Losing my hair

[Faedra Sick]

I have not had short hair since middle school and I decided to cut it
short again since it looked so stringy longer, even at should length.
It will take time to get use to but my pastor told me today I look
like a sassy women now. I also need to learn how I want to style it to
look the best for my face. I was surprised how much my husband liked
it since he never was into short hair. Wow more then just our body
gets challenged in this new adventure of life.
Faedra

[Monica Barry]

Faedra - congratulations on your brave new move! I bet your new hair
is awesome and I can't wait to see it!! And it's so true, not only
are we shedding pounds, but shed so much fear and anxeity about little
things... like how we wear our hair!! I've had short hair for some
time - but I tried it really really short based on a thought that my
face now looked thinner so I didn't need so much hair to hide behind!
I went shopping with my Mom, and I tried on a summer dress with
vertical stripes and my Mom said "oh no - stripes!" I said "who
cares!" I never would have done that before weight loss surgery!
What's your next move Faedra?

Monica

[Jo-Lynn Rupp]

Hi everyone,

I think this email hit at just the right time. I am having a really hard time with my weight loss and I just really don't know what to do. I have went on line and they seem to think this is normal but I am having such a personal struggle with my weight loss..I have not met you all but I am hoping that you can help me out. I had my surgery on Sept 16 2010 so I am only 5 1/2 months out...I have completely stopped losing weight about 2 months ago and it is driving me crazy. I was doing pretty good losing 10lbs a month. I hit my goal of 50lbs on Christmas and then I lost a couple more lbs then I stopped losing weight completely. I have gained and lost the same 2-3 lbs since jan 1st. I am starting to feel really upset because here I had this major surgery and I still am not losing. I can pretty much eat whatever I want I do not have a bad reaction to anything. I still eat pretty small meals but for some reason I feel like I am able to eat more than everyone else that I know. I do snack in the evening I have 1 cup of pretzels each evening. For some reason I am addicted to having that small snack. I choose the pretzels because of the very low fat content. I always drink 2 protein shakes I choose the premiere protein ready to use shakes from Costco. I love the taste of them and they have 30 grams of protein per shake. I know that I get at least 70 grams of protein in per day. I go to the gym 3 days per week for 1-2 hour per day and I walk at least 1/2 hour on the weekend so I feel like I am getting plenty of exercise in. And yes my hair is falling out I have not been daring enough to get it cut yet because I love my long hair and I am hoping that it will come back. But if all of my hair falls out I am ok with that because I feel so much healthier. But feeling healthy does not seem to take away the feeling I have because the scale is not moving. And I know everyone says go by the measurements and I have lost an inch or so all around but I still would like to see the scale move. I know that I could give up the pretzels but would that really create such a problem for me. Any advice you have would be so greatly appreciated. Did you all have this problem and did it last 2 months.

Jo-Lynn

[Monica Barry]

Hi Jo-Lynn

I think stalls are common around five months out. While they are
normal, they also present a good time to assess your habits.
Unfortunately, you don't seem to have the same deterents that others
have at your stage... you can eat pretzels! That coupled with the fact
that you don't seem to have any adverse effects to certain foods, you
probably need to be extra vigilent about what you eat.

First, what's your goal weight and how much more do you want to lose?
If you are closer to your goal, the weight comes off more slowly.
Second, how many calories do you eat? Do you really know? Keep track
of your food and it will help you better know how to break your stall.
How much protein do you take? I know your at 70 grams, but protein
boosts your metabolism, so try some extra lean proteins... eggs, greek
yogurt come to mind. Also, keep in mind that while you are exercising,
do you get your heart-rate up to help melt the pounds away? Make sure
to take your vitamins, and keep your water intake up. You may also
want to re-think the pretzel habit... they are empty calories that
you're body doesn't need (although, your emotional brain may think it
needs them!) Push up your protein, water and exercise. You may want to
try some new exercise. Maybe your body is accustomed to your exercise
routine and is not giving you that much bang for your buck...

Good luck and don't give up - you're smart to ask questions... and
seek support!

Monica

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[L URSO]

i'm having the same problem as jo-lynn  except im 2 years out i stp losing at about 80 # and still want to lose another 60
 I don't have any side effects from food except watermelon and cucumbers  i know i need to exercise more but i ended up with whooping cough this winter and am finally over it i have stayed the same wwight now for almost 1 year and still need to lose about 60 # + so don't feel like your alone jo-lynn
 
lisa
 
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[Jo-Lynn Rupp]

Monica thanks for the words of wisdom, I started this journey at 242.5 and I am 189.0 now....I have a goal of 112lbs. I choose that number because according to my chart I should be between 100-112 because I am only 4'11 1/2 notice I add the 1/2. So I started out having 130 1/2 lbs to lose and I have only lost 41% of my weight so far so I still have a lot to lose so I feel like I am still a long ways away from my goal. I have not been very diligent about writing down every calorie that I eat I just started a log today. I will change up my exercise routine a little hopefully that will help I check my heart rate while I am on the treadmill and try to keep it between 140-155 but I don't usually check it while I am in the circuit room. My husband and I were talking about that this afternoon. He suggested eating more eggs. I could definitely use more water. Thanks for the info hopefully I can get that scale moving again.

[Monica Barry]

Jo-Lynn - you are most welcome. Let me know if there is anything else
I can offer. ‎Sounds like a couple of tweaks to your routine will help
you get off the rest of that ‎weight. Remember, this is a learning
process and you are well on your way to further ‎success! Take care.
Monica

Lisa - it's never too late to work on that last 60 pounds! As you
said, adding some ‎exercise will get your metabolism up and get your
scale moving down again. To jump ‎start your weight loss, you might
want to go back to your basics... protein, water and ‎exercise! Keep
track of what you consume and what you burn! You'll be doing fine in
no ‎time! Monica

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[Ange...@aol.com]

Hello Jo-Lynn !

my name is Roger Wiltcher ,I had the surgery 13 years or so ago.

If you permit my I would like to share my thoughts with you.

Stop and think how close you followed the protocols  early on.  Now think about what you are doing different. There are several "red flags" in your letter.

 

1. "I can pretty much eat whatever I want I do not have a bad reaction to anything."

( eating what ever you want is not in the rules)it is a slippery slope to poor eating.  People like you and I can't ever eat whatever we want.We have a habit of trying to find ways around the protocols to satisfy our addiction to food not good for us. Our brains find ways to justify the food choices. Remember they operated on out stomachs,not our brains.

 

2. " I still eat pretty small meals but for some reason I feel like I am able to eat more than everyone else that I know."

"pretty small meals"...as compared to what? how small is the amount if it is more than everyone else you know. (again your brain is giving you permission to experiment, you must use the surgery from day one to break this habit)

How many calories are in your pretzels? I remember wanting something crunchy SO bad...But there is sodium in those snacks..PLUS you might be drinking MORE water to offset the salty taste. I and bet you have tried other snacks like that and it gets out of hand.  at least it did for me. Sometimes a snack is hard to resist, but why not something like carrots,

something that gives you that oral satisfaction, but none of the bad stuff.

the hair thing is distressing, come around the 4th month mark. Generally speaking, your body is throwing of the old toxins, your scalp is a place it gets kicked out of. It seems to me that you are doing everything else very well.

be sure to check calorie counts on your protein drinks.

So sit down and think about what you have changed since the surgery...I bet you will figure out the difference. Please don't experiment with what you can eat without getting sick.That is your brain again. please don't get so down on yourself...It just makes ya want to eat some comfort food. I hope this helped Jo-Lynn, I know it is not exactly wanted to hear...But I know what you are going through...you have come so far  DON'T GIVE UP !

Bless you,

 

REW

 

 

[Jo-Lynn Rupp]

Thanks Roger you gave me a lot to reflect on..I do need to stop letting my brain rule my stomach…..Last night on my way home I decided to pick up some cucumbers and greek yogurt. I am going to try to eat those when  I feel I need a snack, but I am going to make a better effort to just eat my 3 meals and not snack at all. I think the pretzels were a bad idea because I feel like they are so addicting.  Thank you.

 

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Hello Jo-Lynn !

[Faedra Sick]

I am also 5 months out and have not lost any weight since january. I feel like I sabotage myself and not sure why. I have a lot growth to still do in my mind. some people I hear start working out like crazy then get injuries and have to stop then gain weight back. other start shopping go max on credit card then gain weight back, other start drinking and it creeps up. it is all outside ways to run from what is inside and that is where I currently am, working on the inside of loving myself. I am also frighten and want so badly to be freed from food. I believe right now I just can't give up and I need to search for solutions to the problem no matter how many failures I encounter. edison was a great example of not giving up.

freedom on 9-22-2010

On Mar 1, 2011 8:40 AM, "Jo-Lynn Rupp" <jr...@ibew569.org> wrote:

[Jo-Lynn Rupp]

I am wondering if most people have this plateau at 4-5 months out…..With everyone’s responses I have been giving this a lot more thought and I guess it is because between 4-5 months we are able to go off on our own and start adding new foods to our plates…. It’s not like it was in the 1^st 3-4 months now we have to make our minds choose the right foods and let’s face it that has always been a problem for most of us and that’s probably why we needed the surgery in the 1^st place.  I guess we just have to really buckle down and analyze what we are eating,  kind of like how Roger did when he responded to my email. We think we are doing really well because we are eating so much less than we use to but we still need to watch out for that “slippery slope to poor eating” and control our own minds from trying to find ways to justify poor food choices. Thank you for responding to my email it is so nice to be in contact with someone who had the surgery around the same time that I did.