Hello Dan, you should look on the home from the user you use it when you install it, did you were logged as pi? as root? some other user?
After this take a look inside the /root or see how many user folder you have under /home with "ls -la"
Then you can take a look inside each user folders.
pi@raspberrypi:/ $ sudo su
root@raspberrypi:/# cd root
root@raspberrypi:~# ls
root@raspberrypi:~# ls -la
total 40
drwx------ 5 root root 4096 Aug 12 22:32 .
drwxr-xr-x 22 root root 4096 Jul 5 14:01 ..
-rw------- 1 root root 96 Aug 12 22:32 .bash_history
-rw-r--r-- 1 root root 570 Jan 31 2010 .bashrc
drwxr-xr-x 3 root root 4096 Aug 12 22:19 .node-gyp
drwxr-xr-x 341 pi pi 12288 Aug 13 22:54 .npm
-rw-r--r-- 1 root root 140 Nov 19 2007 .profile
drwx------ 3 root root 4096 Aug 12 21:47 .vnc
root@raspberrypi:~# cd /home
root@raspberrypi:/home# ls -la
total 12
drwxr-xr-x 3 root root 4096 Jul 5 12:41 .
drwxr-xr-x 22 root root 4096 Jul 5 14:01 ..
drwxr-xr-x 21 pi pi 4096 Aug 13 23:11 pi
You need to locate the .node-red folder as all will be inside this folder and this folder will be located on the home folder of the user who made the node-red installation.
Best regards