Hi Mark,
In terms of producing depth maps, this can be done in most rendering software as it is used for things like depth-based effects in images (such as fog and aerial perspective).
I don't know what CAD software you currently use but the rendering program V-Ray can create depth maps and is compatible with most common CAD programs I know of. A completely free workaround might be SketchUp with a plug-in (I haven't tried one to reccomend but looking online it seems they exist).
As an architecture student, I use Rhino among other programs but you can get free trials of most software.
I've attached some images that show a depth map created from an arbitrary .stl file within Rhino using Rhino's native renderer.
You would then need to either use laser engraving software to engrave using variable power on the laser based on how dark parts of the image are or 'posterise' the image sort of like paint-by-numbers, which could be done using programs like Illustrator/Inkscape.
I've done this before using the educational program '2D Design'. I've attached an image of the Barbican I engraved from a photo a few years ago as a test (this was just a regular RGB image not a depth map but the principle is the same).
I'm not sure whether the software at the hackspace is capable of engraving directly from image files though as I've never tried.