Mike
I used to have a CGE setup, including using BYEOS and AstroTortilla; so perhaps the following is helpful. I admit it's been a while since I used the CGE, so if there are any gaps in the following, I am sure others will fill them.
One difference between the CGEM and the CGE is the latter has a PC Port on the mount, using a Programming cable (93922). This allows me to connect directly to a PC and the HC can be completely removed. I do not think this is an option with the CGEM, i.e. you have to keep the HC and connect to the PC via the bottom of the HC (cable 93920), as you have done. You can still use NexRemote (see below) with one caveat.
Note: Because there are ASCOM drivers for all your equipment, you can eliminate the use of the ST-4 cable from the Starshoot to the mount. A guide star shift will go from the guide camera to PHD2 on your PC via the USB connection. Based on this data, PHD2 will send a guide command back to the mount via the HC.
Here are the connections that should work for the CGEM.
1. USB from guide camera to PC. This can go through a powered USB hub, if needed, depending upon the length of the cables.
2. Cable from PC to HC
3. Cable(s), typically power and data, from imaging camera to PC.
Power up the PC.
Power up the mount, imaging camera. The guide camera should also power up via the USB cable.
Start NexRemote. At some point, you should have setup a virtual COM port that allows NR to control the mount via that port.
Align your scope, using NR and whatever align procedure you like. See the caution below on the use of HC and NR.
Start BYEOS and connect your camera. In order for BYEOS to talk to PHD2, you need to go to the Settings window in BYEOS. Check TCP Server. Use the default port of 1499.
Start Astrotortilla. Select Backyard EOS under Camera, then click Setup. Ensure that the same port number (1499) is listed here. You can use whatever ISO you use for your normal images. Leave the IP and Timeout values alone. Click Close.
In Astrotortilla, click Telescope and select ASCOM Telescope. The ASCOM Telescope Chooser window should open. From the dropdown list, select Celestron ASCOM Driver. Click Properties. Your CGEM should already be selected as the Scope Type. Ensure the Port Number matched the VIRTUAL port number from NexRemote. The Scope info fields should be populated with your specifics already. Fill in your specific Site info. Click OK to return to ASCOM Telescope Chooser window. Click OK. If you can't click OK, then it means somewhere there is a ASCOM connection that is incomplete.
Start PHD2. Click Connect. Select the Orion Starshoot under Camera. Select On-camera under Mount. IF you had connected the ST-4 cable from the Starshoot to the ST-4 port on the mount, then you would select Celestron Scope Driver.
You should be able to use NR to slew to a target, then use AstroTortilla/BYEOS combo to fine-tune the center of the image. Once you are happy with where the scope is pointed, then you can start guiding with PHD2. If you haven't already done so, PHD2 will do an initial calibration and then start guiding
Using BYEOS, begin capture with the imaging camera.
GOOD LUCK. Let us know if my instructions are unclear or do not perform as expected.
RE:NexRemote (NR) software. This software replaces the Hand Control. Once you start using NR for mount control, the ONLY thing you can do with the HC is control movement with the four directional arrows. If you press ANYTHING else on the HC, then the mount will get confused between the HC and NR.
While there is useful info throughout the site, here is the link to the CGEM section
You also might find Larry McNish's connection diagram helpful