Fwd: FW: Phase III Chapter 5 & 6

[Augustine Douglas]

How does one influence through relationship?

The dictionary definition of the word influence is: the capacity to
have an effect on character, development or behavior of someone or
something or the effect itself.
We influence through motivation and empowerment, fostering
relationships hopefully for the betterment of others. There is an old
adage that says "what you make happen for others God will make happen
for you." Influence relationships through authority and not power, as
"Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely; Great men are
almost always bad men" by John Emerich Edward Dalberg Acton. The
power of influencing through relationship should teach how to develop,
maintain and repair relationships. Leaders who place premium on
relationship which is established through trust progress at steady
pace, not necessarily faster, but daily growth make adjustments
ensuring positive results. The truth is that if relationships are
strained then business policies are most time sabotaged. Greek Poet
Theognis of Megara quote "He who mistrusts most, should be trusted
least." The foundational elements that should influence relationship
are trust, communication, credibility and and empathy

A leader who influences is like a song with all the the notes bringing
harmony to the hearers. When a leader has sung all the notes of
influence through relationship then the sound will continue to flow to
everyone who hears. Paul influenced Onesimus through their
relationship his influence served as the catalyst of change in the
life of Onesimus, this is a prime example of it takes one to start a
revolution. Onesimus names which means "Profitable" because
profitable to the kingdom of God serving ultimately serving Christ
through the life that he lived as a servant to Philemon. Philemon
8-11

Christ makes me bold enough to order you to do the right thing.
However, I would prefer to make an appeal on the basis of love. I,
Paul, as an old man and now a prisoner for Christ Jesus, appeal to you
for my child Onesimus [Useful]. I became his spiritual father here in
prison. Once he was useless to you, but now he is very useful to both
of us.

How do you influence through accountability

Accountability/responsibility is defined as the quality or state of
being accountable; an obligation or willingness to accept
responsibility or to account for one's action.
Therefore influence by authority is simply living our life in the
transparency of being accountable or responsible for every single
action we make. The goal of every leader should provide team member
with the fundamentals/principle of accountability. Influencing
through love, that's should be the first principle of operation.
Leading others through love will create the situation that God will
use to bring others and that's being accountable for life of those
around. The principle of accountability is a legacy that must be
passed on. This legacy should be lived through forgiveness; as Walter
Wright aptly states "don't build mountains as mountains do not
forgive" make one bad move and everything will topple over. Therefore
the climb through accountability should purposefully be chartered so
that no-one is stepping out of line with the vision. Relating to
everyone with equal measure not showing partiality as everything we do
has a greater cause, some we are aware of, others we might not, but at
the end of the day we are accountability to God for every word, every
action we take.

Every team member should realize that we have entrusted by God with an
awesome responsibility [meaning God is processing His kingdom through
our gifting and talents] to manage, care and nurture of His people.
This makes us vulnerable, as every time we venture out to do Ministry
we are under the radar/scrutiny of those we serve. Serve in love,
accepts others regardless of how they choose to operate, as everyone
has to give account to God for what they do. Remembering that in the
kingdom of God there is no hierarchy, everyone is on level playing
field. We are accountable to each other but we are all accountable to
the only wise God, who sees and knows all things.

I will conclude that accountability is the most relevant principle in
the role of leading others through relationship, so it behoves to
serve other with pure motives for Eccelesiaties 12:14 "God will
judge us for everything we do, including every secret thing, whether
good or bad" and we cannot afford to fail We must operate from a pure
motive, do what we do for the sole benefit of the kingdom of God as
James 3:17 states "But the wisdom that is from above is first pure,
then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and
good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy."

My note of thank you to Pastor Steve and his staff for allowing us
[through your obedience to God's call] to be able to participate in
this course. For me this course has played and continues to play a
vital part in solidifying my relationship with God. Stronger in my
bond with God and understanding how and whys of why we do what we do
and who do we aim to please. I leave these words of Ephesians 3:20
“And God is able to make all grace [every favor and earthly blessing]
come to you in abundance, so that you may always and under all
circumstances and whatever the need be self-sufficient [possessing
enough to require no aid or support and furnished in abundance for
every good work and charitable donation].” [Amplified] Many
Blessings!!!


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Subject: Phase III Chapter 5 & 6
Date: 6/30/11 10:30:04 AM
From: "New York Youth Leaders Association"
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To: "New York Youth Leaders Association Level II" <new-york-youth-
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1. How do you influence through relationship
2. How do you influence through accountability