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- Various Ways in Which Domestic Violence Is Managed Today
- Theories about the Causes of Domestic Violence
- Effects of Domestic Violence on Children
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Various Ways in Which Domestic Violence Is Managed Today Posted: 22 Feb 2014 01:55 AM PST Domestic violence is not peculiar to any society or culture and it did not start today. History records contain incidences of domestic violence even in the ancient time. There are various ways in which these cases of abuse are handled in various places culturally and legally. In other words, each society has its own way of handling domestic violence. The way it is handled in western culture is quite different from the way it is handled in the Asian and African countries. It all depends on how it is viewed in a country legally, culturally and religiously. As private family affairs Domestic violence is seen by some people and in some places as private family affair. As such, it does not require the legal interference or the interference of the government. As a private family matter it should be settled internally within the family or according to family tradition. In societies where domestic violence is seen as private family issues, the security agents rarely interfere in such matters. The court is normally reluctant to judge such cases or to punish the offenders. In most cases, the judge will ask the couple to go home and settle among themselves. Some judge will see it as a misdemeanor or less serious crime and will leave the offender unpunished. This view of domestic violence is basically a traditional view. Though such views are still obtainable in some countries especially developing countries, it is no longer the case in the developed western world. It is seen as a criminal and public case. Domestic violence as a public case Domestic violence is a serious public matter in the western countries and other highly industrialized countries. It is treated as a criminal act. As a criminal act, people who are found guilty of the act are punished according to the law of the country. As a criminal act, the police and the court are involved in it. Any person can be charged for such act including women. Once the matter is reported, adequate investigation is made and the case will be filed in a law court. Like every other criminal act, the court has to determine whether or not the accused is innocent. If the accused is found guilty, he or she will be punished according to the law. The person will be acquitted if he or she is found innocent by the court. As criminal act, all legal procedures are observed. The accused has the right to hire a lawyer to represent him or her in the law court. His or her lawyer can argue him or her out from the case. Religious handling Besides handling the case in the family or law court, some people also handle it religiously. This is obtainable if couples are serious adherents of a religious group. One party usually the abused can report the case to their religious leader so that the partner will be counseled. Psychological counseling Domestic violence can also be handled through counseling. The counselor will examine the case and its causes and then counsel the parties on how to avoid it. Related posts:
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Theories about the Causes of Domestic Violence Posted: 22 Feb 2014 12:00 AM PST Many theories about the causes of domestic violence have been propounded. Some of these theories include the psychological theory, biological and social theory. · Biological factors Some people have linked domestic violence to genetics factors and dysfunction of the brain. Enormous research is being carried out in this area by neuroscientists in order to fully understand the link between genes and domestic violence. Some proponents of this theory think that it is more likely for children of a person that genetically abuse his or her partner to also abuse their partners because of genetic factors. · Psychological theory Psychological theories explain the cause of domestic violence from the point of view of the mental characteristics and personality traits of the offender which include such traits as poor self-esteem, poor impulse control and bursts of anger. Many of the proponents of these theories are of the view that personality disorders, psychopathology and the abuse a person was exposed to as a child can make him or her to become violent to his or her partner in adulthood. Numerous studies conducted on this have discovered psychopathic incidences among the abusers. However, the claims of psychological theorists have been refuted by some intellectuals like Gelles. These people are of the opinion that domestic violence is more caused by social factors rather than psychological factors. They noted that only 10% or less cases of domestic violence can be linked to the psychological profile of the abuser. · Mental illness It has been discovered through research that people with mental problems or derangement have tendencies of abusing their partners. Psychiatric disorders such as antisocial personality disorder, schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder, drug abuse, alcoholism, bipolar disorder and the likes are associated with domestic violence. It has been established through studies that about 1/3 of abusers suffer from any of these psychiatric disorders. · Marital conflict disorder One of the major causes of domestic violence is marital conflict. It is more likely to have incidences of domestic violence among couples that have problems with their relationship. There are many factors that can cause relationship problems. One of the major causes of marital conflict disorders is lack of compatibility. When two people who are not compatible or whose lifestyles do not match get married, they are likely to have problems in their marital life. Financial problems in marriage can also lead to relationship problems. If these problems are not well managed or settled, it can aggravate to domestic violence. · Jealousy Jealousy rears its ugly head in many ways in a relationship and it can lead to domestic violence. There are some people who became jealous of their partners’ achievements. Sometimes, these people manifest their jealousy and disappointments by abusing their partners. Infidelity or unfaithfulness in marriage is another factor that can also lead to jealousy in marriage. · Social factors Domestic violence has also been associated or linked to social factors which include stress, family structure and social learning. These factors can ignite or strike off domestic violence but they are not basically the cause of domestic violence. Incoming search terms:Related posts:
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Effects of Domestic Violence on Children Posted: 21 Feb 2014 12:06 PM PST Most cases of domestic violence normally occur in male-female relationship. In fact, according to the records of the US government, about 95 percent of cases of domestic abuse occur in relationships that involve men and women. Most of these relationships are marriages with children. These children are exposed to domestic violence. According to research, about 3-4 million children in the US alone are exposed to domestic violence. There are several ways a child can be exposed to domestic violence. Getting exposed to domestic abuse can mean seeing or being present during the real incidence of domestic abuse such as sexual or physical abuse or both. A child may also become exposed to domestic violence by observing the aftermath of physical abuse like tears, bruises, blood, broken items, torn clothing and the likes. Another way through which a child can be exposed to domestic violence is by hearing fighting noises and threats from the parent’s room. The mother’s attitude of fearfulness and even tension in the home is another means through which children can be aware of domestic abuse. These are some of the ways through which children can be exposed to domestic violence. However, being exposed to battering affects children in many ways. How children who are exposed to battering feel? Domestic violence can have some negative effect on children. It can affect them psychologically and physically. It can also affect their academic performance and social relationship with other children. First, such children tend be very fearful and anxious at home. They are watchful and apprehensive of danger always. They don’t know what to do or what not to do or what will cause violence behavior. They always feel insecure at home especially when the bully is around. Such sense of insecurity at home can affect their children behavior and relationship with their parents and siblings. Children who are exposed to domestic violence are always in pain internally even though they may seem to be happy to the outside world. They get annoyed and remain in pain when they see their peers in a normal family play and joke with their parents or when they hear about their parents. There is the tendency for them to become annoyed with their follow sibling or even any of their parents that trigger off the abuse. They will always like to keep the family secret and feel humiliated and embarrassed when their family condition is talked about. Children who are exposed to domestic violence always feel vulnerable and isolated. They feel deprived of their parental attention, approval and affection. The dad is so domineering that their mom is not always around to give them the required parental attention. Besides these emotional and psychological effects, their social behavior is also affected. There are two possibilities. Some may grow up becoming aggressive to other people. Another possibility is that some may become fearful and feel unsecure even in the midst of peers. This may make them to be too reserved. The condition at home may not allow them to study very well. It is more likely that they will not perform better in their school.
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How to Guide against Domestic Violence Posted: 23 Feb 2014 02:17 AM PST There are a number of people who are victims of domestic violence. Most cases of domestic violence would have been avoided if the victims know the right thing to do or how to avoid it. If your partnered is hot tempered or has tendency to abuse, there are tips that you can apply in order to avoid being abused by your partner. Here are some of the ways through which you can avoid it. Know your partner’s personality or temperament People’s behaviors and reaction to situations depend on their personality and temperament to a greater extent. It is the key to understanding a person’s behavior. So, if you are into any lifetime relationship or marital relationship, it is important that you understand your partner’s personality and temperament. If you understand him or her and why he or she reacts the way he or she does, you will be able to tell what will annoy him or her. Don’t argue with him or her for a long time If your partner is a hot tempered person or easily get pissed off, you should avoid engaging in hot argument with him or her for a long time. You will only end up getting him or her annoyed or starting a fight with the person if you argue too much with him or her. Just keep quiet and then make your point when the person is back to his or her sense or when the person is in a happy mood. Not engaging him or her in a hot argument does not mean that you will accept blame for what you are innocent of or that you will accept any treatment from the person. If you know that you are right, then you have to stand your right without engaging in too much argument with the person. Always make your point with soft voice. Stay away from your partner when he is too annoyed If you have an argument with your partner and he is very much annoyed with you, it is important that you stay away from the person until he calms down. Pass the night in your friend’s house and come back the next day when he might have calmed down. The situation might be worse if you sleep in the house. Never you exchange words with him in the bedroom Most domestic violence starts in the bedroom. The bedroom normally is located where neighbours will not see what is happening inside it. Besides, it is easy for the abuser to lock up the bedroom and beat you up. So, you should not argue with your partner in the bedroom to avoid being abused. Call the police when it gets out of hand When the situation gets out of your control or when it is clear to you that you will be abused, you have to call the police. Don’t wait until you are abused before you will call the police. The person will likely not abuse you, if he or she knows that you have called the police. Quit the relationship There is no need continuing in relationship that you will be abused for life. If there is no change in your partner’s abusive behavior, then you have to quit the relationship.
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Posted: 25 Feb 2014 11:56 AM PST Once the phrase domestic violence is mentioned, many people naturally think of men beating their wives. Some people do not imagine or think that men are also victims of domestic violence. The reason for this is obvious. Naturally, men are physically stronger than women. Based on this physical difference, it is generally believed that men are abusers. However, experience has shown that there are women that are stronger than their male partners or even other men. Today, women can engage in some tasks that are traditionally meant for men or difficult tasks which require strength and energy. Besides, domestic violence is not only limited to physical injury or battering. It can occur in different ways. A woman can intentionally decide to avoid any sex intercourse with her husband in order to punish him or deny him food. This denial is a form of domestic violence. Using abusive words that keep somebody in pain is also another form of domestic violence. In other words, there are different ways through which men can be abused or subjected to pain by their female partners. It is therefore wrong to think that only women are victims of domestic violence or to limit domestic violence to physical abuse only. What is male domestic violence? Male domestic violence is a type of domestic in which a man or boy in an intimate or romantic relationship such as dating, cohabitation, marriage or in family relationship is subjected to violent act or various kinds of abuses. It can occur both in a heterosexual relationship and gay relationship. Determining the instance of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship It is always highly difficult to determine cases of male domestic violence because of the following reasons. · Cultural influence As it has been mentioned, it is traditionally considered abnormal for a man to be abused by a woman. In some culture, such a man is best regarded as a weakling. Owing to traditional and cultural influence and rejection of such acts, some men who are abuse by their women prefer not talking about it to letting people know that they are abused by their partners. They are not willing to ask their relatives for help or go for counseling because of fear of being regarded as a weakling or the shame associated with it. · Impartial treatment by criminal justice system The impartial treatment by the criminal justice system or the police is another reason why some men who are abused by their partners do not like making any case from it. It has been discovered through studies that women who abuse their partners are mostly favored by the security agents. The probability that security agents will not arrest such women is high. Owing to this reason, some men who are violently treated by their women prefer not reporting the case to security agents. A study also discovered that women who abused their husbands are in most cases regarded as victims of abuse rather than abusers. Their male partners are instead treated as the abusers rather than victims. This impartial treatment is not intentional but it arises from cultural influence as explained above. Related posts: |
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Signs to Know Battering Personalities Posted: 27 Feb 2014 04:42 AM PST There are some behavior traits that will indicate to you that your partner is likely to abuse you. Check if your partner exhibits any of the following behaviors. Disrespect his mother or other women In some cultures, men are trained to take women as the weaker sex. Men with such orientations and trainings see women as simple object to be exploited. They have no respect for women including their mothers. Their feelings do not matter at all to them. Such men are much likely to batter their partners in marital or romantic relationship or any other type of relationship. So, if you are into a relationship and you discover that your boyfriend has no respect for his mother or any other woman, you should consider quitting the relationship because it is more likely that he will also have no respect for you and can batter you. History of abuse Take time to examine the past history of your partner. If your partner has had any failed relationships, find out why those relationships failed. Also check your partner’s relationship history during his school days. If he has history of abuse, it will be better for you to quite the relationship. This is because he is more likely going to abuse you. Generally, adults with certain behavioral traits don’t easily change. Well balanced adults are not easily influenced by circumstances. This is one fact that you should take into consideration if you are into any relationship or about starting up one. Don’t say that he has not physically abuse you or that he will not batter you even if he battered other ladies. Normally, at the beginning of any relationship, nobody batters their partners except in rare cases. Battering occurs when relationship has gone far. So, don’t wait until you are battered before you should consider quitting the relationship. Uncontrolled tempered There are some men who abuse their partnered only to start regretting their action afterwards. Such people are hot tempered. Hot tempered people damage things when they are annoyed. When there is nothing to break or to kick at, they can kick their partners at slightest provocations. If your partner is hot tempered and normally kicks things when he is angry, it is advisable that you stay away from him when he is annoyed. There is the tendency that he will kick at you when there is nothing to kick at. Threatens to batter you Men in their right senses do not threaten other people especially women no matter how angry they are. If your partner threatens to batter you, don’t take such threats as empty threats. This is because one day, they will put it into action. Watch your partner closely to see if he threatens women. He may tell you that he does not mean it. It will be foolhardy to take such a threat as empty one. Not ready to accept failures or blames Men that batter their partners normally have the tendency of not accepting their failures and blames. If you are into a relationship with a man with such character, it is a sign of red flag. You should consider quitting the relationship. These are some of the signs that show a man that will batter his wife.
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Domestic Violence in a Same Sex Relationship Posted: 26 Feb 2014 11:06 AM PST When the term domestic violence is mentioned, there is the tendency for some people to think only of man and woman relationship. This is because it is historically and traditionally popular and acceptable form of romantic or marital relationship. However, there are other forms of relationships that are acceptable in the contemporary society such as gay and lesbian relationship. Given the fact that these relationships are not popular traditionally speaking, most people do not think of them when the problem of domestic violence is being discussed or mentioned. But these forms of sexual orientations and relationships are gradually gaining ground in most countries especially in the secularized western world. Many campaigns have been initiated in order to fight for rights of people with homosexual tendencies. Same sex marriages are now legally acceptable in many parts of the world. Just like in a heterosexual relationship, domestic violence also occurs in same sex relationships and marriages. Analysis of 19 studies carried out on partner indicated that domestic abuse can also occur in a homosexual relationship which can be gay or lesbian relationship. So, it is wrong to limit domestic violence to people in heterosexual relationship or marriages. Why domestic violence in same sex relationship is not popular Cases of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship are not popular and it is difficult to know or at least estimate the number of people in same sex relationship that are abused. This is because there is no accurate documentations of cases of domestic abuse in a heterosexual relationship. There are a number of reasons that can lead to that. Discrimination One of the major reasons why homosexuals who are abused by their partners prefer to suffer in silence is because of the discriminatory attitude of some societies to same sex marriages. In some cultures, it is an abomination to talk of same sex relationship. So, people who have such orientation keep their relationship in secret and if any of them is being abused by the other, the person will also prefer not to talk about it. Staying because of love In heterosexual relationship, some people who are suffering from domestic abuse endure it because of love. This is also seen in a heterosexual relationship. The fact that it is not easy for homosexuals to find a date makes some of them to bear the abuse rather than staying without having any date.
Financial problem or unemployment A gay may decide not talk about the abuses he is suffering from his partner because of financial reason. This is common among homosexuals who are dependent on their partners or who have no employment. Legal reasons In some places where homosexual relationship is forbidden by the law, homosexuals who are abused by their partners will prefer to bear the pain than to call the police. This is because calling the police implies exposing themselves. Religious reasons Popular religion of the world such as Christianity, Islam, Judaism and others do not support such type of relationship. It is considered a sin. This is why homo sexual may prefer to bear the pain of domestic abuse than to report it. Related posts: |
