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Teodolinda Mattson
Jesus never wavered on this point. No other reference to an acceptable divorce appears in Scripture. And even the matter of sexual immorality is to first be addressed under the biblical themes of forgiveness, reconciliation, and obedience to the admonition that God hates divorce (Mal 2:16).
Often the victim of abandonment will have no choice. The spouse who leaves may initiate a divorce and refuse reconciliation. On this point, the rejected spouse has little recourse. Yet too frequently, the abandonment results in a prolonged separation, with the absent spouse taking no steps toward a permanent ending. What then should be our counsel?
The only biblical exception noted on the issue of abandonment deals with the departure of unbelievers. If only one of the partners is a Christian, he/she must remain with the unbeliever as long as he/she wishes to stay. However, Paul wrote:
God always calls His children to answer sin with righteousness. In spite of our circumstance we must answer injury with stability, trust, perseverance, and faith. We are called to do the right things even when others are acting wrongly. Continuing Peter wrote:
A second year passed without change while she continued to pray for restoration. The church, stirred by her perseverance withdrew their counsel to divorce and joined her in prayerful intercession. The men of the church continued to reach out to Kurt, confronting his sin while encouraging his repentance and return to Christ.
I disagree with your arguments. Divorce is allowed for desertion and abandonment and that includes abuse. A person who calls his or herself a believer but hard-heartedly abandons or abuses their spouse cannot be a believer (1 Cor. 5:11-13) , so 1 Corinthians 7:15 applies and the believer is free to divorce without condemnation.
And your application of those passages in 1 Peter is unjust: those passages were for slaves and for believers who were being persecuted by pagans for their faith; they were not speaking about marriage.
Thank for this article that the Lord has only today drawn me to. I find it so very comforting. My husband and I have been separated for 12 years and only now have I felt it in my heart to begin praying for reconciliation.
Am sure barbara wrote that out of anger. God bless u for answering her correctly n in a humble way.
Am also a frustrated woman, whom the husband left the home and married another woman without any reasonable grounds. He refuses people to talk to us. He stopped going to church and joined cult with the new woman in searching for worth. But he is on a good paying job that without him practicing those things, he will still be okay.
He has been a man who thinks money is everything to him n is a god. Without money, without money, you are not enjoying. He started skipping sleeping home in 2015, and decided to leave cos I never stopped praying. He even told me if I want him back I must stop praying. He started to feel bored even when I read the bible, then God started showing me that he has joined Satanism groups
I never wavered until he left the house 2017, and joined the strange woman since now. While we were together, he started wearing black black clothes every Friday, leaves the home n come back on Monday. I confronted him so much that he never responded n.decide to leave the house to do his will comfortably.
He left his children n his relatives with me. He comes to see us for 10 minuets then leaves. I told him to take them, he refused. But he comes and tao his relatives t show them where he lives n told them not to tell me.
Is it just a coincidence, or did the devil jump in on the first comment and use a woman to try and correct a godly man who takes the route of biblical teachings? Barbara Roberts needs to become a tade bit more humble, and not interject her own personal feelings or misfortunes into the scriptures to justify her own actions.
I was so devastated to say the least because his reason for the divorce was because of my diagnosis of borderline personality disorder where I get extremely angry and in despair. I know I get enraged at times having been physically and emotionally abused in my childhood. Looking back, I was enraged in the marriage because during the marriage he was controlling, manipulative and callous.
I am so glad to find this sight because all the other sights left a bad taste in my spiritual mouth. I was married Feb 2014 and two months later he left me for no reason we dated as teenagers and reunited after 32 years. he was my first everything and he never married until he married me and neither had I been married. I prayed before I married and felt it was the will of God, but I had lost hope because he said he made a mistake and he did not love me and I am so lost and confused now he is talking about moving back to New York in august with his ex. please keep me in your prayers as I stand and believe God for my marriage.
What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him? If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food, And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit? Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.
Your comments are insightful and comforting. I am a renewed Christian [fallen away for 30 years]. I am studying the word as never before. My husband recently left his family, filed for divorce and sought custody.
I struggled a bit after he left but I am taking responsibility for my actions, leaning on God and praying for the conviction of heart of my husband. My sons are born-again Christians and that has been harder for them as their father is not SAVED. I pray for their protection when we are apart and trust in the Lord.
So, I asked if a few of her Chrsitian friends would call her and share what the bible says about separation. They were unwilling. For many did Nit want to get involved and looked at her seperation as just a fight/flight mecinizm and not really a sin.
Although we say that temporary separation is needed for abuse this really has no foundation in scripture and actually goes against the commands of Paul not to separate except for an agreed time for a (presumed) short duration of prayer and fasting.
He had committed emotional infidelity and was exposed by Lord. Church members in Singapore has reached out and counseled us and he promised to make it right but suddenly planned ahead and pack all his belongings and took off went back to States.
For the past 4 meetings, it was me that pleaded with him for reconciliation and paid for his trip back to Singapore so I could see him. I was deported from States and so because of that he has no hesitation to abandon me unjustly and would tell me constantly he would changed his number etc so I would not be able to find him.
I am very saddened and devasted by his crude brutal rejection. I have hang on to hope that he may have light in his heart as he is a Christian and wound missed any churches sermons. This is worth part that totally breaks me into million pieces. How could anyone has 100% attendance at church, raving about charity and outreach to the poors and have sponsered child via Christian site would have hardened his heart to me also a child of God.
Please pray for me and pray for wisdom in my heart that I could bravely accept reality on whatever unjust crude rejection my husband showed and shouted at me via phone and email that I will always turn to Lord for protection and peace.
As God and Jesus continue to show patience and love in every situation, so will I strive to do. I pray for the strength to do so and weep at the keyboard as I continue to realize our life together is coming to an end.
I was maried in 1996 to a christian woman. Three yeas ago She told me She didntlove anymore amd asked to leave the house. I refused to do it since We have two daughters (14 and 11 now). Shortly after She said that to me I discovered She was chatting with a former boyfriend who lives in Miami We live in Colombia South America). Since then She first had an adulterous relationship with this man who traveled several times to our city to see her. She broke with him last year and now She is seeing a young man here in our city.
I have remained faifthful to her. We are living in the same house because I dont see why I have to leave. She is the one who comitted adultery. I have been praying for her repetance but so far She continues living on her sinful lifestyle and openly saying She is doing her life and shows no remorse no regreat.
It is important to say that I gew cold in my relationship with the Lord prior to what happened. All this brought me back to the Lords feet which I am thankful for . I continue praying for her. The elders of my church advice me to keep my position as the head of our home and pray for the Lord to clear things up focusing on her repetance but also in the urgent need of not allowing light and darkness abide together.
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What are your feelings in regard to legal separation? I am currently going through this process, my wife filled and I agreed to her petition, but at what length would the Lord require me to wait this out? She walked away from church counseling and, at this point, have no idea if she claims to be a believer. In my mind, legal separation is no different than divorce, it has all the same parameters except being legally married.
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