Pavan,
Talk about a compound question. I'll try to answer as many of them as I can...
At present, you can only use VSP structures with 'MS_WING' type components.
At present, VSP wing structures only supports skin, ribs, and spar. If you can't represent what you need with a wing skin/rib/spar combination, then it won't work for you.
I'm not sure the problem you're having when you go to export a structure. If you have a wing with structure set up, it shouldn't have any trouble generating the FEA mesh and writing out a Calculix file.
VSP doesn't do well with a gazillion components. I have also heard that the seats model may have some duplicate components that will make this problem worse than you think. Do you really want to model all the seats in VSP? What do you want to accomplish with that? Maybe there is a better way to accomplish that goal.
Rob