Bert Hellinger Family Constellations

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Includingthe female side through his wife Sophie, they researched and developed Family Constellation of that time more and more up to the present state, Original Hellinger Family Constellation, which is offered today worldwide through the Hellingerschule.

Since the death of Bert in September 2019, Sophie Hellinger has been responsible for being the caretaker and energetic motor for the continuation and development of his heritage.

The new Original Hellinger Family Constellation is an image-producing procedure in which people are placed in the space representing members of a family, a company or a product in order to read a dynamic from these related persons. The constellation serves the person to uncover the background of failure, illness, disorientation, addictions, aggression, longing for death and much more.

Everyone lives, privately and professionally, ALWAYS in relationships. The family is the basis for every human being. Whoever wants to find their right place and purpose in life must know the basic life principles or"Orders of Love", which were discovered by Bert Hellinger, and integrate them into their lives. The Orders of Love are universal laws of life, independent of skin colour, culture and religion. They are the basis for the success in life on all levels.

Original Hellinger Family Constellation leads to the realization that it is never too late for a happy life. For every person there is only one right place in the family, and that is their own place. Once you have found and taken this place, a new perspective opens up, which makes you capable of taking action.

Frequently, it is beliefs that we have inherited from our parents that keep us imprisoned. In the past, these were created in the subconscious and are now in our way. This prevents changes in behavior. In the Original Hellinger Family Constellations our hidden beliefs come to light, can be questioned, released and overwritten. The decision whether you are ready to do so is up to you personally.

Family constellations are always about life and death, about being or not being. Anyone who has experienced the Original Hellinger Family Constellation will notice that the inner movement inevitably always goes forward, i.e. towards life. Everybody knows that we have planned many things, but cannot implement them, because entanglements keep us from doing so. By releasing the old unconscious bonds, our focus is directed towards true love, care, mindfulness and respect and dreams become reality.

Family constellations are a method within systemic work to quickly gain insight into the deeper causes of an issue. The founder of systemic work was the German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger (1925-2019), who developed family constellations into a fully-fledged method in the late 1980s.

Systemic work assumes that we are all part of groups and that within those groups and within ourselves we are driven by unconscious patterns and dynamics. A family, but also a class, a sports club, a region, a country, society: they are all systems in themselves.

A constellation provides a spatial and visual image of a system. It is certainly not only about people in the system. It is mainly about how our families have dealt with history and how they have survived painful situations. That way of survival of our (ancestors) parents is often the source of patterns. And patterns are often (unconsciously) passed on.

In a family constellation you investigate personal questions and patterns within a system with the help of a systemic facilitator. By observing and exploring without judgement, the facilitator tries to make dynamics visible and to create space for a new movement or change.

A family constellation gives a new perspective. Not only on the system dynamics that got you stuck, but also on those in which you excel. You discover how your past and environment have contributed to who you are now. A supervisor helps you gain new insights and investigates where there is room for change in the system. With that new approach you can deal with your question in a very different way than before.

In a family constellation you set up persons or elements that touch on the personal question of the questioner. The facilitator and the questioner together determine which persons or elements these are. By what or by whom they should be represented, the questioner decides. You can perform the constellation with representatives or with materials.

A family constellation with representatives is a constellation with people who represent people or elements that touch the question. The representatives can talk, move, touch each other. The questioner gives the chosen representatives a place in the room. Under the guidance of an author, they move, express themselves and show hidden information from the family system.

It is striking that everyone seems to be able to represent. Once a representative has been set up, that person can feel and articulate how she or he relates to the other set up elements. A representative does not need to know anything about the system or the element that she or he represents.

You could say that as a representative you borrow your body and your senses to pick up the information about the system the constellation is about. This often makes a family constellation an intense and impressive experience, also for the representatives.

You can also make a problem visual with the aid of constellation material. It is a low-threshold way of drawing up, which a coach or systemic counselor often uses to gain a quick view of the whole together and to see what is going on in the subconscious.

In a table setting, the people and/or elements involved are depicted with a material. These can be dolls, but they can just as well be stones, pens, sugar cubes or shells. The materials are arranged on the table.

You can create a floor arrangement with colored pieces of fabric, each representing a different person or element. Or you use empty A4 sheets and write on them which sheet represents what. The materials are placed on the floor, which has the advantage that as a questioner you can stand in different places to feel what a place does to you.

A constellation with materials is an accessible way for a (first) family constellation. From a practical point of view, a constellation with representatives requires people, a location. Emotionally, it requires the questioner to be willing to expose himself in front of a group. A constellation with materials is often easier and faster to organize. It may be enough to move on.

Certainly not. A professional constellation is not dangerous. As long as the facilitator is well trained and knows what he or she is doing. If that is not the case, a constellation can have the wrong effect.

At the Bert Hellinger Institute Netherlands you can contact our experienced supervisors for a family constellation in all variants.

With a family constellation in private session, we do our own constellation in 2 hours. The questioner comes alone. The facilitator ensures the presence of 6 representatives. A family constellation in a private session offers a lot of privacy and takes less time than following a workshop.

With personal systemic coaching we make an appointment of around 1.5 hours. There are no representatives present for a line-up. Together with the coach you can make a constellation using floor or table material, making the issue visual and experiencing it.

You can also opt for a workshop or two-day family constellations. You can submit your own question and experience the attitudes of others. You can also be invited to be a representative in constellations of others. These are unique experiences that often also deepen your own process. In addition, you learn to better understand and feel family constellations through the explanation of the trainer and by experiencing constellations of others. For the above reasons, we generally prefer to recommend a workshop or two-day instead of a 1-on-1 session.

A family constellation course immerses you completely in systemic phenomenological work. Under the supervision of our trainers, you will gain knowledge, experience and insight into the basic principles and dynamics of systems. You learn how to guide a family constellation and thus help other people in their development.

Bert Hellinger: We observe when we work with the family that they are driven by a common principle or force, and I call that a family consciousness. We can observe that a circumscribed number of people are subject to unconscious drives to behave in a certain way. If in a family one member has been excluded or forgotten, for example a child that died early, and is no longer counted among the siblings, then later on, in the next generation only, another member takes up the same fate of that child.

Then I select a representative for the dead sister and I place her in front of the others. And they all feel relieved, for she can now be included. And another child who has later became ill, for instance, of diabetes, has now a greater chance to deal with that illness in a positive way.

Bert Hellinger: Yes, for the perception is helped most by asking only for the most essential information, and for that to be done just prior to the constellation, not earlier. The essential questions are:

This is also the reason why the therapist declines any prior conversations with the client or extensive questionnaires. In addition, it is best if the client remains silent during the constellation, and that the representatives refrain from asking the client any questions.

Bert Hellinger: The force that operates to select somebody to represent the person excluded, that is the family consciousness and it is unconscious. You see it by its effects. This family consciousness follows certain laws.

This is one of the laws. And we can actually see by its effects which members of the family are subjected to them or not. Only certain family members are affected and may be entangled in the fates of other family members.

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