I have received a letter from Fr. Nicholas Stanosheck, in which Fr.
Nicholas has tendered his resignation from the office of deacon,
effective Pascha, 2007.
Just as when a man who wishes to divorce his wife must submit a
petition for divorce and wait for a higher authority to act upon it,
even though he may be separated from his wife, so also a clergyman,
who by the service of ordination is "married" to the Church, may be in
a state of separation from his service, even though he has not yet
been freed from the obligations of his office. We usually call this
time a period of suspension.
Fr. Nicholas' petition is presently going through the appropriate
procedures. He no longer represents the ROAC as a clergyman. It is not
improper to continue to address him as Father during this time.
However, since he is leaving his position by his own volition, I think
it is also acceptable to address him simply as a layman, as he himself
desires.