Stupid romance relationship stuff

[Rami Rustom]

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> Like The Rules where you can't call her for 3 days so you don't seem desperate.

umm.. I always thought that that "rule" had to do with not letting her
know that you like her too much. Or is that related to 'seeming
desperate'? Just because I like somebody a lot doesn't mean that I
don't also like lots of other people a lot. Also, just because I seem
excited now doesn't mean that I'm not also excited about lots of other
things. What a dumb rule of thumb.

And I never cared for rules like that (cause I didn't understand the
reason for them), and girls (and people in general) said that I'm
'genuine' and that that was a good thing. So why do some people think
that not following these rules is genuine/good? Maybe these are the
people that know its stupid but do it anyway.

BTW, something similar happened a few days ago. Somebody said, "we all
know that its dumb to care what others think of us, but sometimes we
care anyways". Uh, no, you care because you *don't* have the right
knowledge. It means that you have an inexplicit idea that you're not
criticizing.

These seem connected. Both of them involve 'not wanting to rock the
boat', which is a metaphor for being afraid of losing approval. Their
both about judging oneself by the standard of others, rather than by
one's own standard.


> This is generally thought to be especially true of females who are known for being mercurial, and for wanting their boyfriend to support them and sympathize with them whether they are right or wrong.

What.. the.. fuck. Support an idea (knowing that its wrong) *because*
it came from your girlfriend?!?!?! OMG.. This explains my confusion
when somebody asked me, "When you're girlfriend is mad at a guy, do
you get mad at him too?", to which I replied, "uh.. what did the guy
do wrong?", and he replied, "it doesn't matter, you don't even know,"
to which I replied "how can I be mad without knowing what the fuck I'm
supposed to be mad about.. what am I supposed to do, fake it or
something?"


> You're probably thinking that if you give in because it's better than fighting that will set a bad precedent and it won't be fun to do that every time. Well first of all you could take turns. Second of all things don't always turn out how you expect. Maybe once you get the dog she will actually like it. Or once you don't have it you will take an interest in something else and forget all about it and not be sad. Third, what is this about a precedent? You are scared your wife, your cherished loved one, will discover that if she refuses to agree she can make you give in even though you'd rather not? Well, suppose she discovers that is possible. She will not want to do that! Right? She better not. If she does what on earth are you doing married? So you shouldn't be scared of that. If you are you have much bigger problems than a dog. Bigger than a cow, even.

Here's another example of that.

Guy: Aren't you worried that your girlfriend/wife might cheat on you
because she's off doing X somewhere without you?

Rami: No, if I worried about that I'd dump her, oh and BTW, she knows
that I'd dump her if I didn't trust her. Oh she also knows that if
*she* doesn't trust me that I'd dump her -- whats the point of being
in a relationship when either of the people are worried that the other
is doing something wrong? Better to not have the relationship at all.




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> Without understanding where the other is coming form it is very hard to think of a solution that you'd both like.

form should be from.


> You're probably thinking I cheated by making the scenario too easy. But seriously stop and think a moment there are easy solutions sometimes.

I think a pause (a comma) is needed after moment.

-- Rami Rustom
http://ramirustom.blogspot.com