Michael
You might want to poke around in Mike Swanson's site. It is fairly up to date; although David Carter's cables (
astrogadgets.com) are no longer available.
It has info on all the Celestron Nexstar line, including the CGEM. There is a diagram that may be helpful. The PHD2 folks can't possibly provide diagrams for all the potential configurations.
I used to have a CGE. I hope my experience is helpful. However, the CGEM is somewhat different in terms of what ports are available and the following is a just a theory on my part.
The CGE has a standard port (PC Port) that allowed me to connect the mount to my PC via the serial-USB adapter that Bruce mentioned. Using this, the Celestron ASCOM driver, and Cartes du Ciel (or other compatible planetarium programs) in combination with NexRemote, that comes with all Celestron Nexstar mounts, I can control the mount without the need for the Hand Control or HC cable. This includes both GoTo and guiding. With the ASCOM driver installed, I eliminated the ST-4 cable from the guide camera to the mount and use PHD2 pulse guiding.
You can get the equivalent of the PC port using the Auxiliary Port Accessory Kit (part number 93965) . This plugs into the AUX port on the CGEM. However, Celestron may not make this part anymore. DIY approach is possible.
The 4-connector RJ-45 on the Hand Control is NOT the same as the 6 connector RJ-12 needed for the PC Port. Also, do NOT connect a serial port - RJ12 cable directly to the AUX port. The 93965 kit (hard to find) is needed.
In re-reading the above, I recognize that it is complex and, perhaps, not helpful. I don't have enough experience with the CGEM to make it better. My apologies. Hopefully someone with CGEM experience will be more helpful.
Bryan