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pur-ee!mj
pur-ee!mj Nov 8 19:56:00 1982
I just wanted to put in my $0.02 worth about attractiveness.
I have noticed that a lot of people speak of attractiveness as if it
were a measurable quantity, like height, weight, sex ( m or f, or
frequency, as you wish), etc. I think this is a mistake. Personally,
it makes little difference to me if the woman I am attracted to is
'considered' beautiful by other people... After all, whose relationship is
it? My best friend and I are constantly at odds about a third of the
women we meet; it's that personal a thing!
I have also noted that attractiveness is relatively relative
(hmm...). This summer I had the unfortunate experience of getting
emotionally hung up on one of my best friends, but I was too scared
and shy to tell her about it. She is not stunning, but I noticed
that the more attached to her I became, the more attractive she looked.
That only made me more apprehensive, but, hey, we all have
our little problems. o.o
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Finally, I'd like to repeat something a friend of mine said
lately while I was verbally thrashing myself. She
said, "Do you think attractiveness makes that much of a difference?
Look at the group of all married people, and those who are single.
Can you honestly say one group is more attractive than the other?"
I see what she means. Of course, I'm not sure that the validity
of her statements may not depend on what you're looking for in a
relationship. Good looks are probably an asset when looking for a one-night
stand, but I am beginning to get the idea that the main difference is internal.
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Mark A. Johnson Purdue University decvax!pur-ee!mj
(317) 743-8443