of telltale signs. A cheating spouse may
develop a preference for the type of food their lover eats, the way
their lover likes their food prepared, or the kind of restaurants
where their lover likes to eat.
SMELLS AND TASTES
Each person has a unique smell or taste, which often goes unnoticed
until it's replaced with something else. There are at least 21 signs
of infidelity associated with your sense of smell or taste. Your
spouse's kisses may taste different. There may be unfamiliar odors on
their clothing. Or perhaps something in your home or car just doesn't
smell "right."
INVASION OF YOUR HOME
It's not uncommon for cheating spouse to invite their lover to their
home. And the lover may inadvertently, or even deliberately, leave
personal items behind. At least 22 different signs of infidelity
could turn up in your bedroom, bathroom, living room or other areas of
your home if the Other Woman or Other Man has been there while you
were away.
GIFTS
Be especially alert around the times of the year when gifts are
usually exchanged -- like Christmas or Valentine's Day. If you know
what to look for, you can find any of 19 gift-related signs of
infidelity in your home or car, including incriminating receipts and
credit card bills.
COMPUTER USE
A computer savvy cheating spouse will use the computer to stay in
touch with his or her lover. Finding several of the 30 computer-
related signs of infidelity can mean your spouse is having an online
or internet affair. Don't underestimate cyber cheating because it
can pose a serious threat to your marriage.
CELL PHONES AND PAGERS
Cell phones make it easier for a cheating spouse to conceal his or her
affair. But they also make it easier to get caught. If your spouse
uses a cell phone, pager or similar device to call, text message, or
otherwise communicate with their lover, the affair can be exposed in
28 different ways.
PHYSICAL EVIDENCE
Many times, physical proof of infidelity is just waiting to be found
among a cheating spouse's personal possessions. When you check
pockets, purses, wallets, desk or dresser drawers, closets, tool
boxes, or jewelry cases for signs of infidelity, you'll be surprised
at how many of the 32 kinds of physical evidence you can find.
THEIR BEHAVIOR AROUND THE OPPOSITE SEX
Studies show that a cheating spouse is most likely to have an affair
with someone they already know -- a neighbor, co-worker, business
associate or family friend. If you know what to look for, there are 71
signs of infidelity that can help you determine the identity of the
Other Woman or Other Man The way they act around each other will give
them away.
ACCIDENTAL SLIPS-UPS OR DISCLOSURES
There are 57 kinds of slip-ups or disclosures that could accidentally
expose a cheating spouse. A slip of the tongue on the part of the
cheater or someone he or she knows, could inadvertently expose an
extramarital affair.
KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR
If you're not sure what specific signs to look for in each of the 21
areas mentioned above, a good infidelity reference book can help.
While there are many infidelity books on the market, Is He Cheating on
You? - 829 Telltale Signs is the only infidelity book that lists
practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs
people usually overlook. There's an entire chapter devoted to each of
the 21 categories of infidelity signs. So if your spouse is cheating,
you don't have to be the last to know.
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