Well I think I may have gotten it. It didn't go off the rails last night so that's good. The guiding is still lousy but I am chalking it up to bad seeing. The wind was blowing about 30 mph... anyway, I took the suggestions offered. Below is summary of them
I turned everything off, reassessed the cables, the balance, the "home position", and the polar alignment. I adjusted the balance of the RA by a fraction but everything else is good. I ensure the camera was securely fastened and no visible movement. The guide and OAG are securely fastened and as far as I can tell, the OAG is securely connected to the OAG. I polar aligned using an electronic polemaster camera and only needed a very minor adjustment in azimuth.
Issue: Changing equipment profile details.
Recommendation: Create a new profile for the gear.
I created a new profile using the new profile wizard. There are three different drivers shown on my screen for ZWO cameras. ASI ZWO Camera, ASI ASCOM (1), and ASI ASCOM (2). I selected each driver to see which pixel size would auto populate - only one would and that is ASI ASCOM (1). I have it set to Bin2 with 2x2 mean noise reduction, the calibration does not auto restore, and a minimum HFD of 1.6 with maximum of 10, and minimum SNR for autoselect of 30. (the default is 6 but that has never worked for my guide camera on a OAG although it did work flawlessly with my guide scope so maybe it's a pixel scale thing?) The only thing about this profile is the gain settings for the camera are locked. I can't change them and its set to 100. I don't have an answer yet as to if this is a good thing although it did work last night.
Issue: Lost star events
Recommendation: ??
This is why I pumped up the minimum SNR originally. Setting it at 30 solved all those problems with my last OAG. It worked again last night as well.
Issue: Improvements to guide camera focus
Recommendation: Per PHD2 user manual, use the FWHM profile to fine tune the focus.
Done and done. Although it might need further adjustment on a calmer night. The turbulent air was making some awful bloated stars.
Issue: Poor sky conditions
Recommendation: don't image and don't guide. Have a beer instead
I didn't image, but did do the above and I did have an adult beverage.
Issue:
erratic mount performance
Recommendation:
a guiding assistant run of 10-15 minutes can help identify issues here for you and for us
I calibrated as close to the meridian and 0° DEC as I could get. I then ran a calibration assistant and applied its suggestions. It slewed to 0° and +5° of the meridian point west. Ran the calibration a second time, I got a notification telling me the new calibration was significantly different the previous calibration. I did not get any dialogue boxes during the sanity-check. The CA called the new calibration acceptable so I accepted the new calibration. Next I slewed to a different target on the opposite side of the meridian to see if it would maintain the calibration and it did. But the RA was bad... 2.37" bad. So I ran a guiding assistant and let it run for 573 seconds. The GA said to try using 2-3 second exposures, and applied some adjustments to the RA and DEC min-move settings. Resumed guiding for another couple of hours or so after that with no lost stars, it performed a meridian flip and resumed guiding again with no lost stars. The DEC error was good, if I remember it was 0.85-ish. The RA was still bad, 1.73 after guiding for unattended for a couple of hours.
At this point, I am short on ideas of what to try next. I will try again on a calmer night - perhaps the bad seeing was the culprit. Either way, I took a 3 minute sub and 5 minute sub during the guiding to ensure the camera were staying connected (that was issue #1 previously, the image camera and guide camera were on the same driver). I still don't understand the ASI ASCOM (1) driver - I really wish I could rename these drivers to something more specific but at least it is evidently specific to the ASI290mm guide camera. I just can't figure out why the gain settings are off limits to me now when before they weren't. But I digress. The 3 minute and 5 minute sub both had a good star profile albeit fat - presumably from the bad seeing conditions.